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Tactics Tuesdays: Girls You Don't Touch

Chase Amante

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girls you don't touch
Usually you want to touch the girls you like. But not always. Advanced daters can use the ‘no-touch’ technique to ramp things up with harder-to-get girls.

Usually, the other writers here and I will tell you to touch women early and touch them often.

Touch is good. It lets her see you are not a timid man, unafraid to contact her. It helps you stand out from most of the men she meets, who either don’t touch her or don’t know how to touch her (i.e., they touch her in half-hearted or awkward ways).

When you start out, you will want to touch any woman you talk with, to get comfortable with touch, and in general to help you build the sexual tension you will have difficulty building with vibe alone as a beginner.

However, sometimes (particularly for non-beginners) it works better if you don’t touch. Today’s article will be about that.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.

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Sz's picture

1. I was wondering, what makes us better than the naturals who end up on the bad side of game?

There's many men who slept with many women who have became domesticated by their woman. Also these men have slept with many women, but are older and are not sleeping with young fine women or keeping harems.

Many guys have said once they hit 30 they can't get a women with no kids and are attractive, they said only when they were young it was possible, and that you should settle down with the first reasonable girl asap.

I get confused because these men have claimed to sleep with a lot of women, but they just can't get women any more.

So if these naturals can't do it, what is the advantage that we have ?

I hope you know what I mean, what makes us different than them? How do we not end up in the sad fate that these guys end up in that are naturals?

2. I've been having major doubts and insecurities. I've been going out to many clubs and bars and I don't see many women at all. Just one or two who are attractive enough, but what sucks with them is that they are very unapproach able and stay on their phones in their big groups, and it sucks is that if you don't get her, that's it.

That sucks, I'm running out of ideas on how I can get women.

The clubs used to be ok, now they're filled with men and maybe a few girls, I've went to at least 6 different venues.

I'm getting these deep bad thoughts that maybe I should quit and settle down. I really don't want to, I have just been discouraged a lot lately. I'm starting to feel deep down that maybe I should give up because I'm too old now.

I feel like maybe I have to settle down and not sleeping with many women, I missed my chance and I'm being odd. I actually feel wrong for wanting to sleep with many women because my mind tells me im suppose to settle down like other people I know . My mind tells me instead of chasing skirts to use that time to focus on building my body or business, something a grown up would do. Only young guys chase skirts or guys who are having a mid life crisis.

Idk I just feel weird and now when I'm going out and making moves there's no women out now. I don't want to quit, but the thoughts come in. I want to ignore them and keep pushing.

What can I do to get rid of these negative thoughts of quitting? I want to let my mind know that it's ok to continue to sleep with many women.

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SZ-

I was wondering, what makes us better than the naturals who end up on the bad side of game?

...

I get confused because these men have claimed to sleep with a lot of women, but they just can't get women any more.

So if these naturals can't do it, what is the advantage that we have ?

Yeah, that's an interesting question. I have noticed that happens with some guys. Usually these are guys who use very pop culture-dependent approaches to seduction, or pursue very era-specific ways to meet girls. e.g., they met girls at certain types of hangout spots that are not used to meet women at anymore. When the culture changes, the method they'd figured out to bed women disappears, and they no longer have an angle.

The clubs used to be ok, now they're filled with men and maybe a few girls, I've went to at least 6 different venues.

Three options:

  1. Change your location - move somewhere with better bars/clubs
  2. Change your strategy - switch to day game, or get a job around hot girls, etc.
  3. Change your objective - transition to "I will find a great girlfriend" or something like that

I'm getting these deep bad thoughts that maybe I should quit and settle down. I really don't want to, I have just been discouraged a lot lately. I'm starting to feel deep down that maybe I should give up because I'm too old now.

It is a natural response to environment + outcomes. If your environment seems to present few opportunities, and your efforts within your environment produce few good outcomes, you will shift into settle down mode (there are other reasons to shift into that mode, but that's your reason).

If you don't like those thoughts, change something (like city you live in, or where you meet girls).

Chase

nayradrecal's picture

This is such a powerful move. Thank you so much for elaborating and explaining the entire process as well as referencing how they affect value and attainability. One of my friends who has bedded over 60 chicks at just 21 years old is the master of no touch. This is pure gold. You seriously won’t find an article like this anywhere else in pick up. Thanks Chase!!!

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Cheers, Cupid!

Was a challenging subject to write on. Too easy to make it sound like you're giving guys a pass not to touch, or to lead guys into waiting too long to touch.

Chase

Lawliet's picture

Thank you Chase!

Yes!!! This is awe-striking information for those girls I had trouble with!
Now if only we can also figure out alternative ways to deal with those girls who meh all the guys one after another away in night venues! Times when we mock them by exaggerating their expressions works great, but how do we continue? I remember reading the first part from your article somewhere.

Re: Classrooms
Girl I chatted with before, who seem somewhat open to chatting (wasn't totally hooked), saw me chatting with another girl in class. I didn't even know she was also in that class!

And then, she just ignores me. I talk with the group and she doesn't look or pay attention to me.
Auto rejection I guess?

How do we fix situations like these?

I hate classroom dating...
not to mention if it goes bad, you'll still see her around.

And it's ONE out of 300... Choose one girl, the rest go auto rejection...
not to mention how unlikely to find that one again in the cluster-filled classroom every single week unless we text each other and arrange to sit together...issue is, "need to slow game, not 3rd encounter yet, did not ask her out or got number yet". so we are screwed!

Which is why the girl and I tried to bump into each other for four months last semester...
Times when she's ready for me to go, I had to rush for errands and when I'm ready and on time, she skips class!
Frustrating...

These hanging fruits....

Re: Cleaning shoes
I was waiting to ask Darius this question since he does fashion primarily but he went inactive on this site.
What are your tips for doing this, Chase?

From what I've found so far:
I'm guessing cleaning synthetic leather and real leather require different methods?
I tried using rubbing alcohol and I think some color went off the synthetic leather....sad...
And shoe polish won't work with synthetic from what I've heard.

Please advise

Re: Your business journey!
I know this site isn't for this, but please tell me your story from still being in college to giving different attempts to starting businesses and then finally having few businesses!

I'm trying to go on this venture myself.
Would love some guidance.
But also would love more to hear about how you got to where you are today!
And I want every juicy spicy detail amigo :)
You are undoubtedly one of the exemplars I model after with my deepest respect.

I gave it some thought.
And from my analysis, I realize there are a few basic structures for businesses out there:

1. Supplying goods
2. Supplying a service

And for goods, we have to achieve low cost, to make money off our products.
Either we
A. Get it from somewhere cheap
B. Get it for free (ex. creativity, DIY, make it from trash that people don't keep etc.)

A is what many supermarkets do.
They have resources if they're affiliates and they resell products to others at a higher price.
They buy in bulk so they get it at a lower price.

And that's where I have an idea for something that will be a hit!
I just need to figure out the logistics...

If you don't mind, please email me because I do have an interesting idea that I don't want to leak out in public just yet...that I would love to hear your thoughts on. And also to hear your story that comments alone can't give the same presentation it deserves (aka more room)! :)

Anyway, would love to hear your thoughts and your story in whichever way you prefer.

Let me know what you think.

Your pupil (eye am your pupil...bad pun XD),
Lawliet

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Lawliet-

Re: girls who brush off all comers... you are probably thinking of this article:

This one might also be of use:

And then, she just ignores me. I talk with the group and she doesn't look or pay attention to me.
Auto rejection I guess?

How do we fix situations like these?

Sounds like it.

Give the article on turnarounds another read. I list three different approaches to it in there:

From what I've found so far:
I'm guessing cleaning synthetic leather and real leather require different methods?
I tried using rubbing alcohol and I think some color went off the synthetic leather....sad...
And shoe polish won't work with synthetic from what I've heard.

Haven't had synthetic leather shoes. Only real. And for those, I will only clean-clean if they get muddy. In that case, get a napkin and wipe the mud off. Or if super dirty or dusty, use a wet rag or a wipe. Then, shoe polish. Shoe polish makes it all better.

Synthetic leather... you'll have to search online for that one!

I know this site isn't for this, but please tell me your story from still being in college to giving different attempts to starting businesses and then finally having few businesses!

I linked up a podcast I did on entrepreneurship over on the discussion boards. Maybe give that a listen... I discuss a lot of my business journey there.

Chase

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