Women aren’t the only ones who will take you for a ride. Men do
it too. Find out how to not get suckered by conniving crooks.
Welcome the third installment in the ‘hard target’ series.
In the first installment, I covered how to be a hard
targeting dater,
and not get taken for a ride by girls who only want to use you as a
friend, meal ticket, network connection, or source of validation.
In Part II, I detailed how to be a hard target in your
relationships,
and avoid girls who will use you just to rebound, gold-dig, leapfrog
over you socially and romantically, or suck the life out of you while
they pretend to be in-need.
In this article, we leave dating aside and look at two-timers in
general. Not just dates and girlfriends, but anyone you’ll meet in any
context. Friends, business contacts, extended family members. How do you make yourself someone who’s hard
to take advantage of?
As with the other installments, we’ll look at who the people who
seek to take advantage of you are. And I’ll give you a few ways to firm
up your sides and be unassailable to these types of folks.
Do you need to sleep with every girl on the first date? The
answer: no, but it helps. Sometimes a lot.
Often enough we’ll get someone on the Girls Chase forums who, after
following the GC model of “move faster,” will begin to
question the validity of said model.
Usually it’s because he finds the majority of chicks he meets up
with won’t sleep with him on the first date... or, when he does go for the first-date lay, he crashes,
burns, and never hears from her again, no matter how much he persists.
Usually his inquiries are focused on women of higher quality (more
beautiful or popular) and he suspects they aren’t prone to sleeping
with men quickly.
Well, that’s actually true – beautiful girls with high self-esteem
are much less likely to sleep around, as they’ve learned from a young
age just how in-demand they are and how easily they can rope men in to
relationships without having to give up sex.
However, this doesn’t change the fact that these women will have sex
with you on a first date/meeting. Not
only is it possible, it’s better, because the quicker you sleep
with her, the more likely she is to date you, and not those other
dudes. We will answer why in this article.
Now, this is important: to most naturals (like myself), it isn’t
really about strategy – it’s about desire. When you ask us why it’s
important to sleep with a girl on the first date, the answer is
“because I want to sleep with her.” To understand this mindset, divorce
yourself from strategic, categorical thinking for a moment.
You see a girl with a nice ass, busty tits, or a beautiful face –
you want to have sex with her, without a doubt. Why would you NOT want
to have sex with her as quickly as possible? This thought is in fact a
much higher order of frame and masculine thinking than the “how do I
keep her or seem most dominant?” mindset, even if it seems simpler or
more primal. It’s rooted firmly in the man’s desire (i.e., your frame).
On a slightly more academic level, I addressed this question of lay
speed in my article on moving fast without rushing.
My thesis was
simple – because time is irrelevant
to women, why not move fast?
If a
woman feels sexually or emotionally connected (or both), she will have
sex with you quickly.
Thirty minutes after meeting you, an hour into
the first date, or without even a first date and straight to your
house, etc. (also, for clarification, a first date can also include the
first time you meet her out. Basically, the first time you have any
significant chance of sleeping with her, be it at a bar, coffee shop,
or a predetermined meeting)
The only higher-tier counterargument to this mindset that I can
surmise, and one I’ve seen a few times, is if it takes you longer to
sleep with a girl, that ensures her chances of cheating are lessened,
because if it was hard for YOU to get her, then imagine how hard it
will be for those OTHER guys. Well, we’ll cover that one, too.
However, many guys still wonder why it’s important that you sleep
with her on the first date or meeting.
But first we need to address the primary question.
When guys hit a wall, they try to out-game girls, confess their
feelings, or walk away. None of those options work all that perfect,
though.
Ever been in a situation with a girl where you know she likes you,
but she’s cagey. And you’re pulling your hair out trying to get her to
do
something... anything with
you. But you’re on the verge of giving up? And you think maybe she’s on
the verge of auto-rejection?
Most guys respond to this one of three (3) ways:
They try to out-game her (“Maybe if I do X, I’ll get her”)
They drop their feelings and hope (“I’ll just confess my
emotions”)
They give up and walk away (“Screw it, this isn’t going anywhere”)
If you’ve read my article on giving girls parting shots,
this one’s going to be similar to that. The exception is that you won’t
be doing this as you part with her. Instead, this is how you get her to
cut the games. To do it, you’re going to tell her what the deal is...
with an asterisk.
The women of the 1910s and 1920s had a lot more in common with
the women of the 1990s, 2000s, and 2010s than you might suspect.
I’m usually anathema to making predictions, since these so often
turn out wrong. However, the pendulum seems to be swinging in earnest,
so at this point I think I am more pointing out a shift that’s already
started and probably isn’t able to be derailed. So let’s get to it.
From 2015 into 2016, we in the West experienced what a lot of
writers on the
Internet have dubbed ‘peak SJW’. Victim mentality hit its
shrillest levels, the concept of certain groups as ‘privileged’ and
thus ‘the enemy’ reached boiling point, and efforts to censor, outlaw,
or subjugate target groups hit their apogee.
This phenomenon, of ‘peak SJW’ (Social Justice Warrior), followed
the trend all movements follow in the ‘boiling point’ period. That is,
they rise to a fevered pitch, then one of two things happen:
They use this momentum to topple over and completely crush their
enemies, or
They spin themselves out against an indomitable foe, run out of
gas, and enter decline
Movements work the same as tests or challenges in this
regard. So long as the movement is able to gain concessions from its
adversaries, it becomes more and more powerful. But as the movement
begins to run into walls, or see its efforts backfire, it begins to
lose steam. It loses, and the negative momentum of being on the losing
side piles up. A reverse winner effect takes hold
within the movement.
Why the Social Justice movement was ultimately unsuccessful in
crushing its opponents in the West is beyond the scope of this article.
However, I will note that successful Social Justice movements at other
points in history that eventually achieved more or less full
suppression of their
enemies have been more careful to incorporate majority groups in their
ranks, rather than target said majority groups as the object of their
offense.
That aside, the point of this
article is to give you a few
predictions about how to expect women’s behavior to shift over the next
couple of years.
If you don’t touch her, it’ll be awkward. Yet touch even in and
of itself is attractive in its own right.
As you guys know, I am making a series on non-verbal seduction.
I
started by covering body positioning and eye contact, and will now
cover one of the most crucial topics in non-verbal seduction – physical
escalation – which you accomplish with touch.
I know… there are a lot of posts regarding this topic here on Girls
Chase:
However, I believe pedagogically speaking, it is a good
thing to get the same material explained in different ways, with
different structure and different context.
And there will likely be a
few things in here that you have never thought of.
I will do my best to
add in some juice for you veterans, but I will also cover a few basics
in order to recap key ideas while providing a good introduction for new
readers.
Due to the importance of the subject of touching in regards to
non-verbal seduction, I have decided to make this a three-part post;
this first installment will cover more theoretical implications, while
the next will be more practical. Further down the road, I plan to cover
different ways of touching in addition to more advanced concepts, such
as the “ladder,” mutual escalation, and the use of fractionation in
touching.
Let us begin this post by explaining why physical escalation is key
– and I am sure the explanation will cover more than what you
originally anticipated.
This is our second article in the three part “How to Dress Case
Studies” series. You can check out the first part here.
If you haven’t read the first part, let me quickly remind you what
this article series is all about:
To show you how tailoring your image and dressing sexy comes to into
play in the real world, we’ve taken three guys (one for each article in
the series) with unique situations – age, physique, complexion,
climate, and their goals with women and image. And we’ll be tailoring a
few outfits they could very successfully rock in their daily lives and
when meeting women.
To protect the privacy of those who volunteered to participate in
these case studies, I’ve cut out their faces from the pictures and
designated them with one-letter nicknames.
Today’s case study is W, and he just might be the most challenging
and fascinating of them all.
Natural and nightclub bouncer, A2daMIR wielded a unique and
masterful
approach to seduction... Focused on turning the tables on girls.
One of the all-time best posters on the now-defunct mASF seduction
forum was a guy named A2daMIR. A2daMIR was a Boston-based nightclub
bouncer who
routinely pulled off brilliant pickups... Typically
with hot and bitchy girls. His ribald sexual humor was one of
my inspirations for chase framing, but he has tech
beyond just innuendo.
A2daMIR long claimed that his success came from having big muscles.
He worked out hard for a number of years to build a ripped body, and
after he reached a certain point, that’s when he noted his sexual
results began to shoot up. Yet if you ask me, it was A2daMIR’s
brain, not his body, that was
the biggest factor in his success with girls. I’ve seen tons of
extremely muscular men with dog-ugly girls, and had one of the most
muscular guys I’ve ever known (this guy was absolutely HUGE) break down
in tears to me about how he was never going to find a girl. A2daMIR had
something these other muscle-bound guys didn’t.
Which is not to rag on muscles (muscles are great). If you have the
time to build them,
muscles are a real boon, although the greatest boon seems to be the
intimidation factor they have on other men, and your own feeling of
confidence to be ballsy and asshole-ish (when you choose to be) without
having to worry about getting clobbered by some meathead who doesn’t
like what you have to say. Perhaps also your sex drive; lifting hard
and heavy over a sustained amount of time generates huge amounts of
testosterone (and the sex drive to match). Muscles also have a certain
curiosity factor
for most girls, girls do find them attractive, and certain women have
‘muscle fetishes’ (the same way some guys like girls with huge breasts,
or big behinds, or muscular legs, etc.). However, these are beside the
point.
In this article, I’m going to introduce you to what I view as
A2daMIR’s most defining signature: his
ability to maintain his frame with hot, bitchy, defiant girls, in a way
that both turns the tables on them and draws them in at the same time.
And to illustrate this, I’m going to use excerpts from a couple of
reports of his... And break down the tactics he uses.
To get a one-night stand, go to where the girl-guy ratios are
higher and the atmosphere is hookup-oriented. Approach early and move
fast. Invite girls home.
So you want to hook up with a girl and get a one-night stand. Go
out, lock eyes with her, walk up to her, smile at her, say hello. Then,
not so long after, take her hand and lead her out of there... Straight
back to your place or hers. Off come the clothes, and into bed you go.
Sounds simple enough.
Over a decade ago, when I set out to teach myself success with
girls, one-night stands were my second focus. My first focus was how to
get a phenomenal girlfriend (and you can read my guide on how to get a girlfriend here).
It took me a little while to get that first one-night stand, because
I did not know what I was doing. But once I figured out how to get
them, I got
better and better at doing so. After I'd put enough work (and a few
years) in, I could just about get one-night
stands on command. At that point I'd achieved a major personal
milestone: the
ability to hook up with girls whenever I wished.
In this article, based on a decade of my own experience hooking up
with girls and getting one-night stands, I show you how to do it. In
addition,
I've tapped 15 scientific studies that will open your eyes to a few
elements of one-night stands you likely did not know. And I've laid
it all out in simple, clear instructions.
So let's dive in! Let's show you how to get a one-night stand...
tonight.
Pedro Pascal’s portrayal of Oberyn Martell is unabashedly sexy. What makes his character so compelling? Fundamentals, panache, and finesse.
There are times in life when we cross paths with men – real men –
men whose very presence sparks a reaction within us: “Wow, here is a
man. I want to be just like him.”
This particular awe-inspiring male personality may differ from
person to person, but each of us have had that experience. Whether it’s
a father figure, a brother figure, a mentor, or a perfect stranger, we
hope to spend enough time around that person to absorb their traits and
learn what they know about masculinity, life, and women.
However, in a world where masculinity is becoming more demonized and
ridiculed, these men aren’t so easy to come by, and they aren’t always
in a position to teach us in a meaningful way. These days, it’s common
to be without access to powerful male role models. Sometimes all we
have to rely on are books and film. We watch a movie, a TV show, or
read a book... and into the scene strolls a man – he may be fictional,
but goddamn is he mesmerizing. So we pay attention.
We often connect more with someone on a screen or page than we do
with anyone else in real life. Personally, there are a host of
fictional characters who have played a more substantial role in my
growth as a man than most real men I’ve met. They were ideals of the
writer or creator transformed into beings worthy of emulation. And this
is nothing new. Ever since the first story was told, men have emulated
the traits of their heroes, real or fictional.
The inception of this series actually began with Giacomo Casanova.
While reading his memoirs, I thought “This guy’s story needs to be told
in a modern form.” I planned on rewriting his adventures, then deeply
analyzing his lays (which number over a hundred and include royalty) so
that GC readers wouldn’t have to work their way through the beautiful
yet difficult translations of his 17th century Italian.
When I dropped that project, however, a very similar idea came to me
– why not analyze the many men of television, cinema, literature, and
history, who are outstanding examples of power and sensuality?
Thus was born “Seduction Spotlight.” The name should speak for
itself.
I will show you in detail how these characters seduce women,
dominate their foes, and exemplify other masculine pursuits, such as
achieving one’s dreams. Through this analysis you should then be able
to truly understand how they do what they do, and, in turn, do it
yourself (adhering to the laws of your land and time, of course).
With this inaugural article, then, I will shine that spotlight on my
personal favorite, Oberyn Martell of the TV show Game of Thrones,
inspired by the Song of Fire and Ice book series written by
George R.R. Martin. Oberyn Martell is played by the actor Pedro Pascal.
Since Oberyn’s character only aired for a little under forty minutes
in the fourth season of Game of Thrones, I cover nearly all his scenes
in order to highlight his fundamentals, game, and mindsets. I’ll cite
the episodes if you want to follow along on your HBO Go, but I’ll also
provide YouTube links for each scene (some YouTube vids are censored).
Here are a pair of videos that cover every scene he’s in if you want
a
compilation:
Seductive eye contact is about more than eyelids and gaze
direction. With these 3 basic eye contact rules, plus a few advanced
tactics, you’ll melt her.
Lately I have been making posts on non-verbal seduction.
Non-verbal
seduction is a lot of fun and has a lot of benefits – such as being
possible in loud clubs. If you’d like my lesson on pulling off verbal
seduction in a loud club, here it is: you can’t. This is why those of
us (myself included) who enjoy using fancy verbals tend to avoid loud
clubs or stick to smoking and lounge areas.
But this will no longer be a problem, for today we will go further
down the rabbit hole of non-verbal seduction. One common misconception
is that non-verbal seduction is easier than verbal seduction. This is
wrong. However, it is important to keep in mind that it is easier to
occasionally “get lucky” and enjoy freebies with non-verbal seduction.
Becoming consistent and enjoying
repeated success, on the other hand,
is hard. This requires more than just “gazing her down” and
touching
her like a caveman.
This forces us to become more calibrated and develop more than a
simple “trained eye” and that “smooth vibe” that usually
results from
field experience. To achieve success and avoid failure, it is still a
prerequisite to gain knowledge. And in order to get good at non-verbal
seduction, one has to get deeper in the analysis of those concepts,
which at first glance to a “clueless” eye, may seem banal. For good
non-verbal seduction, the devil is indeed in the details.
In last week’s article, we discussed the oftentimes overlooked yet
crucial subject of positioning. Today’s topic, eye contact,
is no
different. Now, keep in mind that this post, the previous post, and the
upcoming posts related to non-verbal seduction will cover techniques
that can also be used when delivering verbals; for example,
eye contact is obviously key in any form of seduction but is absolutely
vital in non-verbal seduction – for obvious reasons, these are the only
tools you have at your disposal when verbals are rendered useless. When
given fewer “tools” to operate with, perfection is required.
