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Your initial approach: how you first start talking to that girl you really like.

Do Girls Always Know Your Intentions?

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Hey and welcome back.

After finishing my latest series on indirect game, I’ve decided to make a few more posts covering aspects of the topic that did not make it into my series or respond to questions and comments that I have seen in the comment sections.

Today I want to debunk the idea that women are always aware of your intentions, as if they were ultra-intuitive super-computers.

This flawed argument is often used as a sort of counterargument to indirect game.

The argument goes as follows:

“What’s the point of going indirect, if she knows that you are hitting on her anyway?”

Followed up with:

“So, you might as well be direct about your intentions.”

I see this argument often, and every time I read it my eyes hurt.

There are false beliefs involved in this line of thinking.

I always wonder how this idea first appeared.

It seems to be a form of projection of male thinking onto women (yes, we are wired differently). And yet I have no clear idea where such notions came from.

What I can say is that this line of reasoning is wrong:

  • The first dimension is that "women can sense what your true intentions are – they can sense you are hitting on them". This is false, although there are some nuances

  • Even if we were to assume the above is indeed correct (or that elements of it may at times be true), then it is still not a reason for going direct

So, on both levels, the whole argument is flawed, and this line of thought can be safely thrown into the wastebasket.

This is what this post is about, debunking this line of thought by discussing these two dimensions.

That One Special Girl

that one special girlA forum member spends over a year pining over a girl he likes yet never talks to. What can he finally do to get things moving?

I found an interesting post on Skilled Seducer, the Girls Chase forum.

If you’re not yet a member, it’s a great place to go for guidance, to make friends, or share what you’ve learned on your journey.

If you join, you might get personalized advice from guys like myself, Alex, Hector, or even Chase.

I'll use this post to highlight a ubiquitous and unfortunate problem for a great many men, who find themselves pining away, waiting in vain:

The problem of that one special girl.

Solving this problem means rescuing yourself from the chain of torture, paralysis, and perpetual waiting for things that never come to pass.

 

Tinder VS Cold Approach: How Do They Compare?

tinder vs cold approachDating apps are increasingly becoming the de facto way many people meet their mates. But how does online compare with real world approaching?

I have been an active seducer for the past decade, and a few weeks ago I decided to try my hand at Tinder for the first time.

Let me detail why I think this is not the best vehicle for securing sexual relationships with beautiful girls.

What to Tell a Girl to Get Her Interested in You

what to tell a girlToo many guys mass approach instead of learning how to immerse particular girls. Use these tools to captivate her from the start.

As a beginner talking to girls, it’s a frantic scramble between a solid cold approach that works and getting her to interact with you for longer than sixty seconds. Hooking her means being able to run solid seduction skills on her at a relaxed pace while avoiding the dreaded: “Well, nice to meet you!”

In this article, I'm going to go over the structure for avoiding that “sixty seconds and you’re out of here” style of game for beginners.

For intermediates, I’m going to simplify the structure for getting her initially misdirected and intrigued to compliant.

For advanced guys who haven’t figured out a way to do this consistently, I’ll provide a better option than the hit-or-miss structure you’ve been using.

Indirect Game, Pt 1: Interesting Her, Indirectly

indirect gameBy not immediately showing your sexual interest in a girl, Indirect Game allows you to appear mysterious and get her to chase.

Hey there.

Having pointed out many problems with direct game in my previous two articles, today I begin a series about what I consider to be the solution: indirect game.

I have read the comments to my three last articles (the two on direct, and the one on men's power in the dating game). While I am happy to see that this subject has engaged our readers, the fact that some have felt triggered hasn’t escaped my attention.

I attempted to deal with the comments and criticism from my first post on direct game in part two. Then, Chase responded to other remarks in his last post on “similarity of interest.”

I mostly agree with everything Chase mentioned in his post. Our thoughts are aligned on this subject. I will discuss similar subjects here, but we will look at them from a different perspective. This post (and my upcoming posts on indirect game) will be supplementing Chase’s post, which I recommend reading if you decide to follow this series.

If you are curious about how to run indirect game, this article and the following posts are for you. If you are a direct gamer who is curious about how indirect game is run, this is for you as well.

These posts will not only be theoretical; they will also serve as a good strategic template on how to get girls smoothly. It’s an overall game-plan.

10 Reasons You Procrastinate Going Out to Approach Women

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We’ve all heard of approach anxiety, but what about approach procrastination?

Approach procrastination is delaying, avoiding, or putting off the act of going out to practice approaching women.

Approach procrastinators say they want to learn pickup, but only get out on the weekend for a short day or night session, then go home to procrastinate for another week, or four.

These chronic approach procrastinators often hang out on forums, or WhatsApp groups, where they are eager to discuss and argue their seduction and self-improvement philosophies. I see them on the streets, or in the malls when I’m running bootcamps, walking in circles for hours, occasionally mustering the courage to do an approach. By that time, their busy wingmen have already tried ten or more times, and are ready to go home and play Xbox.

Because these men never put in the real effort required to meet available and eager women, they become discouraged, which further disincentivizes them to try again. This leads to feelings of missed opportunities, guilt, stress, depression and resentment.

How do I know this? Because I, Tony D, am a serial procrastinator. Over the years I’ve developed a toolset to keep me moving forward and keep me from falling into a torpid state of apathy and sloth. So, I’ll do my best to help you chronic procrastinators in your quest to be awesome with women.

Let’s look at the main causes of approach procrastination

Social Distancing at Nightclubs: Can You Still Meet People This Way?

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If nightclubs are open in your area, yet subject to social distancing restrictions, can you still meet women at them? Or are your nightlife prospects… LOCKED DOWN?

Hey guys.

Welcome back. This will likely be one of my last articles on COVID-19 for a while. I’ve shared all I know for now. Of course, if I make any mind-blowing discoveries or find something worth discussing, I will cover it for you.

Today I’ll discuss a topic I know many have been waiting for: clubbing during the pandemic.

I apologize for bringing this up so late. I prioritized this series of articles since not everyone has been able to go clubbing because of differing levels of lockdowns and restrictions. I preferred to cover themes that a larger audience could resonate with first.

Also, I did not cover this earlier because I believe clubbing with social distancing outright sucks. So much so that even a night gamer like me tends to favor other game types for now.

Hopefully, we will open up to something closer to normal soon. If all we have to do is wash hands, wear a mask, and “be careful” (not impose social distancing) when entering clubs, I will reconsider. But for the time being, I do not see clubbing as a good way to meet women, even though I have had some success.

Where I live, clubs are closed. However, I went to visit my homeland during the summer, and clubs were open. I spent some nights out there with my fellow wing, Halvor Jannicke. The observations I share here are mine and his. So he deserves some credit.

But even Halvor, as a fellow night gamer, is not very motivated in clubbing lately.

To be clear, we are talking about clubs where social distancing is required, and your freedom to move around and mingle is limited:

  • You will be led to a table with your social circle.

  • You are not always allowed to go to the bar to order. You must do so when seated at your table.

  • You can usually only get up from your table to use the restroom.

  • Some places have smoking areas; others don’t. So you have to step outside the club to smoke.

  • Can you mingle? Some places are stricter than others, but generally, it is forbidden.

In other words, the club experience has become quite crappy. So as you can probably already see, there is not much you can do.

But there are a few things you can do, and that’s what I will cover here.

However, it is looking grim for nightlife so far. I will share my solutions, although I’ll admit, they are not that good, and you will still be limited. If you are looking for ways to meet women during the pandemic, read my recent articles. I cover better ways to live out your sex life during this crisis.

How to Pick Up Girls During Morning Rush Hour

meet girls during morning rush hourYou'll see a lot of cute women on their ways to work in the morning. Have you ever tried to pick one of them up? Know how it's done?

Recently a friend of mine arrived in a new city and went out for day game on a weekday afternoon. He felt disappointed to find few attractive women. Yet we talked about that, and I noted that most of the good-looking women are not walking around town during the day... most of them are at work (or they might be in their classes).

I suggested he try going out during evening rush hour, when all the women get out of work. This has long been one of my preferred times to day game. There are a lot of great advantages to it:

  • Women are out en masse from work, all crowded onto the streets at the same time. You have a high density of approachable women

  • Because they're coming from work, they're typically not in as much of a rush as if you meet them on their lunch breaks or on their morning commute

  • Having spilled out from work, some of them are happy to meet a sociable guy who isn't as ground-down by a day in the office as the people they've been around all day; others are high on endorphins themselves after their 'escape' and are feeling good and happy to meet anyone friendly

  • I personally very much like professional women, and a beautiful girl in her cute little business attire is extremely fetching to me. It's easy to get excited about women dressed this way in my opinion (she might dress sloppy off work, but she has to look nice on the job)

Today's article though isn't about evening rush hour, which in many ways is the easier of the two rush hours to approach during. I'll probably do an article on that as well.

Instead, this article's on morning rush hour -- a go-to guide for meeting girls on your way to work... or, if you are like me, a sometimes morning-rush-hour tourist.

Scouting for Meet Girls Spots: You Just Have to Go There

scouting to meet new girlsEver try to predict how good a place will be to meet girls by looking at a map or talking to people? If you have, you'll know how wrong you often get it. But… why?

I like to regularly scout new spots. Keeps things fresh, and you don't know what you'll find -- either in the place, or in the woman situation (see: new spot bonus).

The other day I decided to work at a shopping mall in one of the university areas. I walked by the women's university, where school's just about to be back in session, with cars unloading female college students and their suitcases and belongings. Then I found the nearby mall and took a stroll through it.

And... I was surprised how few single women there were there.

There were lots of families. Lots of children. A few couples and trios of college girls. Next to none there alone. And of the women who were there, only a handful were very attractive.

The mall had multiple floors, but only two options to work at, a Starbucks on the first floor and a tea place on one of the upper floors. The tea place actually looked like the better bet as far as clientele, but I opted for the Starbucks to get a clearer idea about the mall's foot traffic.

In the several hours I spent there, I saw perhaps a handful of attractive women, solo, walk by. The rest were all couples, trios, and families. Most of the women I saw did not have attractive faces (if unmasked) and/or didn't have the best bodies.

Where were all the attractive solo girls?

How to ‘Meet Smooth’ and Sweep Women Off Their Feet

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Women dream of being swept off their feet by a sexy stranger. Here's how to set yourself up as the object of her fantasies before you even make eye contact.

Ever wonder what’s missing from your approach?

Maybe you meet respectable numbers of cute new girls each week, but you’ve often noticed difficulties reaching the hook point. Perhaps these recent approaches and attempts to chat up attractive women during the day have failed to bring the positive results you’d expect. However, just increasing the number of girls you’re meeting won’t address the issue.

If you’ve worked on your fundamentals, carefully considered each of the 3 schools of seduction, and broadened your arsenal of pickup tech, you may have come to a realization. While volume game helps you screen for girls who are interested in you, it is the least effective path for an up-and-coming seducer to take each battleground of the journey to dating success. This is especially true if you use polarizing openers to approach new women in day game.

It doesn’t matter if the probability of getting intimate with the women you open is low. This article will show you the steps toward better day game results. What’s more, you’ll be able to look back on the practical tips from this article with warmth and appreciation because they helped propel you past frustrating plateaus. You’ll dramatically boost your odds of getting laid each time you decide to meet a new girl during the day.