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New Relationship? Don’t Blow It; Do These 8 Things

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A new relationship can be a time of great excitement, passion, butterflies, and anticipation of what’s to come. Or… it can be a disaster, and over just as quickly as it started.

I’m sure we’ve all been there. It’s a terrible feeling to get caught up in all of that excitement and emotion one day only to have it all taken away from you the next.

So how do you avoid this unfortunate scenario? I’m going to show you the 8 things you need to do to make sure that your new relationship starts off of on good footing and continues as smoothly as it can.

Colt WilliamsAbout the Author: Colt Williams

Raised in the American Midwest, Colt Williams made a name for himself in dating with a style based on soulful poetic seductions and playful dance floor antics. His style is all about inspiring girls and drawing them into one’s world. You can book phone coaching with him here, or get a copy of his guide to getting laid on Tinder, the product of months of study and experimentation by him on the medium.


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daviddreamer's picture

Good write up. This was solid. I am engaged and getting married soon but hey I always remind myself of the fundamentals. You guys are the man at GirlsChase keep up the great work your articles have done my life a great service I'm very appreciative.

JJ's picture

Hey chase, excellent article as usual. I was wondering if you could clear a few points for me ( a little off topic). In your articles you say to get the girls number and ask her out on a high point rather than do it at the end of the conversation. I'm curious on how this works when cold approaching with a direct opener, because in this I thought you want to be brief and get to the point of the interaction rather than keep it going. Thanks for all your great work, it's helped my life out tremendously!

Richard's picture

Damn Colt -

I was planning on writing an article very similar to this because I'm being enticed to write again... Even had the rough draft written and everything =P

The only nuance I'd like to point is something with setting expectations - for guys who regularly have a hard time pointing out the bad things they see in the relationship or saying what's on their mind, properly setting the expectation makes it much easier to say what you actually want to say.

So, in a way it makes handling some conflicts a hell of a lot easier ;)


Eugene's picture

Very solid article Colt. This is something I'll definitely be saving and referencing in the future.

Wolf's picture

Hey colt, you have any tips on picking up chicks offline as a black guy? I see we don't get a lot of love on there and chicks even say, no African Americans. How the hell do you beat that? I'm mostly talking about tinder, pof, and okc.

Thanks bro.

Wolf's picture

Colt, I know you like to grind on girls in the club. Can you give me some tips to be more successful? I also noticed girls are racist to me a lot and won't dance with black guys. Idk if it might be different for you, im a dark skin man. Are you light or dark? I ask because other races tend to be more kind to a lighter brother.

And do you think you can make an article about getting all races of girls as a dark skin brother?


David Riley's picture

Hey Wolf,

I'm actually around the complexion of Kevin Hart. One of the best tricks I learned on how to grind on a girl is grabbing her hips and proper target selection. Here are girls whom you want to avoid:

*Girls dancing in groups of just girls, they usually come out for fun. Their friends will pull them away from you.

*Girls will drinks in their hands, the reason is because they may become startled and spill their drink of you

*Girls who had no intention of dancing with guys in the first place, these are the girls who will be denying guys all night. I once stood off to the side at a club and saw a girl deny guy and after guy. Some girls just genuinely just want the attention.

Girls who you want to approach:
*Girls who are twerking by themselves and their friends are twerking. I once thought my friend was crazy when he first told me to grind on one. I grabbed the hips and pulled her in. You gotta give her that "You know you want it look." Girls will be really receptive of you

*Girls who are looking around, these girls came out to find a guy. They are on the dance most of the time dancing, You can smoothly come up to them and start dancing. Spin them around and start grinding. This is one of my favorite methods, just so I can see their face.

*Girls dancing with multiple guys, honestly I love these girls. They are there to have fun and actually came to dance. I recommend that new grinders look for these types of girls. Stand off to the side and notice the different guys she grinds on. You can potentially be next if your timing is right,

The actual grab, you never want to pinch the girl or ask a girl to "grind" or "dance". You just want to walk up and just assume she wants it and will like it. I would also go as far as to not breathe on her neck either. Also, don't look menacing when you approach. I normally wear bright color clothes to help girls not get alarmed. I will definitely say as a black guy your style has to be really tight. If girls don't like your style they won't let you grind on them. However, once you're grinding your in the clear. I love bending girls over and rubbing their pussy. Anyway hope that helps.

Take care,

Just Dave

Anonymous's picture

Great write up mate, thoroughly enjoyed that one and as always, solid advice.


Anonymous's picture

Hey Colt,

Much needed article since I've entered a relationship recently. These factors to discuss are defo things to be sorted out early as they smoothen things out in the long term, as will be the case hopefully.

Theres one thing though, one rough edge I need some guidance with, how do I define the line for my girl to not be anti social with guys who are approaching her but also keeping them within the boundaries where if they overstep she should shut them down? How do i talk to her about this? I know the intentions of these guys who approach her, amd it isn't for being just friends. from your side would be great,

Thanks in advance,


David Riley's picture

Hey Anon,

The best way to handle this is frame it equally in her mind. "It's awesome that we're together and I know people hit on you, I'm glad that you never let it go too far."

It lets her know that you're not jealous if guys hit on her, and you're holding her responsible for her actions. You're not judging her and you're giving her your trust that you believe already that she won't let it go too far. She may say something like "That rights" or "I hope you don't let it go too far too." In the case of the latter you would want to address as "We're a team, I wouldn't want to hurt our team." You're not denying that you don't have other options, you're just saying you're not currently using them.

Here are some articles as well:
Prevent Cheating
How to Stop Games
Relationship Jealousy

Hope these help

Take care,

Just Dave

Anonymous's picture

I would like to know, and maybe you can help me based on my explanation. I've been in a relationship with a girl for about a month now. This girl and I have known each other for just over a year. We stopped talking for about 8 months. She expressed interest in a relationship with me when we were hooking up last year and subsequently hurt me with her indecision and her drug addiction/party lifestyle. However in the last 2 months or so we started dating again and she has even moved in.

We have a dog now and several animals as well. She makes supper, cleans the house and has my lunch ready by the time I get hone. What I'm really trying to get to the bottom of is this, I nnod to know if there is actually enough attraction towards me from her.

My doubt's stem from a few factors
-we've taken photos together and they never end up on Facebook yet takes pictures with my roommates and tags them all the time.
-talks about how horny she is and when I initiate she rejects me or says that she only wants a quickie, she used to dress up for me but now, no.
- I bought her a bracelet when I asked her out a nice one but not overly fancy. I have never seen her wear it since I gave it to her (because she is afraid to lose it, I'm told)
There are some things there and I'm wondering what you think based on what I've told you and how to tip the scales more in my favor. I've stopped texting her completely during the day. And only replying hours later.

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