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5 Essential Insights on How to Meet Girls in Groups

how to meet girls in groupsA buddy of mine recently asked me to write on how to meet girls in groups, as it's something I don't talk about a great deal on here. The most I've touched on the topic before has been in "Breaking Circle," the post on maintaining attraction despite distractions around you or even other people trying interrupt you.

But, as my friend noted, I haven't gotten a proper treatment on meeting women in groups up yet, so this is it.

Meeting girls in groups is one of those things that, assuming you're doing much nighttime approaching, you're going to run into reasonably regularly. In fact, it may very well be the meat and potatoes of your approaches -- you might just find yourself in groups most of the time.

Groups aren't ideal, of course. Things tend to move faster and more smoothly the majority of the time when it's just you and your girl, and there are no interruptions or distractions to knock the two of you off course.

However, when handled appropriately, any negatives of groups can usually be negated, and in fact you can sometimes even get groups working for you with the women you meet. So it doesn't always have to be unfortunate that that pretty girl you like is in the middle of a group -- sometimes groups make it even easier for the two of you to get together.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.


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jimmy's picture

Hey chase, i found this interesting- "Hey man, we're going to go grab a seat over there. Didn't want you wondering where we disappeared to." -How often do you let the members of the group know you are going somewhere else with the girl? And do you ever just not say anything to the group and leave with the girl?

Chase Amante's picture

Hey Jimmy-

This is one of those "it depends" type of situations.

If I've interacted with the group a little, and especially if I have a bit of a connection with one or more of the members, I'll just about always let them know we're heading off for a moment. Just as common courtesy, and it seems to me that most folks appreciate it and are less likely to block you later and more likely to jump on your side. It also prevents them getting surprised and asking you where you're going if you start leaving unannounced.

On the other hand, if I've only talked to the girl and not to the group (or very little to the group), I won't address them / update them at all, and instead will just leave with the girl. In that instance, it's because I'm wary of seeming like I'm trying to force the connection or be over-nice or seek permission by letting them know.

So I'd say:

  • If we have a connection, I'll let them know as a courtesy and as a sign of social grace, but
  • If we don't have a connection and have spoken little, I won't.

Just how I run things, anyway ;)


jimmy's picture

Ok thanks Chase! makes perfect sense!

Downdiggity's picture

Thanks Chase, this is great stuff. It makes so much sense. Way too many times I have opened a group by addressing the whole group. Then I let my attention drift from the girl I'm interested in. And it NEVER works. Definitely a case of overthinking / working too hard.

I can't wait to try this out.

Aaron Guenther's picture

Last night there was this girl I knew, I wanted to potentially try and move things forward with her but she was with a group of her friends. How can you move faster and get a girl whom you already know but is with her friends?

Javier's picture

Hey Chase!
I have read a lot of your articles and I found them great because I do a lot of things like you, but I still need to improve in some areas e.g be a better closer I miss a lot of my chances..some days/night I'm great others I suck.

But there are some points where I'm not agree, but yeah its different from person to person.

I would say the approach group can be done in different ways. I have try kind of different approaches to a group, with a good succes.
I would say that you could opening the group with a bit funny approach, as long you do it with class, and then go for the girl. But I'm agree as long you dont like the "entertainer "

Ps. Sry for my english grammar
Kind regards from Denmark, ps. here the girls can take the lead :)

Hack's picture

Hey Chase,

I was just curious about how you would open a group of girls (say, 3 girls standing in a music shop at the mall). Would you use a direct opener for the girl you're interested in or would the social pressure be too high for a girl surrounded by her friends to accept you hitting on her? Girls are way more likely to try and preserve social status around their friends, so how would you disarm this?


Beth's picture

Hey, thanks for the article, I think the I definetly would use your method rather than group theory, but what if the person you want is the one leading the group in conversation?

Jake's picture

I run into girls that are with one other girl quite often. I feel like I'm missing out on some opportunities to learn my pickup by letting these girls get away. I love the idea of going up to the girl you like in a group and talking to her. That makes the most sense. But what do you do if there are only two people present? Won't the other person feel alienated and angry and try to pull her away from me?

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