When I was in college, a bunch of my floor mates wanted to know how to break the ice, and as a result started bandying around a new line to use with women. It went like this:
Guy: Hey, do you know how much a polar bear weighs?
Girl: No... how much?
Guy: Enough to break the ice! Hi, I'm Hal.
It's cute, but fortunately for you, there are many more ways you can use to break the ice with women that are a lot less cheesy than this.
Ice-breaking is a "line" than it is a technique, done properly. And there's more to ice-breaking than simply starting a new conversation.
In the article "How to Be Playful: 4 Tips You'll NEED," on the function of playfulness, I noted:
“Socially talented men employ playfulness for exactly TWO reasons:
... that's it. Playfulness only serves those two functions. They're two sides of the same coin, really - the "ice" that you break is really just the tension that comes before initiating a conversation where no one really knows what to say yet to do that.”
- Breaking the ice, and
- Reducing tension
And what I'm going to talk about in this article is exactly that - reducing tension, and breaking the ice. Although there are some differences between the two, there's a lot of overlap as well... so we'll cover both in this post.