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Girls Who Seek Attention, Part II: How to Pick Them Up

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Just because she’s a flighty, flirty attention seeker doesn’t mean she can’t be gotten. You just need to switch up your approach to get her a bit.

Welcome back, guys. This is a follow up to last week’s post where we covered the psychology and the underlying factors of female attention-seeking behavior. Part 1 covered all the whys, and is therefore recommended reading before this article. This post will be less theoretical and more practical, covering how to deal with female attention seekers – and actually manage to bed them. So this is a more technical post.

Fun fact: October and September have been months where I have encountered this type of girl in clubs and managed to successfully bed them.

  • I have had 2 recent cases where the strategies covered in this post were implemented. In those cases, I managed to smoothly and successfully bang both girls.

  • There was an additional case where I did not apply the strategies covered in this post. In fact, I tried doing something else. It did not work and I failed at pulling. So I’ll use this girl as a sort of “control group” in order to find correlations and identify the effects of the techniques presented here and how they help with attention seekers.

Now, I know some of you guys like to get outright scientific about stuff like this. And I realize that 3 cases may not be a very representative selection, sure. However, to my defense, I have had many similar experiences in the past (been doing this for 10 years) that more or less reflect the same pattern as what we’ll be discussing. This post is based on my overall observations, using those 3 cases to best exemplify the techniques, which seem to work out pretty fine if you ask me.

Without any further ado, let us get into it. The strategies presented in this post are inspired by the old-school seducer Swinggcat and his book Real World Seduction.

Alek RolstadAbout the Author: Alek Rolstad

Alek Rolstad launched his pickup career at age 14, an early starter and seduction savant. His unique style of game focuses on “sex talk”: a way to make sex the primary topic of conversation. Sex talk lets the user excite girls rapidly, and filter for girls open to fast, raunchy, kinky one-night stands and sex. You can learn from Alek, the master and originator of sex talk himself, by booking a 1-hour phone consultation with him.



Zack's picture

Hmm.. Alek, I was waiting for this article like rain in the desert, but now I’ve read it, I see there isn’t much for me here. The thing is, I am doing exactly what you are recommending here, but it never worked by now because, when I, say, act aloof, she acts like “that’s OK, I have millon other guys who will give me attention! Bye!” if there is a missing ingredient here... Might you have any guess?

Alek Rolstad's picture

Hey Zack. As I do not know much about specifics regarding your skillset and experiences, I just have to give you some general remarks.

It is key that in many cases, these techniques requires a minimum of attraction in order to work. If she is not at least a bit interested, she wouldn't care about you doing a take-away.

That being said, many attention seekers loves playing hard to get. In other words, they will act unaffected. It happened to me quite a lot in the past. Less now as my attraction game is way tigther , but still happens. What would i do? Ignore it and talk to some other chick. Eventually, when you communicate that you will not play a part in her silly game, she will come around (that is, if she was attracted in the first place).

Social proof can really swap things around though, by putting such a high prize on your head that attention seeker will flop around you and when they do, you may have enough baseline attraction to use the techniques covered in this post to their full extent. Same thing goes if you approach a chick and truly hook her with some tigth verbals.

The key is to have a baseline attraction - and that you need to generate. The higher the baseline attraction, the better these techniques will work. If too low, they may not work at all.

Of course tight fundamentals is a pre-requisite.

Hope this helps.


Zack's picture

Hi Alek, thank you for replaying, naturally fundamentals, social proof and attraction are prerequisites. However, I don’t think lack of those is the case here, the missing ingredient could be one of the three (or all of them):
1. I noticed girl very low on horniness and very high on AS wants to be seen you falling for her and being toyed and wraped around her finger in front of the others, which will give her validation. The minute you start appling proposed strategies, she feels she might loose her “bloody hard earned social status”, and you are under the bus a second later. The more people around her sees that, the better her status is restored.
2. When you apply the strategies, she does not know how to behave since you break her comfort zone - she has been leading guys on for so long it eventually became her world. She might be even hooked to it like being on drugs.
3. Since girls generally have low attention span, a guy applying strategies has very little “share” of that already short attention span since she is bombarded by attention of a legion of other weaker man who believe are getting somewhere with her, so you simply slip her mind 5 minutes later.

So, inferring from above three points, if you think of three elements which influence the interaction, you, the girl and the environment, the missing ingredient here is - environment. I.e., girl will be less AS and more herself when isolated and alone with you. Also, in terms of VAC system, lack of environment will increase her level of comfort and decrease her AS behaviour.

I would politely ask not to publish this insight because it seems to me still too broad to be simply aplicable. If you wish to reply, just use my email.


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