Your initial approach: how you first start talking to that girl you really like.
Mass approaching gets a bum rap. When it’s used well, it stops
being sloppy and scattershot… and becomes a savvy, effective way to
meet many women in a hurry.
Do you ignore signs of interest from girls or get too nervous to
approach? You may want to spend 5 minutes to rehearse approaches and
scenarios in your mind.
If you’ve ever gone out to chat up new women and had approach anxiety hit, you know how much it sucked. You wanted to talk to girls, hoped to talk to girls, tried to talk to girls... then couldn’t.
You walked up next to a girl with the long black hair and the tight jeans on the street corner as she waited for the light to change. You said nothing.
You took a seat in a café next to a girl with medium-length blonde hair and big googly glasses. She glanced at you a few times, and you tried to summon your nerve. Yet your nerve went unsummoned, and you and her never spoke.
That night you went out with your buddies to the lounge, and this one girl in a sequined dance danced over right near you. You could tell she wanted to meet you. You tried to get yourself to say hi, but you didn’t say anything.
It might be you just weren’t socially warmed up. You lack social momentum, and needed to do some warm-ups – but you hadn’t done them yet.
You wish you could just spring into action the moment you saw a girl.
Is there a way you could?
Perhaps there is. Next time you go out, try to rehearse your approaches first.
You’ve heard it’s good not to eject too soon with a girl you’ve
just met. So when SHOULD you eject? Any of these 7 times, as it were.
Slightly more fun article today.
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The relaxed bar opener lets you meet girls in a bar in a relaxed,
natural, sociable way. All you need to do it is a cool wingman, and
halfway decent fundamentals.
Much of what we talk about when it comes to cold approach centers on walking up to new women solo and delivering an opener. Often we discuss going out alone to meet girls. Or we might talk about rolling with a wingman, yet treat it as little different from rolling solo; just two guys roving the streets, bars, or parties on the prowl, and when one guy sees a girl he likes the looks of, he goes in.
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Today’s article is about a more relaxed approach you can take while out with a wingman in a social venue (bars, parties, nightclubs), that makes it easy for you to meet new girls in a laid back, low pressure way, without looking like the ‘guy on a mission’ who goes around and chats up every available girl.
If you’re new to approaching and want an easy way for you and a friend to transition into chatting up new women, this is a prime candidate for that. Or even if you’re an old hand and simply prefer a more relaxed evening on the town, this approach serves nicely.
Let’s talk about what this approach is.
When your words, actions, and moves aren’t timed right, it all
feels wrong and incongruous. Yet when the timing is right, everything
becomes magic.
When a comedian makes a joke, even if it’s a spectacular joke, if the timing is wrong, nobody laughs.
Usually on Girls Chase we talk about timing in the context of:
Yet timing snakes its tendrils through everything you do with women. Timing matters in your opens. Timing matters when you ask for investment. Timing matters at transition points. Timing matters during the pull, the kiss, and the escalation to intimacy.
If your timing is off, everything in your process will be off. You’ll fly blind through the courtship, trying this here and that there. Timing, you will notice if you observe enough guys in action, often is the Achilles’s heel of many men who work hard in seduction but reap few rewards. When you see such guys, your frequent reaction will be “Why is he doing that then? He should’ve done that 10 minutes ago!” or “Why is he saying this now? She’s not ready for that yet!”
We’re going to tackle timing in two ways today.
The first is to give you a rough sequence of events a courtship progresses through.
The second is to give you a couple signs to watch out for to let you calibrate your timing no matter where you’re at with her.
Tight game in general should be hard to say. That’s for good
reason: while flashy game can be attractive, it can also attract a lot
of unwanted attention.
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Last week, we discussed the difficulties one may face in perceiving tight game – the elements involved and the ability to spot guys who are truly good with women. We also discussed some of the key elements that constitute true mastership compared to simple flash. And no, mastership is not about having that super-crazy routine or having girls react crazily over your approach; rather, it is about calibrating smoothly, making good calls, having your timing in check, and being able to handle logistics.
In this post, we will discuss “why” tight game should not be easily perceived. What are the benefits of being low key? Why is it a good thing that nobody sees you as the player guy? Keep on reading, because I believe this is a key subject that can’t be covered enough. It may have a direct impact on your dating and pick-up success.
Alek demonstrates how to build and use social proof to pick up a
girl in a nightclub. See loads of social proof building examples and
demonstrations on the way to the pickup.
Hey, guys. I’m finishing this year off with a report that will cover an event that took place last weekend. The idea here is to give you a story that will be entertaining, present some techniques, and give you an example of how they are used in real life.
Here at Girls Chase, we cover a lot of techniques, new ideas, new tricks, and solutions to issues you face in your dating life. However, in some cases, reports can be useful in order to demonstrate:
The context in which the techniques are used
How many techniques are used over the course of a night, and how they contribute
Which techniques fit different situations (how to analyze the situation and decide which techniques to use)
Which techniques work well with others
How it all comes together in a seduction
This can be a great addition to the actual posts covering the original concepts shared on this website. It helps put things into perspective.
For this occasion, I will be using the following techniques and strategies:
Social Proof in Nightclubs: Jumps, Momentum, and Girl Circles
3 Ways to Use Social Proof to Be Scaldingly Attractive to Women
Fractionate Your Eye Contact, and Make Your Eye Contact Mesmerizing
These will be the main concepts applied in this report. Things like opening, escalation, and other basics will of course be applied, too.
I know many of you are fans of my sex talk and were hoping for me to give you one of those reports. I will try to make more of those. The reason I chose this subject is because serious verbal seduction requires you to be able to talk without too much interruption. Where I live, the smoking areas tend to allow for that. Unfortunately, during the winter, it is too cold to do this outside, which means I have to stick to indoor club game, which makes sex talk difficult. I also think variation in the content of my reports is a good thing. Previously, we covered sexual tension; before that, we covered a typical verbal seduction night, and so on. Today we will focus on “social game,” although I will use some sexual gambits!
On the night in question, I was wearing black Chelsea boots (must have), a black sweater, a long necklace, a red bomber jacket with some cool “Chinese dragon” prints, and tight black jeans. With my long hair, I looked like a 70s rockstar.
A bit of background on the night: I was in this venue till 2am, and I left as a result of some drama with one of my girls. I had to let her go, which kinda sucked. In other words, my mood was not great. However, when shit like this happens, the best call is to venue change (go somewhere else). This report takes place in the new venue.
If you’re already in a chat with girls, it’s easy to both excite
those girls and set up backup plan girls… by stepping away for a second
to meet someone else.
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I’ve got some more great pickup tech for you guys. Hopefully by the end of this year, you will have a huge arsenal. This post is primarily related to social proof, which we have covered a lot here in September and October. And you may be asking, “Alek, why didn’t you just share this technique while covering those other aspects of social proof?”
I have only one answer to that: Well, I just discovered this technique.
Yes, I am going out every weekend – and sometimes weekdays. I am out there meeting girls, banging girls, and discovering new strategies, techniques, and tactics all the time. This means I am sometimes sharing my techniques as I discover them. And in case you’re wondering, I give them 3-5 field tests before sharing in order to secure their validity and also get to observe their nuances. I believe techniques are best served fresh. I hope you are enjoying it.
Either way, let’s get on with it. Note that this technique is made primarily for night game (bars, clubs, house parties, etc.).
GM style: a crass, irreverent, and utterly hilarious way to make
women horny, excited... and ready to hop in bed quick.
In 1999, an American expat in Paris named Nathan Szilard commented online about a talented natural seducer in a bar he kept running into:
“There’s that guy -- looks like an heroin addict, looks fortyish (but might be younger), dressed in black and/or like shit, skinny, tall, wrinkled, never smiles ... and gets laid like a rock star.”
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One day, at that bar – the same place Nathan always spied this guy – he chatted up a pair of girls. Suddenly, the guy showed up, flashed Nathan an amused grin, and swooped in to talk with the cuter of Nathan’s two girls.
Two minutes in, the guy asked someone for a pen and paper and took the girl’s phone number.
Five minutes in, Nathan excused himself to the washroom... and walked in on the guy and his girl making out with their hands all over each other.
Impressed and amazed, Nathan dubbed this guy the ‘Grand Master’... or ‘GM’ for short. And over the next year or so, Nathan Szilard befriended and worked to decipher the game of this guy he dubbed ‘GM’.
Note: If you are a beginner
dater, probably don’t try to use GM style. You risk awkward creepiness
if you botch your delivery. Focus on less edgy
stuff first. For the
more advanced guys (or the still-curious beginners), read on...
One of Nathan’s earliest analyses of GM style was this:
“Hm trying to recollect what I forgot to mention in my earlier post.
He makes it clear right away that he wants sex. He explained it to me. He does not really understand what is going on, me thinks.
He does not compliment.
I explained him the concept of neg hit; he disagreed ... YET HE DOES IT ALL THE TIME. Well, it’s not NEGs, it’s more like ‘vannes’ as I explained once, that’s to say, taking the piss on her. So he fucked that German yesterday, and before that, made a few (light) jokes about Germans, then ‘apologized’ by hugging/kissing her.
He takes every opportunity to go kino [touch]. I’ve already mentioned that.
He claims that he does not act the same with every woman. I asked him about some place that’s packed with model-types full-bitch-shielded types, how do you handle that I asked, and he said, “You don’t get it, you don’t do the same thing there, I’ll explain you later.”
He asks boring questions, name, job, then joke on it, and when I say JOKE, I mean FUCKING LAME jokes.
To a German: “you speak German really well!”
To a Japanese: “you speak Japanese really well!”
To an Italian: “you speak Italian really well!”Original, heh? And on top of that he said it several times to the same girl. “You really speak German well! LOL “.”
For a time, Grand Master style (or GM style), a method of strong
sexual direct jokes, chase frames, and sexual intent, became one of the
most popular methods in the pick up artist (PUA) community, alongside
Mystery Method and Gunwitch Method.
These days it’s largely forgotten.
But it shouldn’t be. It’s a different, fresh, and highly irreverent approach to bedding girls in a hurry – and the Grand Master still has lots to teach.
Each girl needs you to show a somewhat different amount of
interest in her at different phases of the courtship. There are 3 keys
to this: her interest, her type, and calibration.
A few weeks back, a reader commenting on my article “The Single Guy’s Guide to Starting Fresh in a New City” asked a few questions, including this one:
“How to show interest while maintaining a sense of mystery and make her wonder whether or not you like her?”
The only short answer to that question is ‘it depends’. It’s calibration. Some girls you show more interest in, some girls less.
The long answer involves a few steps: you need to know how interested she is, you need to know whether she responds better to aloof men or interested men, and you need to calibrate accordingly.
