How to Pick Up a Girl in 6 Steps (Plus, 10 Trip-Ups to Avoid) | Girls Chase

How to Pick Up a Girl in 6 Steps (Plus, 10 Trip-Ups to Avoid)

how to pick up a girlIt's Friday night, and you're sitting at home by yourself. No girlfriend to spend time with, no gal you're kind of sort of seeing to call... not one girl to keep you company.

A thought pops into your head: "Maybe I can go out and pick up a girl!"

But, just as quickly as it popped excitedly into mind, a bunch more thoughts rush in to dampen your spirit, and you realize that you really just don't know how to pick up a girl.

You go to a bar or a nightclub, and... use a pick up line? Then what? Buy her a drink? And then just hope somehow at the end of the night the two of you end up in bed together.

No, no... you know it isn't that simple. There's a lot more to it than that. You just don't know what that "lot more to it" might be.

Fortunately though, by fate or fortitude or because you knew where to look, you found this post. As a guy who's spent the past six years studying, refining, and honing his ability to meet girls and get them in bed fast, and who's spent much of that time teaching other men to do the same, I'm rather uniquely qualified to help you succeed.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.


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RicK's picture

I am 21 yrs old I have no luck on girls or woman at all I live with family I go to the bar but no girls their my looks are not so good and my face look shit.I have no luck on pick up lines at all or have any games to try!!!
would you try to help me out here plz maybe you can show me how or what plz help me out here

Your friend Rick Mikulaj

shak's picture

just as quickly as it popped excitedly into mind, a bunch more thoughts rush in to dampen your spirit, and you realize that you really just don't know how to pick up a girl.

Bru's picture

Hey Chase, I've read most of your articles; very helpful stuff! However I have a few questions still. I'm not sure where to stand when I'm trying to pick up girls. Like at frat parties, I stand with my friends in a circle hoping to spot attractive girls with peripheral vision without looking too awkward or out of place at a party. I don't know what I would do if I were alone because I'd rather not stand near a wall awkwardly until I spot a nice looking girl. I'm not quite 21 yet so I can't just post up at a bar and chill with a drink.

Along these same lines, when I'm trying to nab some girls during the daytime on my campus, would it be better if I was sitting on the quad or somewhere else that is frequented by many girls or if i was walking around? If I was sitting, I'd feel an urge to look busy so I wouldn't appear to be awkwardly doing nothing. But I feel like messing around on my cell phone isn't convincing and makes it seem like I'm faking looking like I have a purpose for being where I am. Perhaps I should read a newspaper or something, or maybe I'm just overthinking it and I don't need to be doing anything at all. Your thoughts on this matter would be helpful. I suppose if I wandered around campus slowly I could stop girls and talk to them, but having the option of chilling somewhere and waiting for attractive girls to walk by to be stopped appeals to me.

Also, it's spring so girls are starting to lay out in bikinis and looking hot. I want to approach these girls but they are laying down, so should I just talk to them and ask if I can sit down next to them immediately or after a couple minutes?

I realize there are lots of questions in here so I will try to summarize: 1. Is it acceptable for me to stand in a circle with my friends at a party somewhat outside the mass of dancing people or near a wall and then peel of when I spot an attractive girl, or will I look too much like a wallflower? 2. Should I be looking semi-occupied when I'm out by myself and chilling in 1 location or does it seem fake and/or make me seem too closed-off and unreceptive (thoughts on newspaper or cellphone?)? 3. Should I just sit down next to these hot tanning girls, or do I ask them if I can sit, and how soon into my interaction with them should I sit? I realize you are busy but thanks for taking the time to read this! Hopefully others will find these questions useful should you respond.

Gambit13's picture

I consider myself good looking and have been told so by woman. However, the thing I hate is girls want guys to approach them and start a conversation with them, but then they aren't interested or think the guy is a creep for approaching them and talking to them WHICH IS WHAT THEY WANTED IN THE FIRST PLACE! Anyone who can solve this riddle is a genius.

andypeps's picture

Two rules you must always follow that will get you any girl
1. People want what they can't have (don't be too available)
2. Be a MAN
Part of being a man is being able to approach the opposite gender. I know it will be nice for women to approach you but they have not be conditioned to do so. Until then, just be a man and approach them and then you can ask them why girls never approach guys. I use this question a lot and it works every time because it gets them talking. Actually, thats how i got the girl (gorgeous by the way) i'm sleeping with right now. I'll take you through a routine..........
I introduce myself and ask her name (remember strong body language and eye contact)
I chit chat for a bit and then tell her "can i ask you a question?"
she says yes and i say "how come girls never approach guys?"
and immediately follow with "you see when i walked in here girls where looking at me with interest but none of them will approach. Im the kind of guy that is not afraid to approach a girl but it would be nice for a change if it was the other way around"
She laughs and says " im the kind of girl that will approach a guy"
so i say, " really, well im guna walk away and i need you to find me and show me how you would approach me" so i walked away and started talking to some guys
A minute later i see her dancing towards my way and she comes close and starts dancing infront of me so i take her hand and spin her around so she is facing me and i go in for the kiss and that was it.
I tell her that im going to make her my girlfriend for the rest night and she laughs and says okay. I make out with her some more and she asks if im going to take her home tonight...well you know how it ended.
This girl was hot and the best part was she was not even drinking.
As a rule, i never take drunk girls home...thats just me.
Just be confident and have a plan and the rest is history.

David's picture

Well the very first day I read some of your articles: Talked to 3 random girls ! Get one's phone number ! Move her around the rave ! Almost get to move the 2nd girl and she suddenly told me that she had to wait for a girlfriend or something I couldn't tell if it was real or not anyway I just left I guess I need more experience hehe.

What can I say you are a genius ! I'm from south america and your tips here also worked like a charm !

Sometimes I get chased by some girls some of them cute some of them not so much so I always thought that if I try harder I can get girls I really really like now I'm sure of it! it's amazing when you become self-aware of the things you do right !

I just broke up of a 3 year relationship so my game was really off, well I don't even know if I got one ever... Now I do :D !

One last thing I'm senior web developer and I got some advice for your website contact me if you are interested and thanks so so much ! and again you are a genius!

Modern Man's picture

#1 is so key. So many guys get the idea that they have to go to nightclubs because of the pick up industry. In reality it's much easier to get to know a girl in a more low key situation. I'm not knocking nightclubs because they can be great for picking women up but I've always had a lot more success in a place that I could talk.

Akki's picture

Hi, I am 22 years old and my question is that i do speak well with girls at nightclubs, but after reading this i feel my follow up question after the introduction bit are
where i mess up. I usually ask hi, my name is so and so whats yours. Then i call her name and ask how her night is going. the bit after this i am not too sure what to ask. any suggestions would be of great help

Anonymous's picture

Hey Chase, So today i was talking to a friend of mine who is pretty good with the girls, girls i dont move fast with he seems to get in about a week max. so i asked him for advice on how he does it and he said that he had a certain "Recipe" that worked on every girl without fail. is there a certain sequence that should be followed when picking up girls? although your blog is full of useful information I haven't found a certain algorithm for picking up women. if there is in-fact a certain Recipe, then could you create a post on how your meetings with women go?

DAVE's picture

Since the numbers show that fewer and fewer men are approaching women these days because they are fed up with this game whose rules you seem to support ( because that's the way it is so live with it).Maybe, just maybe, guys no longer wish to be treated that way, and will hold out for later in life when women can no longer afford to play games like this.

J.B.'s picture

I love this web site information is right on point. I am self taught ladies man and expert pickup artist. This site goes far beyond than just saying you need confidence. You give real tips. Keep up the good work.

Marco's picture

Hey everybody! Great site, thank you for the tips. I think I am not ugly, nor too much shy, but I have a big issue - with whom should you be if you want to pick up girls? I've been often to clubs with different groups of friends, but they look always focused on our own group and not very interested in meeting new people - so i feel both ashamed in front of my friends if I'm the only one who tries to pick up every girl around, and ashamed in front of the girls to look as a "lonely wolf"..
Any comments or suggestion about how to do? I should probably team up with one or two boys with the same mindset, but I don't know how to do that either..

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