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The Real Reason Many Men Can't Get a Girl

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can't get a girlWhy is it that most men can't seem to get what they want with women? How come so many men can't get a girl?

A few months back, a friend of mine asked me to author a post on leading women. I put it off for a while, because it's not as sexy a topic as, say, opening or locking in or overcoming objections or dating. Leading's just... a little vague, as far as topics go.

Yes, it's good to be an alpha male, and it's good to have a set process you follow, and to move on fast if a girl isn't following along. But how's that all come into play in a cohesive strategy for getting success with women?

If you'd like to achieve anything resembling consistent, reliable success with women, you're quickly going to realize that leaving things purely up to chance isn't going to cut it. "God helps those who help themselves," goes the saying -- which, boiled down, quite basically means that good things come to the people who go out and actively bring good things into their lives.

In other words, success comes to those who engineer that success.

But still, most folks don't bother engineering anything approximating success. Most average folks sit around waiting for success to find them. And it never does.

For success with women to start occuring for a guy, that has to change for him. So what's it take to advance an average man who can't get a girl into a man who consistently can?

Well, among other things, it takes this: he's got to be leading women.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



21guns's picture

Our education and our culture isn't designed to pursue what we want its mostly designed to make us good consumers, our educational systems in the west is designed to create obedient factory workers not leaders and mainstream culture is about consumerism so no wonder men can't lead anymore.

The Very Sad Thing Is's picture

Well it is real fact that most of the women nowadays like sleeping around with all different men all the time instead of just committing to Only One Man which is very difficult for them to do now. With most women being so very unfaithful today which makes it very hard for many of us good innocent men to get a girlfriend now because of how very Horrible women have become over these years which certainly speaks for itself. And God forbid for many of us men trying to start a conversation with a woman that we would really like too meet which certainly has become very dangerous today as well since they will be very nasty to us and walk away as if nothing never happened. I can't understand how very rotten women can be these days compared to the old days when most of the women back then were certainly Real Ladies with a very great personality and much better manors as well. It is very obvious why it was so much Easier meeting women years ago for the men in those days that were really born at such a much better time the way that our family members had it as well since they really had no trouble at all finding Real True Love with one another. Certainly a much better time in those days when Most of the women were raised very well by very good parents that taught them the right way which today their parents are very Pathetic just like they're as well. And unfortunately with all of these reality shows that they have on TV now as well as social media has certainly destroyed their brain cells altogether now adding to the problem.

Agni's picture

Hey Chase! Being a girl I'm not exactly your target audience, but I wanted to commend you on your advice. You clearly focus on getting good results, but you talk about women like we're people, not dogs or objects. I respect that.

MIke's picture

I have discovered the TRUE secret of dating, the problem with most problems is that people look for complex answers to things that are simple - they want it to be complicated, when it doesn't need to be

Trust me - I KNOW what I am talking about, if you know how a woman's mind works

Dating women is so very simple.....Its called "Natural Selection", nothing more complicated

God designed the female of the species breed children, to seek out the strongest and most attractive of the species to insure that the offspring will survive, i.e. carry forward the best traits - that is why the beautiful plumage in some male species such as birds, they use this to attract the female

The exact same method is used by the female of the human species, she seeks out the strongest and most attractive of the males to insure the children will carry forward those traits to survive, i.e. women are only interested in looks

Often - I go into WinCo foods, walk up to the deli dept - there are 4-5 people behind the counter, working - running back and forth, waiting on people - so many many times, when they are done helping those people and its MY turn, the workers just go back to working and completely ignore me, one time waiting in line at a restaurant - they served everyone behind me, and everyone in front of me - and completely ignored me - even my friend was mystified, why - I KNOW why, I am not Tom Cruise

Women often say "Oh looks don't matter" when they are dating men, but I have talked to 1000s of them over the last 25yrs - and time and time ago, our conversations over the phone/email/chat go great - we laugh, and joke around - and have a great time, but as soon as I email her my picture, I immed get dial-tone; now I am 6ft-4in tall - and "average" looking, I don't frighten small children nor work as a "monster" in horror movies, I am just average looking - but time and time again, I have gone out on dates - and they don't show up, or they take one look at me - and run the other way..why, I am not "Tom Cruise"

Women don't care about personality, or intelligence - they just care about appearances, and to prove this point - go into a store and look at items that women buy, see how they are packaged in very pretty packages, you don't see Wards putting socket-wrenches into pretty packages - no, they just say 1/4-inch x 8-point drive, and the price

Trust me - I know what I am talking about, Women *ARE* only interested in looks

I will never know what it is like to bear a child, just as you will never know what it feels like to be kicked in the balls (literally); or experience how women treat men - they are just 'play things' for their amusement; they all expect all men to look like Bruce Willis or Tom Cruise

Marko's picture

Well if women were really like the old days, then many of us men would've been all settled down already with no problem at all.

Qe's picture

As others have said..Interesting thoughts. No doubt providing leadership is important not just in pulling chicks...but more importantly in your life in general including providing leadership to yourself.

This is something unfortunately a lot of women lack ( any surprise we don't see many in the boardroom )'s true that women want to be led. 

Usually, they are also not very picky (especially the older ones), but do want an assertive and confident man or at least give that impression.

Actually,  provide leadership to yourself and for yourself as a priority..and watch how you then become much more attractive to those around you. 

Of course all of this is easy to say (as is the article)...the difficult is in executing it . 



al's picture

 Some men do not fit into the dating scene, the bar scene has pretty much been replaced by the Jersey shore.

 Girlfriends usually are very bratty and they want you to sulk with them, sometimes they have mood swings and if you ignore them they will take your energy and use it against you.

 It is a pain in the ass to even date. It is best to stay single, don't watch internet porn because that will make you think you can get women but then you will realize you are just weird.


 People suck.

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