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Tactics Tuesdays: The 'Too Distracted' Opener

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too distracted by you opener
A simple, fun, direct opener to use on girls who are stationary and alone. "I'm too distracted by you" puts the blame on HER for being too cute.

This is a little gem from the old mASF seduction forums (credit: Lifeguard).

It goes like this: you're out somewhere and see a pretty girl, so you approach, give your name, tell her she distracted you with her cuteness, and ask her name.


You're in the café and see a girl. You approach her and tell her, "Hi, I'm Lucas. I was sitting over there trying to read my book but I am too distracted by how cute you are. What's your name?"

This opener combines direct with situational relevance, so it's to-the-point but still grounded.

It's also versatile (useful in a lot of different situations), as we'll see just below.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



SZ's picture

Hey Chase,

1. Super random questions, but how do you protect yourself from skin stds? Like herp, etc?

Would divine 9 still work against skin stds if you put it all over your genitals hours before or does it have to be right then and there before sex?

Let's say you get a chick from the club and you're about to have sex with her and you have no bottle of lube, but you put lube on prior to your outing, will it protect you?

How can we stay safe against those types of skin stds if we're sleeping with many women and can't always carry about divine 9?


2. How should you treat app girls? Should you really not take them serious at all? Should you just be straight up and tell her you just want sex?

3. I know you say to not use apps much, but what if you cold approach and a girl happens to use an app after you ask or something? Is she still in that category of app girls and should we just leave her alone? Or is it different because she was a cold approach pull in the real world? 

4. If going for a relationship should we ask girls if they ever used apps before? And if they say yes, do we not date them?


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1. Std protection advice is all in this article https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-avoid-stds-even-if-you-have-lots-sex

I wouldn't put lube on before you go out(lol). After it dries up it might make chaff in your pants. Maybe keep a very small bottle in your pocket(like a hand santizer bottle, the extreme small pocket sized ones) that you can use in the heat of the moment. Most people wont know it is lube if they see you with it out and think it is just sanitizer. Any other quetions about stds are in the article I linked.

2.) Treat app girsl the same as you use tinder. There are tinder articles you can search on here to know what I am talking about.

3.) Using apps is fine.Only use them to escalate to casual meet ups and so on. Don't let them distract you and drag you into huge meandering text conversations as that isn't what you want. Anything to do with phones and texting is pretty much how you should treat apps as they basically interact the same. Look up texting and text flirting on this site to get more info. This should be a good start.


4.) If she is interested in them she will ask you if you have as she will want to interact with you more so you don't have to ask her. The reason why Chase says not to use them so much is because they are basically a distraction and takes away time from more important things. They are useful for keeping in contact with a girl so you guys eventually meet up but conversations in person go much smoother and are more fun so that is where you should use your energy.

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Hey Chase. So this article is on the line opener "I'm too distracted by you." I remember years ago there was an article exclusively on the line "Don't you just hate it when ____." A whole article on using that line. There might have been a few like that in between, on just a line.

By the way Chase I want to announce some updates in my life. I recently got a lot more female friends on Facebook (as well as guys), and therefore people of both genders viewing my profiles. It happened because I got in a new environment. And that environment is... Facebook groupchat. So I have some good and bad news.

I recently got added in a large Facebook group chat full of high schoolers. I'm the oldest 1 there, and I'm the only White guy there. Mostly Mexicans, and a few others. I got put in there because of my gang knowledge, for the city I live in. Whenever there's talk about gangs and crime I fit in. But whenever they talk about other things like rap music or drugs, I don't participate. So yes, we got high schoolers who take pics of themselves with drugs, including holding guns.

I will briefly cover some of the bad news without going into details, which is yes on the males, I am not all liked by all of them. A lot of them assume I'm into the ass, rather than the boobs, and a lot of them also assume I'm an aesthetic guy (when I'm visual). So, if I posted pics of girls in bikinis, some will make fun of me (due to my age), but they don't do it when other guys do it.

But being in this groupchat for several months means my Facebook friend count went up quite a bit, including women, and sometimes women will say something to me in the groupchat which implies they want me to add them, or msg them. But point is, these things could not have happened if they were not in that groupchat with me. Women who come across my Facebook generally don't msg or add me, but it's different with being in a same groupchat with them.

Here's a spitting game story. I'm not the type that likes to be the 1st to msg girls, or add girls, if I find a girl's profile is such that you don't have to be on her friend list to post comments/pictures, I go ahead and do it. I once found a girl's profile and did just that, post funny images. 2nd strike, she deleted. 3rd trike, she blocks me. Well months later, she ends up into that groupchat. Even though she has me blocked, we can still see each other's texts. I decided to try to experiment spitting game in that groupchat to see what happens, and within 2 or 3 days, she unblocks me. Weeks later she eventually adds me.

1 of the funniest things I do... which will piss the guys off, is post pictures of naked men, usually with some genitals covered. But I only try to do that when I know women will see it. Anyways, this girl eventually added me as a friend and later she started her own private groupchat and picked me and 2 other guys from that gc: 2 males that were both 17 and virgin, and then me a virgin at 31. And she uses it to talk about her guy problems. She's the only girl that openly talks about her 1st and 2nd bf, how they met, and later how she lost her virginity story.

So now, I often meet new girls on Facebook when new girls are added to that groupchat, but anyways, that's my update for now.


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