2015’s most popular humorous way to suggest a girl coming over to your place to hook up has been the phrase ‘Netflix and chill’, mostly used to joke about hooking up online, like so:
So, as we’re concerned on this site with what actually works, two questions then:
Should you ever use ‘Netflix and chill’, or any other trendy line like this?
How good are humorous/trendy lines at getting girls back to your place?
This post will answer both.
In my article “Tactics Tuesdays: Calling Her When Texts Don’t Pan Out”, commenter AnonDude asked the following:
“I found that interesting and it would be great if you could write a post on different styles and goals of seduction, pros and cons of each, combinations of different styles and stuff like that.”
I thought this’d make for a fun article, so decided to write this one next.
Now, this might not necessarily be as practical an article, since, as you’ll see, you are what you are and you like what you like and you don’t have much, if any, conscious control over that.
Nevertheless, this may still be useful for you: we’ll be looking at what you want, why you do what you do, and what things you ought to be focused on (and what things not).
Let’s talk about what the 3 sorts of lady-killer are... and figure out which one you are.
I had snorted two grams of cocaine in thirty seconds.
Twenty minutes
later I collapsed in the middle of the theme park.
My body convulsed as first responders rushed me to the infirmary. My heart was beating over 170 beats a minute. I only weighed 107 pounds and I had not slept in over forty-eight hours.
All this just to impress a girl.
I have been sober for years now, but I have lots of experiences with both drugs and women.
I have seen many guys try various drugs to try and get with girls – from selling pot to meet girls, to taking Molly at a rave with hopes of meeting a girl at the end of the night.
So here is my tell-all about the world of drugs and women.
When I was seventeen I overdosed on cocaine. I weighed 107 pounds and was 5'9" - needless to say, I was skinny. It's been eight years since that event and I now weigh 165 pounds and am around 7-8% body fat. I have been asked to be a fitness model and to competitively powerlift. My journey from being a skinny kid to a muscular bro was motivated almost entirely by my goal of bedding more women.
And although putting on a lot of muscle didn't give me the results I had fantasized about, the journey helped transform my character and turned me into a guy who does in fact bed a lot of women. I'm writing this post because there are a lot of misconceptions about how being muscular helps you with women, so here is the truth about how being muscular will help you get laid.
My friend had just told me that he saw the girl I liked with another guy.
“I don’t get it man! I know that she likes me.”
“Bro, it’s because of this,” he said, pointing to his dark skin.
I responded saying, “What are you talking about man?”
“It’s because you’re black bro; girls like her only date white guys.”
Until that point I had not looked at dating through a racial lens. But after that day I started to become more “aware” of race and dating. I started “seeing” that white guys had it easier when it came to getting girls. It didn’t matter that I had dated many different races of girls before. It didn’t matter that I ended up dating the girl that we were talking about. That conversation had given me the ultimate excuse: that if a girl didn’t like me, it was because of my race.
It took me years to get away from that particular train of thought. It still creeps in from time to time, but as soon as I catch myself thinking like that now I cut that line of reasoning. So I will go ahead and answer the question that is on a lot of your minds right now.
Does race matter when it comes to dating? Yes.
Does it matter as much as people think it matters? No.
In this post, I will answer common questions I get from guys about race and dating; some advice for getting over racial insecurities and some stories from my journey.
Gentlemen, welcome to Part 1 of this 6-part series on modern marriage (and yes, divorce).
I want to come at this article series with a completely unbiased flavor... because I honest to god think that monogamy can work, even in our contemporary society where the divorce rate exceeds 50%.
While I am certainly a fair bit opinionated and will use a few choice words for things I feel strongly about, and will tell you exactly how I feel about each and every little thing marriage-related, you’re going to get nil of the ever-so-prevalent relationship hate that you find on most seduction blogs.
I’ve striven to leave this series as free of my own clutter or baggage as possible (we all have some), to bring you a straight-to-the-point look at the institution of matrimony in the 21st century.
Let’s go.
We are all infected.
The Walking Dead is one of the most popular TV-series in the world right now. It is a show about survivors of a zombie apocalypse and their struggle to stay alive... at least on the surface. However, underneath all the blood and gore is actually a show about egos and the stress we feel when things in life don’t go as planned (as usually is the case). One of the strongest themes underlying the show is growth of egomaniacal characters in their quest to “survive”.
The show brings up questions that draw a fine line between what it takes to survive and what it means to go too far. The show is just a fiction, but part of its appeal is that it reflects a lot of people’s concerns and struggles with the question of “what is really necessary?” and “what is egomaniacal?”
One of the main concepts of the show is “we are all infected”, which we can translate roughly to: we are all one mistake or slip away from becoming someone else’s nightmare. If we give up, quit, become a burden, choose an easy path to “survival”, we become the problem for the few left who haven’t.
Are we takers? Or do we walk the line?
Well, for those of you who don’t watch the show, don’t worry, I only bring it up because the topic of this article is egomania, and the famous line “we are all infected” is a good starting point for discussing it.
The number one problem beginners and intermediate guys have with seduction is that they believe they are immune to egomania and don’t need to address it. You think you couldn’t possibly be a bad guy and so never consider that it’s quite possible you are.
Beginners complain and whinge and cry about how THEY are special, about how THEY are the exception to every rule, because they are overwhelmed and surprised by the sheer aggressiveness of reality and how HARD it bitch slaps them into taking responsibility onto their shoulders.
Guys will resort to anything to avoid real improvement:
Our mistakes often aren’t THAT drastic, normally it is a bit of cynicism here, a few nasty edged decisions there, and an indulgence on occasion that screws over someone you don’t know now and then.
You figure, “Hey? What is the harm?” and you get into the habit of sucking, until one day a responsibility is too big, and BAM, you become the bad guy you swore you never would be.
Egomania is a real thing and you START OFF infected.
Welcome back to the journey! Hope you enjoyed the loving in the last article.
So far, we’ve covered:
In Part 1: how to become arrogant and eradicate fear
In Part 2: the myth of the heartless player and the risks of arrogance
In Part 3: how to cultivate humility and temper arrogance
In Part 4: how to love people, learn from them, and take responsibility for others’ feelings
Before we start to develop a healthy love for women, we’re going to
identify the venomous thoughts we have about them... because all these things are deep,
entrenched obstacles to happy relationships, a stable psyche, and true,
breakout, to-the-rooftops-good success.
Note from Chase: this is our first article from Joseph W. South, a long-time staple in the seduction and men’s dating advice community who’s been helping men do better with women for quite some time now. Joseph’s in his mid-40s, and has a broad array of experience with women to contribute. He does a thorough job introducing himself in this article, so I’ll let him take it from here. Here’s Joseph.
Hey guys,
Since this is my first article for Girls Chase, I want to take a moment
to introduce myself:
I was born in Toronto in 1969, which makes me 45 years old today. By the age of 39, in 2008, I was retired with over a million American dollars in the bank. By late 2012 I had lost every penny of it and I was completely broke and in debt. I’ve been on a steady path of recovery since I hit bottom, and today, my life and prospects have never been better. Going through that experience taught me humility and new wisdom, while also greatly clarifying the wisdom I already had.
I’ll try to add a personal story in every article I write, so you can put my advice into good context.
I discovered “the game” in 2003. Not the book, The Game by Neil Strauss, which was published in 2005, but the actual game of seducing women, having threesomes, hosting parties for hundreds of people, and juggling multiple girlfriends at the same time. I attended bootcamps, seminars, and voraciously read everything I could get my hands on in this genre. I had the privilege of meeting and interacting with many of the characters depicted in Strauss’ book: everything from brief conversations, to bootcamps, to interviews on my podcast, along with some great friendships that endure to this day. In 2007, I collaborated with Franco [editor: Franco of mASF fame, different from our Franco] and David Clare to produce Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man. For the sake of brevity I will refer to the book as “PFP”.
Is casual sex morally acceptable? Historically, people have viewed sex as a serious matter that should be restricted. And social conventions have typically told us to withhold sex and control our human lusts.
Most religions therefore consider promiscuity a sin; something immoral that was even punished by death in the Middle Ages. The sanctions for promiscuity have become way lighter since then, and in the modern day West, the sanctions have for the most part become only of a social matter: judging, exclusion, and shame.
Though I’ve covered it in some of my previous articles (like this one or this one), in a nutshell, female sexuality has been restricted in order to create order and avoid chaos. Remember, the majority of males out there compete over the provider role, and therefore are not very sexually attractive to women in comparison to the small minority of lovers – those men whom women find sexually attractive and who provide them sexual satisfaction.
