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Meeting Girls While Staying Safe in a Paranoid Dating Society

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It's grown trickier and trickier for bachelor men to navigate the dating world… without getting snared by a scorned woman's revenge. Here's how to stay safe out there.

"Every man is a potential rapist."

So goes the pop culture wisdom sweeping the West right now. 'Rape culture' hysteria has built to a fevered pitch throughout the 2010s, to the point where hiding under every bed, lurking inside every wardrobe, a Rapist lies in wait... eager to pounce on his hapless victim and ravage her with his Weapon of Oppression, the penis.

I try not to go into culture-specific issues too much on Girls Chase. Same with era-specific issues. "This too will pass"; and once it's over people will find it insane and unrelatable. "Was it really that bad?" they will ask.

We've talked about all this stuff on Girls Chase before in different articles. Today's is a bit of a tie-up article though, because as the West hits peak hysteria, Western men's paranoia is peaking as well. I see more and more and more stuff from men who are freaking out that talking to women or sleeping with them is going to land them in a penitentiary, with the 'sex offender' label slapped to their backs forever when they get out.

So let's talk about staying safe meeting girls in a hysterical, paranoid dating society.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



Tony Depp's picture

Who was it that said insanity in the individual is rare, but in the masses it's the norm? 

You can blame Feminism, or Marxism, but I think the real culprit is social media. 

There was a time when if you were nuts, only your family would have to deal with it. Now you can use the Internet to infect the entire planet. 

Motiv's picture

The goal of mainstream news use to be about just reporting. Giving people the facts.

Now it’s about influencing the mass’s emotions.

She enters your world… not the other way around.
Tweak your way to the top ;)

Dude on boards's picture

Haha yeah, she wasn’t super hot by any means. I broke up with a girl I really liked (and who was a model and has a higher IQ than I do) and Tinder girl just barely qualified as a rebound. Also the sex was terrible.

I wasn’t mean to her but she probably did feel used. But like damn woman I did ask you twice what you wanted. 

I’m err on the side of paranoia now and just keep an audio recorder handy at all times. Just double check that where you live it’s legal (and that might be a better risk than the alternative). That’s just me though

Mr.Rob's picture

Funny note by Tony D, ya social media is a massive influence downloading propaganda directly into the consumers brain. Its a lot more powerful than people give credit for.

My comment is that not only is it a super bummer to get a false rape accusation rape charge but from what I've heard that rape/sex charges are the worst charges to go into the penitentiary with. Correctional officers often tip off to other inmates when a sex offender enters a block and when inmates get wind of sex offenders, false or not, its typically a green light to assault that sex offender definitely physically and potentially sexually.

My point is that its a shame FRA's put innocent guys in prison but even more a shame that its the worst charge to enter the penitentiary with.

If you can't do that type of time be wise in your dealings and heed Chase's advice in this article.

Jimbo's picture

Come on, dude! You're comparing the MGTOW guys to men who get raped in prison or those who give up their women in wars? I know you're not fan of those guys, but there was no need to get so graphic and tear them down like that. Especially that the comparison doesn't hold - a guy who gets raped in prison make give in out of fear, but for most of those MGTOWs, it's more out of "I'm not getting the best bang for my buck."

Here's the thing...

Society decided to increase the cost of getting females. So naturally, a chunk of men who weren't all that hard-up on female companionship decided the cost isn't worth the product anymore, especially if they can get their thrills in some other way than the traditional dating scene. If you want to jump through the additional hoops society puts for you and spend additional resources in time, energy, money, and so on, that's fine. But no need to imply you're more manly for it, or those who don't less. You just value chicks more than they do, enough to bear the additional cost, that's all. And I'm sure they're willing to sacrifice more for other things they value more.

Also, some girls will suffer at least as much deprivation. I mean, they can't all find another guy, since the male/female ratio is 50:50. So if a chunk of males opts out, a chunk of females will remain without a guy.

So you know, I don't think any side in this merits more praise or esteem than the other. And I'm in neither at the moment - meaning neither on the prowl looking for chicks, not completely out of the market. I'm just your regular Joe with a steady girlfriend who has barely enough leisure time to see her every other day. It's just about what different people value more, depending on their circumstances, options, and their own subjective desires. So no need for either side to put the other down for choosing this or that path.

You'll notice I didn't spend much time commenting on the rest of this piece and the tips you put forward for the men on the hunt, or why some of these girls do what they do, and that's because I agree with pretty much all of it lol. Great advice as usual.

Motiv's picture

So much for my prestigious professional position as part of my sexual market value. Gotta cover that up now.

So much for taking a girl home, or even doing it in the venue itself. Now it’s her place or nothing.

And so much for asshole game. Will have to either be nice all the time (and expect dry pussy more often than not), or go full on Byronic mode (kinda my thing anyway…)

Not to mention the increased difficulty this places on passing ‘shit’ tests…

The whole thing sucks. For both men AND women. This is why I play aloof game. Build muscles at home (and stay lean), wear the sexiest outfits possible, and just sit at the bar in reverent solitude. This works, albeit with slow results. Some women will approach and make it clear they want sex. Then, hope she’s willing to take YOU home and not the other way around…

It won’t happen often, but it’s a work around for the hysteria of the times.


P.S. I’m fortunate enough to have a few women in my life to sleep with regularly, and I thank Chase for getting me started on this journey. Public hysteria aside, my life has never been better! :)

P.P.S. I just learned that the word hysteria is related to the word hysterectomy, making it kinda sexist to use. Fitting though, huh? :p

She enters your world… not the other way around.
Tweak your way to the top ;)

SZ's picture

What's so good about it being over 20 years from now for us? 

We're all going to be old as hell!!

Unless you think pick up will be more normal with older men in their 40s and 50s.

Motiv's picture

Take it from a guy who went from incel in his 20’s to having a mini harem, going on 40 in a few months: men can age well. Just lift, save, and stay focused on your life.


She enters your world… not the other way around.
Tweak your way to the top ;)

Jimbo's picture

Chase, this is off-topic yet extremely relevant. I don't know if you came across this horror of an opinion piece (cause it made quite a buzz lately). But if you didn't, please read it and give it a comment (if not an outright) essay:

With some of these feminists, or just women, it's like damned if you and if you don't.

Motiv's picture

Your comment is EXACTLY where Red Pill awareness comes in. Women are inherently schizophrenic.

My opinion: err on the side of unapologetic masculine dominance, and both parties generally win. Err on the side of sympathy, and prepare to get fucked by a feminine primary system (male apologists fail by trying to play both sides of the fence… just be a genuine dude – see articles by Hector on this site).


P.S. AVOID contact with extreme feminist women. They are bad apples.

She enters your world… not the other way around.
Tweak your way to the top ;)

Motiv's picture

Women throw bullshit in our faces all the damned time. In PUA terms, we call that a ‘shit test.’ If you cannot even stand up to HER bullshit, how can she rely on you to protect and lead her through life?

Laughter is one VERY effective way to pass the test.  Unfortunately, some opportunistic women will try to use that as evidence of malicious behavior on your part.

Again, do your best to avoid such troubled women.


She enters your world… not the other way around.
Tweak your way to the top ;)

Motiv's picture

So long as society is eagerly throwing males under the bus (especially if you’re white), why not just go out and rape for real?

Be a caveman. Be a fuckin savage. Only thing holding me back is my inner conscience (programming I’ve been rewriting ever since I found this site… I’ll get there).

This article hit me hard, and all my colleagues are on the opposite side of the fence as me. Can’t deal with this shit anymore. Every time  I see a woman that turns me on (which is most) I think, “social death around the corner? Should I even care at this point?”

Just brainstorming as I write here… some reading this would no doubt love to hand me over to the chopping block as well.

BRING IT ON. Let’s go!

I studied with this man. I listened to his live concerts. The world did. I am still inspired by everything he is about.

Anyhow, maybe this is what it’s all about: take the risk and don’t look back. In the words of Ed Lattimore, “that’s the life of a dude.”

Can’t live forever, and what dead people care about legacies anyway…


P.S. And you know what I just thought? The ‘savage’ might just stand a better chance in the court of public opinion. Nice, respectful men are not allowed to have sex… but savages? People don’t seem to have a problem with them.

She enters your world… not the other way around.
Tweak your way to the top ;)

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