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In my previous post on why girls act bitchy we discussed how many beginners, and even more experienced players, often force themselves into consecutively approaching (groups of) girls without getting actual results.

Even more, by doing so they cause more harm than good to themselves, as constantly getting rejected without any success will have a negative impact on your confidence and can lead to some serious trauma. How can you get good if you are not enjoying yourself?

In that post, what I concluded was that, although at first doing some approaches to get used to it might be a good idea, overdoing it for many months is not. Instead, I vouched for you becoming more selective in your approaches. By this I meant that you approach girls or groups of girls who would most likely be receptive – or at least who seem more receptive – so that a higher percentage of your approaches lead to something more than just a rejection.

In this post we will further elaborate on this concept, though the main intention of today’s post is to introduce you to a technique for approaching women I use that is very efficient.

And the best part is: it is very easy to pull off; a seducer of any skill level can do it.

It is recommended, but not required, that you read my previous post. However, if you haven’t, don’t worry, as I will cover the major points in this one also.

Now, let us begin.

Wassup everybody,

This is my second entry into the three part series on The Best College Seduction Styles, a subset of my expansive College Game series.

If you read the first article of the series, detailing my particular style, “Big Man on Campus” (BMOC), and didn’t find its exuberance attractive, then perhaps Slowburn is for you.

If BMOC is Muay-Thai – aggressive and forward – then Slowburn is Ninjutsu – subtle, but deadly when executing precision strikes.

Note from Chase: Hector’s one of our senior discussion board members, and has posted a slew of often outrageous and always entertaining lay reports in the Field Reports Board, where he’s cleaned up with naughty coeds. Hector wanted to give back a bit, and so he’s sat down to put together a series of articles to teach you everything he knows about sleeping with women by the fistful in the hallowed halls of university. Take it away, Hector...

Greetings fellow studs in development…

I’m Hector. And I’m here to shed some light on pulling tail in college. But, first, a bit of background information, so you feel “connected” to me and all that.

Before finding Girls Chase I considered myself quite the ladies man and had crafted some decent natural game. But only a few years before that I didn’t even know what a vagina felt like. And boy was I curious. Unfortunately, I was a wallflower.

I sat silently and watched everyone else live seemingly exciting lives. A few times I tried to enter these social groups or cold approach girls, but I always hit walls of rejection. Truthfully, I wasn’t socially calibrated enough to scale those walls. But I resolved to grind past the pain, learn how to navigate the social milieu, and get me some of dat pussy.

If you’ve ever been tricked or convinced to do something against your original intentions, you’ve been on the receiving end of a failure to get buy in before an action.

When I was a teenager, my parents would always try and convince me and my brothers to get jobs. It’s quite funny that having them tell us to do this actually made us less likely to get jobs, because they were constantly on our backs about it.

They made it seem like it was something that we needed to do against our will. Thus, it was us against them; we had to give excuses as to why we couldn’t get the job, and skillfully dodge being told what to do.

Convincing people to do things isn’t as simple as telling them what to do.

If I could walk up to a woman and make the first thing out of my mouth be, “Come home with me,” and she immediately acquiesced and did, I wouldn’t be spending time with her creating an emotional connection, comfort, and sexual attraction. In fact, if I made this the first thing out of my mouth she would likely very heavily resist any intention of coming home with me, even if I was the sexiest man on the planet.

She would resist because I failed to get her to buy in to the idea of coming home with me. She had no say in the matter, and thus felt like she was being coerced into doing what I wanted, rather than doing something that was mutually beneficial.

Sleeping with each other requires the collective conscious of both parties involved. She’s not your slave, which makes it absolutely necessary that she is thought of as an equal in the mating game.

What’s the greatest single key to being able to converse with girls in a relaxed way, not put too much pressure on yourself, be sexual, and then pull them home?

It’s not looks. It’s not confidence. It’s not being well-dressed. These aspects are all important, however, the single greatest key to being able to converse with any girl is momentum.

You can take the most talented, socially suave guy in the world, and throw him in a social situation on an off day, and he’ll look like an awkward, uncalibrated beginner.

And every guy who gets consistent success with girls understands the principle of momentum. Especially because the high value men understand what it means to work extremely hard. When you spend all day on the grindstone – on your computer, on pieces of paper, on the phone… the last thing you feel like is a social dynamo when you step out of the door.

That’s why you need to learn to converse with anyone and everyone around you.

If you can learn how to start a conversation with anyone, you can learn how to get yourself warmed up and talking to the hottest girls in any situation. And it’s no pressure, it’s not like you’ll ever see these people again (or maybe if you make a good connection, you could).

Sounds easy, right? So why doesn’t every guy go and start a conversation with anyone and everyone?

This question is exactly what I’m going to address today, along with how you can overcome your own fear of strangers and use conversations with anyone in any situation to help boost your energy and get you ready to seduce the hottest of women.

Let’s go.

A good buddy of mine who I’ve recently taken under my wing has gotten into the swing of approaching women. Last week, he found himself going shopping for some sexy, stylish clothing, when he realized that the woman behind the counter was drop-dead gorgeous. Like most men, he smiled, took his purchase, and left.

Afterwards, he had one big question to ask me:

“How do I talk to her when she’s busy at work?”

This is a question that pops up quite frequently over at the Girls Chase forums as well. Most men take these women and assume that they are hands-off to being picked up. A woman at work simply isn’t a sex option in their minds, because they believe that she is too busy with another task. After all – she is working.

I’ve noticed as I’ve reviewed our discussion boards that lots of our posters are much more comfortable with meeting girls during the daytime, and find bars, nightclubs, and parties somewhat alien environments (although to be fair, there are also plenty of guys who are far more nighttime-oriented there as well).

When I stopped and thought about this, one of the things I realized was that when I first started hitting nightclubs, they were a pretty intimidating environment to experience:

• The loud, pounding, deafening music
• The big, imposing bouncers and other club patrons
• The flashy, intimidating-looking women
• The specter of approaching a girl only to meet her boyfriend’s fist
• The feeling that everyone else there belonged a lot more than you did
• The self-consciousness of knowing all these party people would see you get rejected if things didn’t go perfectly with a girl you went up to
  

Especially when you’re rolling solo, like I was most of the time early on, you feel like you stick out like a sore thumb, and make for an easy target for anyone looking for a fight and look like someone to be avoided for anyone trying to have a good time.

Everyone there who’s having fun – the people you want to be around... well, they don’t need you. You don’t even know how to break into the same category as them.

So this article’s going to serve as companion piece to my article on picking up girls in bars and clubs and your primer on how to be social: the 6 secrets every social man figures out sooner or later about how to work a venue, how to get comfortable in an intimidating environment like this, and how to set yourself up for more social (and sexual) success than you can shake a billy club at.