When’s the last time you grabbed a girl’s ass? There’s a good way
to do this – and you needn’t wait till she’s your girlfriend, either.
She doesn’t see me immediately as she walks out of the metro. I’m
laughing to myself as I stare at her, waiting for her to recognize me.
But she did get lost a few times trying to find me, so I’m sure she’s a
bit disoriented.
It’s when she is about to pass me that I speak up.
“Hiiiiiiii.”
She looks at me, shakes her head in surprise, then laughs. “Oh, hey!”
Silly girl. She apologizes again for going to the wrong coffee shop
the first time. I tell her it’s no biggie, and we walk to grab coffee.
After we order, we sit and wait. I blatantly look her up and down, and
she smiles curiously at me.
“You look so sexy,” I say to her.
“Thank you!” she says, giggling.
She’s an alternative girl – piercings, tattoos, and a super
independent attitude. She’s also German, so stoicism is standard for
her. Our first interactions at the hotel she works at involved a lot of
teasing and me kind of
dominating the room, but that’s only the
penultimate strategy for a girl like this. They love to be challenged
by cocky assholes, but with every woman on the earth, there is one
strategy that reigns supreme – the lover.
“If I get distracted during our date, it’s because I’m staring at
you, just so you’re aware,” I say, smiling.
“Okay!” she says, laughing. Girls never know how to respond when I
make statements like that, and it’s great. They have no reference point
to draw from, because I’m unlike anyone they’ve ever met.
Do you need to sleep with every girl on the first date? The
answer: no, but it helps. Sometimes a lot.
Often enough we’ll get someone on the Girls Chase forums who, after
following the GC model of “move faster,” will begin to
question the validity of said model.
Usually it’s because he finds the majority of chicks he meets up
with won’t sleep with him on the first date... or, when he does go for the first-date lay, he crashes,
burns, and never hears from her again, no matter how much he persists.
Usually his inquiries are focused on women of higher quality (more
beautiful or popular) and he suspects they aren’t prone to sleeping
with men quickly.
Well, that’s actually true – beautiful girls with high self-esteem
are much less likely to sleep around, as they’ve learned from a young
age just how in-demand they are and how easily they can rope men in to
relationships without having to give up sex.
However, this doesn’t change the fact that these women will have sex
with you on a first date/meeting. Not
only is it possible, it’s better, because the quicker you sleep
with her, the more likely she is to date you, and not those other
dudes. We will answer why in this article.
Now, this is important: to most naturals (like myself), it isn’t
really about strategy – it’s about desire. When you ask us why it’s
important to sleep with a girl on the first date, the answer is
“because I want to sleep with her.” To understand this mindset, divorce
yourself from strategic, categorical thinking for a moment.
You see a girl with a nice ass, busty tits, or a beautiful face –
you want to have sex with her, without a doubt. Why would you NOT want
to have sex with her as quickly as possible? This thought is in fact a
much higher order of frame and masculine thinking than the “how do I
keep her or seem most dominant?” mindset, even if it seems simpler or
more primal. It’s rooted firmly in the man’s desire (i.e., your frame).
On a slightly more academic level, I addressed this question of lay
speed in my article on moving fast without rushing.
My thesis was
simple – because time is irrelevant
to women, why not move fast?
If a
woman feels sexually or emotionally connected (or both), she will have
sex with you quickly.
Thirty minutes after meeting you, an hour into
the first date, or without even a first date and straight to your
house, etc. (also, for clarification, a first date can also include the
first time you meet her out. Basically, the first time you have any
significant chance of sleeping with her, be it at a bar, coffee shop,
or a predetermined meeting)
The only higher-tier counterargument to this mindset that I can
surmise, and one I’ve seen a few times, is if it takes you longer to
sleep with a girl, that ensures her chances of cheating are lessened,
because if it was hard for YOU to get her, then imagine how hard it
will be for those OTHER guys. Well, we’ll cover that one, too.
However, many guys still wonder why it’s important that you sleep
with her on the first date or meeting.
But first we need to address the primary question.
Pedro Pascal’s portrayal of Oberyn Martell is unabashedly sexy. What makes his character so compelling? Fundamentals, panache, and finesse.
There are times in life when we cross paths with men – real men –
men whose very presence sparks a reaction within us: “Wow, here is a
man. I want to be just like him.”
This particular awe-inspiring male personality may differ from
person to person, but each of us have had that experience. Whether it’s
a father figure, a brother figure, a mentor, or a perfect stranger, we
hope to spend enough time around that person to absorb their traits and
learn what they know about masculinity, life, and women.
However, in a world where masculinity is becoming more demonized and
ridiculed, these men aren’t so easy to come by, and they aren’t always
in a position to teach us in a meaningful way. These days, it’s common
to be without access to powerful male role models. Sometimes all we
have to rely on are books and film. We watch a movie, a TV show, or
read a book... and into the scene strolls a man – he may be fictional,
but goddamn is he mesmerizing. So we pay attention.
We often connect more with someone on a screen or page than we do
with anyone else in real life. Personally, there are a host of
fictional characters who have played a more substantial role in my
growth as a man than most real men I’ve met. They were ideals of the
writer or creator transformed into beings worthy of emulation. And this
is nothing new. Ever since the first story was told, men have emulated
the traits of their heroes, real or fictional.
The inception of this series actually began with Giacomo Casanova.
While reading his memoirs, I thought “This guy’s story needs to be told
in a modern form.” I planned on rewriting his adventures, then deeply
analyzing his lays (which number over a hundred and include royalty) so
that GC readers wouldn’t have to work their way through the beautiful
yet difficult translations of his 17th century Italian.
When I dropped that project, however, a very similar idea came to me
– why not analyze the many men of television, cinema, literature, and
history, who are outstanding examples of power and sensuality?
Thus was born “Seduction Spotlight.” The name should speak for
itself.
I will show you in detail how these characters seduce women,
dominate their foes, and exemplify other masculine pursuits, such as
achieving one’s dreams. Through this analysis you should then be able
to truly understand how they do what they do, and, in turn, do it
yourself (adhering to the laws of your land and time, of course).
With this inaugural article, then, I will shine that spotlight on my
personal favorite, Oberyn Martell of the TV show Game of Thrones,
inspired by the Song of Fire and Ice book series written by
George R.R. Martin. Oberyn Martell is played by the actor Pedro Pascal.
Since Oberyn’s character only aired for a little under forty minutes
in the fourth season of Game of Thrones, I cover nearly all his scenes
in order to highlight his fundamentals, game, and mindsets. I’ll cite
the episodes if you want to follow along on your HBO Go, but I’ll also
provide YouTube links for each scene (some YouTube vids are censored).
Here are a pair of videos that cover every scene he’s in if you want
a
compilation:
Not that you should lie. But if you do lie, you’d better be able
to handle it when you get caught.
“I’m going to visit a friend of mine one of the days I’m here,” I
say to her.
“Oh? Which friend is that?”
“My programmer buddy; we met last time I was in the city.”
“Okay, when are you going to see him?”
I tell her that I’ll be meeting him later in the evening for a beer.
Except I’m not meeting with my programmer friend that day (yes,
there is a programmer friend, and I did plan on meeting up with him,
too. Just not that day).
My plan is to meet another girl.
I met my girlfriend first, but I
spent much more time with the other girl before my gal and I eventually
saw each other and slept together. This other chick had a boyfriend at
the time, and even though we didn’t sleep together – and we still
haven’t – she is one of those girls that I’m perfectly content spending
time with, even if sex isn’t involved.
Oh, and she has the same name as my girlfriend. Poetic, right?
I explained my plans because the express reason for my visit is to
see my gal before I move to a new city. Also because I care about her.
I just didn’t see the need to tell her that I was going to see another
woman.
A few hours pass by, my girlfriend and I walk around a mall
together, grab coffee, and work on some projects. Then, as we’re eating
lunch, she asks me again about the friend I’m supposed to meet that
night. As she asks, I see her eyes narrow and her focus intensify.
In that moment, I realize she’s caught me. I have an obsessive
dedication to the truth, even when it hurts, so I freeze as the moral
equations continue from when I earlier decided to not tell her the
whole truth.
The fuckboy: a guy who offers little more to women than
excitement and sex... Yet whom girls keep coming back to, even if they
say the hate him.
“Am I fuckboy?” I ask.
She laughs hysterically over the phone. “Oh yeah, for sure!”
I laugh. I expected this answer, as I’ve heard it from pretty much
every other girl I’ve asked.
“You know what, actually,” she interjects, “I would say you’re a
fuckboy, but you’re a little bit different. You’re definitely an
asshole, but I don’t think you’re a fuckboy. I think it’s
because
you’re honest. You don’t trick girls. You are pretty straightforward
about what you want.”
She’s a smart girl and one of the most loyal and devoted lovers I’ve
ever had, so her opinion is more nuanced and, frankly, more important
than the other women’s.
Whether through extended social circles or very
long and frank
discussions about my hobbies, philosophies, and the kindness that I
show to friends, family, strangers, and lovers, it seems only those who
spend a good amount of time with me have seen the lover beneath the
fuckboy.
Yet, most won’t see that. To the majority of those I meet in life, I
will be labeled a fuckboy and described as sexist, misogynist,
disrespectful to women, and all sorts of nasty things.
I accept these labels if only to spit on those people. Anger and
hatred is usually a sign you’re doing something right.
To explore then whether the fuckboy life is right for you, I want
you to ask yourself a very simple question after reading this article.
So you want to teach her how to give you an epic blow job. But
where do you start? With the 18 techniques in this article.
You would think that after having over a hundred cocks in her mouth,
she’d be better at this.
Her enthusiasm is on point – she’s devouring my dick like a starving
third world lady who’s only remaining sustenance is my semen. But her
technique? Severely lacking.
I give her a few tips as she has her snack.
“More spit.”
“I want to hear you moan more.”
“You can go deeper.”
Then, I stop her. “Baby, has anyone actually taught you to suck
dick?”
“Seriously? You admitted to sleeping with over a hundred guys, and
NO ONE has taught you?”
“No,” she laughs. “They all told me I was really good!”
“Well, they were probably all too happy to get their dicks sucked
and didn’t want to risk rocking the boat.”
She smiles. “Okay, tell me what to do.”
It isn’t long before she’s gurgling, choking, and pumping my cock
like a pornstar. In the midst of her grand performance, I ask her how
she’s enjoying herself.
“This is so much more fun!” she says to me. “It’s getting me wet as
hell.” Then she goes back to work.
Prefatory warning: this is one of those hardcore articles where I
show you the dark side of women, seduction, and society.
We’re going to discuss some aspects of female morality that may make
you uncomfortable (or may excite you; depends on whether you’re after
fun flings, or The One). This article will be in the vain of this one and this one by Chase.
So don’t say I didn’t want you.
After the darkness, we will come back to the light. But first we’re
going to venture into the dungeons.
Warnings aside, if you’re still with me, then let’s get to it.
“Good
read. How do you reconcile your comment that "time is
irrelevant to seduction" with Chase's mantra that one must move
quickly? Am I misunderstanding the context?”
Perfect question. I struggled with this one for a long time. Before
finding GirlsChase, I definitely understood that women love sex, and
that long courtships are signs that you want something serious. Hell, I
had once slept with a girl thirty seconds after meeting her. I
always knew fast is good.
But I still made certain exceptions – girls who were more
conservative, girls who were hotter than my usual catch, etc.
Then, when I found GirlsChase, I kept running into Chase’s motto of
“move fast.” In almost every
article, it was there. It infected my
brain and eventually opened my eyes to how many girls I’d lost because
I didn’t move fast enough.
I changed that – quickly. And my lay count skyrocketed. Women loved
how aggressive I’d become.
Yet I also found that the number of girls I took out on dates was
still much higher than the girls I bedded (my date-to-lay ratio, if you
want to be a nerd). I would make out with them, exchange oral favors,
but intercourse was not as frequent as I’d hoped.
Why were these girls not letting me go all the way?
Because I was rushing.
You see, moving fast and rushing are two different things.
What do you do when a girl tests you and you’re suddenly out of
your depth? Sidestep! The sidestep lets you avoid all manner of traps,
snares, and pitfalls.
The sidestep: it’s an incredibly powerful move and the antidote for
a lot of men’s problems when facing resistance.
When a man encounters a wall in a conversation or with
a girl, his
first reaction is either to give up or to push past the resistance. The
flaw in giving up is obvious: neither of you win. You
don’t show up to play the game, and it’s over.
The flaw with pushing past resistance is that most guys do it in a
needy or overly aggressive way.
They concede to her way of thinking and find a
way to please her or
assuage her concern.
Or, if they do choose to face her frame head to head, they attempt
to strong-arm her emotions at a much more severe emotional level than
that at which she resisted. Their brute conversational force scares her
off.
Instead, when a man faces
resistance, he should consider
sidestepping or moving around the obstacle rather than wrestling
against it, which usually leaves either your two egos broken.
But before we get into the how-to, allow me to illustrate how badly
you can embarrass yourself when you try to
outmaneuver a much more dominant and socially savvy girl... By sharing
with you perhaps one of my most shameful stories.
They’re tough, sassy, sexy, and some of the best allies once you
have them on your side. Some men make the mistake of either submitting
to a woman’s ferocity or getting butt-hurt. The former
category of men
become orbiters and earn from her only disgust. The latter become
manosphere advocates and misogynists who travel to more “conservative”
countries in search of “traditional women” to marry.
Both are reactions of fear rather than strength and love. I suggest
an alternative path to dealing with bitchiness: ravish her
whirlwinds of anger like a titan. Then, when the storm dies
and you and she are still standing, ravish her or anyone around who has
been witness to your strength.
Here are three ways to do that, starting with my favorite.
