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How to Tell if a Girl is Horny Without Her Having to Tell You

Chase Amante

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how to tell if a girl is hornyOne of the things that it seems like a lot of guys have difficulty realizing is when women actually want them.

Chances are, you've heard some of the conventional ways on figuring out if a girl is horny. Some of them are:

  • Check her heart rate
  • Check her breathing rate -- the faster she's breathing, the more excited
  • Check her pupil dilation
  • Check her vaginal dilation or how lubricated she is... down there

Great stuff if you're an M.D. And you've got your stethoscope handy (or a pair of rubber gloves).

But how do you figure that out when you're standing across the room from a girl, or you're deep in conversation with her? Not exactly the right time for a lubrication check.

One of the most underrated skills for the man interested in getting together with women is the ability to quickly identify the women who are looking for the same thing that he is. This is a skill called "targeting," and it's one I've put a fair amount of work into cultivating in myself.

One of the most important aspects of targeting, it turns out, is figuring out how to tell if a girl is horny.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



Dino's picture

If a girl asks me if I'm doing anything interesting this weekend, does it mean she wants me to ask her out?

If (hot) married women are always telling me all about their husbands, what does it mean?

Able's picture

Chase, you do a very good job at explaining how things work and why they work but one thing I'm trying to figure out is how do you invite her back to your place when everything is moving along. You've mention numerous times that you have to move her or move faster but never quite explain how to do it.

For example, if I'm meet a girl going out at night and things are going well and I know she is horny and ready. Do I just simply say "hey, do you want to get out of here?" because most of the time, the response will be like, I can't leave my friend or some bullshit excuse. Because I've been in many situations which you've mentioned above with a girl but unable to pull her away. Do you just directly tell her what you're intentions are and ask her to leave with you or do you say something else indirect. I just want to know what to say.


not_my_name's picture

Hi. Came across this blog. Currently hooking up with a chick exactly like this. I guess, I've been out of the dating game awhile simple due to insecuritys and I'm an introvert. Reading this post made a light go off in my head. I'm a very calm, cool guy, but when a girl gets mean with me or makes fun of me. I take it highly personal and just can't deal with her anymore. No one likes to be made fun of. Maybe it's my personality but confrontation isn't my thing.
I suppose I just want a girl to fall in love with me without any games. But I'm trying to remember we are animals. And animals play games to find the right mate. For so long I've been a wet noodle. Maybe ill make the changes that this blog taught me about.
All my friends are with someone ,always asking me if I have a girlfriend yet....always say no .
Are you describing here a one night stand or how to get into a relationship???
This girl ,I've been hooking up with, it's been three dates she shows me a large amount of affection. But my own insecuritys keep me from trusting this fling we have. How do I ask if she's just into sex ? Or do you want something more....being she's not like the type of girls I usually hook up..(she's super gorgeous) so our first sexual experience I may have came up premature if u know what I mean. But she wants more.
I'm away at work right now, and can't see her. I'm afraid a girl this horny will look elsewhere especially since we aren't anything official.... Anyways this is more me venting. I'm at a loss .
I haven't a girlfriend in over 7 years...Anyways....anyone listening ?

Cy's picture

Interesting article.

I partly believe this is wrong however - it should depend on the person.
There have definitely been times when I've been subconsciously horny (not directly aware of it) and have acted a little mean or perhaps bitchy.

However it has been mentioned that if a girl wants something - sex - they're probably going to make it obvious to you.
If they want it that badly it will be more obvious and direct, but otherwise I think women may resort to more subtle hints to seem less forward.

So consider the person that you're dealing with first; don't just automatically assume that because a woman is being mean or 'bitchy' she wants sex. We have feelings too, and it could simply be us telling you we don't like you.

But again, it depends on the person. On the other hand, they may be a little sexually frustrated and just not fully aware of it..... :)

Harold Mandingo's picture

The article is lovely I'm a new to this so I will practice and look for these traits and behavior and work around it. Thanks for the knowledge.

cube notes's picture

Why? Why didn't I read this 3 months ago. I was attending a wedding as one of the groomsmen. I was attracted to one of the maids. She was nice initially but turned mean and wicked later. she was just flat out rude. She even said "these guys dont know how to talk to women". I blew it. Only to find out she really liked me. it still hurts

Lynn's picture

Lol. Interesting read although I find it to be a fairly inaccurate justification. I'm female and never got along with women very well because most of them were always rather bitchy and bitter towards me. I don't think it had anything to do with sex.

I'm very sexually active and want sex a lot but I'm neither a lioness or a kitten. Lol. I'm playfully mean to all my friends and I'm just naturally flirtatious with everyone. I can do without sex just fine for the longest periods. Yet, I'm also good with sex 3-5 times a day with my bf if he wants. Don't seem to fall into any category. Also, I'm a researcher and I don't think that being horny leads to being mean. Just because there is a correlation, it does not imply causation.

www.michael93's picture

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