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Tactics Tuesdays: Be Busy When with Women

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Busyness can be very attractive to women. But to make it so, you need two things: flirtation and instruction.

Women like busy men. They find them attractive. This is because women like capable men, and busyness implies capability. If you're busy, you must have it going on.

You can't fake busy. Or if you try to, it won't come off well. There's too much nuance to being truly busy to effectively fake it.

However, if you actually are busy, there's a right and a wrong way to use your busyness with women. Use it the wrong way, and women will assume you aren't interested. Use it right, and you can up your attractiveness while making women invest more in you (and commit to the courtship).

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



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Yeah girls always like a guy who is focused on things more than them.

I was curious about money and business Chase, just want your own personal opinion.

1. What would you do and recommend to do in this situation?

OK so the biggest problem that I had besides flakes with girls, is getting a job after I have to leave one.

and I'm not talking about some fancy professional job, I'm talking about retail, yes I have had problems even getting retail jobs.

So basically as long as I have been dealing with my sticking point with flakes, I have with getting a job soon after leaving another one or even looking for one while I had one.

It would take me almost a year to find a job after I left one.

During that time I have spent all my saved money on bills and have had to live off credit.

Happened multiple times.

So I am in big debt because of this.

So I did a lot to try to get some work.

A. I used a network with people who had extreme pull with jobs, couldn't get anything.

B. Bought big interview and studied it.

C. Read about the company and what I can do for it to make it better, etc.

D. Apply to many jobs every week for months.

So despite my efforts, I could never land anything soon and at all and would get lucky to get a job at the end of the year.

I think you would say skill building like coding will help, but what about in the mean time with bills?

like I have a hard time getting retail jobs.

in my interviews I make sure I'm calm with everything, I make sure to talk clear and intelligent. I feel I'm doing everything very well etc.

But anyway, I don't want this to ever happen again, what would you do if you were in that situation and how would you make sure you kept a job or made money somehow no matter what?

2. What kind of unprofessional jobs do you think are best when you want to do well with women and are working on other things? I don't want to look low status, there has to be jobs out there that one could get that won't look too bad if you're only there for a little while.

I feel you might say bartender or bouncer, but I know with those you need skill, which takes time.

I'm just curious if there's any jobs that aren't embarrassing to work at and I won't feel bad about working them just to pay bills.

3. I really want to find a way to make income on my own, thinking of working in a cubicle for 30-40 years waking up early does not sound ideal for me, and I especially don't want to do this as an older man.

I want a business, but I know it's not easy, but I'd like to know what would be the easiest kinds of business to start on?

I don't need to make crazy money, I just want something I can work on now and have it make me feel alive without too much start up or even no cost.

Just something to get my feet wet and use to winning.

Making money on your own just feels so much cooler even if it's not a whole lot.

so yeah, if you have any ideas of easier online businesses or side hustles please let me know.

I remember a while ago you said something about you taught girlfriends lock and key?

How do you do that and do you have any other easier online businesses to start?

Thanks Chase!!

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Not sure why you weren't on state unemployment after you left your old job?

When work laid me off, I drastically cut my expenses: moved into a tiny room in a bad part of town, sold most of my things, quit spending money on restaurants and a lot less at bars. Didn't hurt me any with picking up girls and I was actually able to save more money than when employed and living a more expensive lifestyle.

Take advantage of the social safety nets. You're paying taxes into them when you're employed. Might as well get paid back out of them when not.

I list out a bunch of non-office jobs good for meeting women here: Top 7 Easiest Ways to Get Laid & Raise Your Notch Count. Most take a little skill and training, but that's life; people pay you for what you know or what you can do. If you don't know/can't do anything, either you will need to learn, or it's shopping cart pusher/Starbucks barista/warehouse restocker/farmhand. And those aren't sexy.

There is no "easy to start business you can quickly make good money at", because if there was a bunch of people would rush into it, push the competition way up, and make it harder to make money in it or suck up all the positions in it, and it wouldn't be available any longer.

Well, correction: there probably are such businesses like this. They tend to only be opportunities for a 1-3 year interval. I'm not very plugged into the "what's hot right now" side of business though, so I'm not the one to ask (I couldn't tell you). Even then, it's not going to be easy to set up, even if it's making a lot of money. There is no business that's easy to set up and run other than a lemonade stand. That's why the normal advice is "Find someone who's doing what you want to do, get a job working for him, learn the business, then go off to start your own later or take skills and ideas from that to start something different."


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