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12 Limiting Beliefs Men Have About Women

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If you have one of these beliefs about women, it's holding you back... and you probably don't even realize it.

Each man sees the world in a different way.

Some of the differences between how one man sees the world and how the next one does are slight. Other differences, though, are extreme.

If a man holds the right beliefs, he unshackles himself to achieve success beyond his most fantastic hopes and dreams. If he holds beliefs that limit him though, he may stumble into great ravines on the road to wish fulfillment... or he may chain himself fast, so that he never starts on the road to fulfillment at all.

There are four types of limiting beliefs men hold:

  1. Inaccessibility ("I can't get/have what I want")

  2. Over-accessibility ("I can have that whenever I want")

  3. Transience ("Once I have it, I'm destined to lose it")

  4. Permanence ("Once I have it, or someone else does, it's forever")

Those beliefs boil down into two dimensions: one of accessibility, and the other of transience/permanence.

The most accurate belief sets abandoned these extremes. Men who succeed most stop thinking about the world in terms of the blacks and whites of beliefs like these, and view it as a vast world of gray -- a promising world of gray, with boundaries and limitations, but where most things are achievable, though not always easy.

Today we're going to talk about 12 common limiting beliefs men have about women and dating. Hang onto these beliefs, you'll make costly mistakes, or never get far with women at all. Wouldn't it be neat though, to be free of these beliefs -- and free to meet the women you want, date them how you want, and get success with them that seems out of reach to most other men?

The best way to overturn limiting beliefs is through action, because action is where you put your beliefs to the test -- and find out which hold up, and which do not. We'll talk about this below too.

We'll begin with one of the most common limiting beliefs: that girls like that are simply too hot for you.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



drklas's picture

Hey Chase,
Thanks for the article — very in-depth as always.
Now, I have this limiting belief “When I’m broke, I can’t get a girl”. Since you haven’t really written an article on how to get a girl when broke can you please address this issue.

I find that I’m usually depressed when I’m broke and I just close off — or reject myself even if a girl likes me. But when I’ve got cash, I do a whole lot better. Is it a matter of self-esteem?

I don’t know why this is or what to do to prevent this. Should I just tell girls “Hey, I’m having a hard time at the moment” or “I’m broke, I can’t do X”.

What should be our response and behavior towards women when we are broke? I think a lot of guys will appreciate this.


Chase Amante's picture

Dr. Klas-

Here it is:

How to Pick Up Girls When You're Broke

May it help you have a Happy 2019 ;)


SZ's picture

A few of these seem more negative than a limiting belief to me and they seem to focus on relationships too. I thought the whole list would be mostly guys trying to approach women than guys having negative thoughts about women.

What confuses me is how a negative thought is a limiting belief?  I mean I guess a guy is limiting himself to trust girls and not want relationships with them ?

Is that the limiting belief? What do men get out of trusting women? And not thinking they are whores?

I know not a lot are, but a majority are. I just want to know for the relationship limited beliefs, what happens if we believe our girl is a good girl or there all not hoes? What is the benefit of that ?

I'm not talking about the paranoid guy, I'm talking about the guy in the back of his head knows all women are capable of doing bullshit behind your back.

You don't have to be paranoid about it, but you just know not to put your trust on women like that. I feel all men would be more happy to not trust women at all.

But yeah, I'm just confused on how some of the relationship ones limit anything? Is the man limiting his relationship with his woman?  


Mickey's picture

Chase: I admit we've had our differences in the past, but I must also admit that this was quite a compelling read. Good job!

Kall's picture

Moral of the story: don't use a dating app unless you have scathingly good looks...

These men are not operating in the real world. They're operating in a strange digital space with extremely warped rules where women have naught but looks and a few lines of text to go on, so all women are funneled into going for the same handful of men.

Come on man, think before you write something. Do you understand that social media and online dating are a part of life? The more women use it the less reliant they are on traditional forms of meeting.

Print newspapers are competing with online media, brick and mortar retailers are competing with ecommerce etc. "Strange digital space" is real world.

"...naught but looks and a few lines of text to go on..." This describes cold approach perfectly. When you cold approach a woman in person you only have your looks and a few sentences to go on.

The fact that you cold approach a woman in person as a non-good looking guy means nothing. If she's really attractive, she has good looking guys, celebrities hitting her up on social media and she will compare them to you. Behavioral studies show that women care about looks just as much as men, but they tend to lie and downplay the importance of looks when asked.

Social media is similar to urbanization in the sense that it provides people more opportunities for meeting others. The more opportunities women have, the more selective they are. This is why in cities you get metrosexuals. Social media gives women so many more opportunities for meeting others and through mass media they are constantly exposed to exceptional men. The end result is that they end up with unrealistic standards and desire most attractive men.


There was one article on this site where you stated that average men had more value in the past (before mass urbanization, mass media and social media) and that female liberation liberated women to chase after top guys. I think this was article about how women don't respect you when you approach, they don't take you seriously or something along those lines.



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