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Personal Standards for the Moral Seducer

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One of the most destructive limiting beliefs that holds back many men is that having a promiscuous lifestyle in which one sleeps with beautiful women seems somehow morally wrong. To them, it seems that there’s something wrong with being attracted to someone and desiring passionate sex with them.

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It sounds silly when I put it like this, yet, unfortunately, in our minds this limiting belief rarely takes form as a simple, straightforward statement like this. If it did, getting rid of it would be easy.

No, instead it’s usually much more deceptive, and the result is that we find ourselves ashamed of our desires... we restrain ourselves from openly hitting on her and being sexual because we are afraid of public scrutiny, and when things don’t go our way, like she doesn’t reciprocate the attraction, just like a child who did something wrong, we feel the need to run back to our safe place.

The reasons why so many of us developed this unconscious belief that being sexual is wrong are diverse, but in most cases it boils down to social pressure to meet some very outdated norms.

But what if instead we operated in a manner so that deep down we knew that we were doing the right thing by trying to seduce her; by showing our sexual side? What if we knew that by leading the interaction towards sex we were also leading ourselves towards mutual happiness (or at least a happier state)?


Let me tell you that it’s liberating to play your part in the dance of seduction knowing consciously and unconsciously that you’re doing the right thing. Even more so, it does open up new doors, especially in social game.

Sadly, I can’t give you a surefire, step-by-step approach on how to overcome this limiting belief and instill in you a new one – every situation is unique and every man’s journey towards this goal will be different.

What I can do, is set you in the right direction by helping you establish a set of personal rules that you believe in: ones that will make sure that as long as you will abide them you will be true to yourself and in your mind you will be doing the right thing.

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Anonymous's picture

I actually have two experiences on boosting about your achievements and doing in fake way.
In some situations it led to me becoming amazing at the thing I said I know well when at given time I just was craving for attention and checking out whether it's worth having that skill. This was actually to much of a fault of basing everything on social approval.
And in some cases I actually started avoiding some people so that they never find out that I am fake - they always did.

Yeah, for the sake of your long term improvements it's better not to lie about your skills. Maybe a few times to see whether people would appreciate it at all and look what lives have those who do that stuff, this leads to deciding whether you want to emulate it or not.
But yeah, if you brag to everyone that you're amazing at computers, you will soon end up challenged and crushed if you have no real knowledge to back it up.

When you pretend to know stuff but are poor at it it's extremely tiring experience to maintain that illusion and people themselves get afraid to learn basics of the stuff they need because that would mean admitting for themselves that they are just fake shits.

Our minds are great at making up ideas, it's important to direct this power to creating amazing stuff instead of creating excuses :), great stuff!

Anonymous's picture

Talking about my past experiences in bed in the right situations has led me to women wanted to one up these past women even though I don't mention them by name. It's like a "can you to what SHE did" and not "can you top what I did" thing.

GoodGuy's picture

I like and understand your article, just for the sake of completeness I would like you to answer:
1) Do you tell girls that you're consider yourself a seducer and you look at dating as a skill?
2) If yes, when in the interaction?
3) If no, do you feel deep mutual emotional connection is possible in such situation where someone is hiding something important like this?

KnitterQueen's picture

We get influenced bu the (implicit) moralizng attitudes we find around us. A solution is seeking out different attitudes. Such can be found in articles like this one, but also in what is called the sex-positive movement.

Basically a bunch of nice hippies advocating the beauty and normalcy of expressed love, and, sometimes, the natural beauty of armpit hair in both males AND females - noone said you wouldn't end up with your own morality challenged on the other end of the spectrum ;)

Joking aside, reading books and articles from the sex-positive community is a nice antidote for the usual moralizing against sex. Judge for yourself.

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