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Spotting (and Avoiding) Cluster B Women

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cluster b womenAs you grow and mature, learning how to get better with women, some interesting things will happen to you as a man. Some things that seemed exciting begin to lose their thrill, while other new possibilities will pop up and prove themselves to be even more exhilarating than your earlier adventures.

Another thing that will happen, hopefully, is that your standards will raise for what kind of person you allow into your life. I'm not just talking about women, either: your standards will raise even for male friends and colleagues once you become more confident, find your voice, and begin to stand up for what you believe in.

As your standards increase, and you find yourself being more and more selective about whom you wish to join your reality, you will become more picky. As Chase has written on before, you may even stop dating party girls altogether - a move I wholeheartedly agree with. Sure, they're hot, and yeah, they're fun, but after a while you will begin to want more. You may want more stable relationships, with more grounded women, who can bring more to your life than a shiny new vagina.

And that brings me to the point of today's article. If you truly wish to create amazing relationships with the women in your life, picking up women is only part of the picture. In my opinion, it is equally important to learn how to avoid the types of women who would bring chaos and drama into your kingdom, crumbling your castle with a flick of her capricious wrist.

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chris60's picture

These comments were revealing for many reasons. Both men and women can suffer from Cluster B disorders, and they seem to attract each other in uncanny ways. In other words, narcissistic/anti-social men tend to attract borderline/hysterical women, and visa versa. If you like drama, hot sex and an empty wallet or trashed apartment then go for these types. If you prefer a stable calm life then avoid abusive people and do not invite retaliatory abuse through your own selfish behaviour. The tip appears to be to get to know someone better before diving into a relationship, and not to mistake sex for intimacy. If you want to flash the cash around to score hot sex then expect to attract a gold digger who creates chaos in your life. You want exciting and hot: try eating chili instead of letting your life be ruled by your penis. Both men and women want respect, but some people are clueless about how to behave respectfully. Using women/men for sex is as disrespectful as using men/women for money. Both reduce a person to an object.

Anonymous's picture

... is the medicine for dominating women pretending the damsel.

WalNuts's picture

I have to admit. I'm not always well "upstairs". But after 2 great psychotic incidents and my fair share of abusive relationships I'm much more cautious. Much more wise, thoughtful and picky. And I run to the hills when I notice more than one red flag.

Thankfully I had some therapy sessions so I'm more self aware of my own issues that drove me towards problematic women and why I did attract such women in a circle of death.

Sure, sometimes I miss the thrill and the excitement, but I'm not 18 any more. Keeping calm has its beauty as well and more importantly it is what will keep me alive for following years. Hopefully.

Someone once said that "philosophy is the study of our own (future) death". And I think I get it now.
Everyday is precious and I choose to spend it with people I appreciate and don't bring chaos in my intrinsically chaotic mind.

Again great article, keep it up !

Vanja Durakovic's picture

I am a woman who suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder, and I have also been in physically and emotionally abusive relationship, but I guess you won't believe me that because we tend to ˝exaggerate˝. What I wanted to say is that this is by far the stupidest and the most offensive article that I have ever read on the subject. Don't all the people deserve to be loved? You are advising people to stay away from ˝Cluster B˝ as if we were the embodiment of evil! I cannot believe that someone could write things like these! The only thing missing here is a suggestion to make concentration camps for Cluster B- women! Why don't you try do do that when you you're so eager to make people stay away from us?!

Anthonyo's picture

Concentration camps for Cluster B's is a great idea!

leo's picture

Well, he didn't say that Cluster B are evil; he even said that they don't do what they do because of personal malice, it's just that their behavior is extremely draining and causes mountain of problems.
You wrote, "Don't all the people deserve to be loved?" Would you go into a relationship with a paranoid schizophrenic who believes he's being spied on by the government? No, right? So why should we have to deal with all the problems a Cluster B woman brings?

You're a woman though, so you shouldn't worry, there will always be a man out there willing to be in a relationship with you no matter how crazy you are.

Vanja Duraković's picture

I wrote AS IF. Seriously? Comparing cluster B to paranoid schizophrenia? hahaha. I am sure that all of you here on a website called GIRLSCHASE are pretty normal people,no problems whatsoever! I dont worry at all , I am intelligent and people dont mind if I am a bit emotionally unstable... I bet if you guys here met me, you also wouldn't mind at all, so stop talking nonsense please

leo's picture

You are delusional as well.
Why would an attractive guy pick a beautiful & intelligent woman who is cluster B when there are millions of women like that who are NOT cluster B?

Any guy who is dating you is by definition low caliber. If he was high caliber, he would (and should) leave you immediately.

Vanja's picture

Well, I am sure that you really are high caliber when you need dating advice from the internet. Yes, there are millions of women who aren't cluster B, and they are all waiting just for you, you insensitive prick!

harrist's picture

some man will try to deal with you, but after time, they will realize its not worthy! of course most of crazy girls basically smart and beautiful ! but since your emotional are unstable so it will be hard for long term relationship!
last time I deal with unstable girls , first it was fun, she was smart, and have nice attitude! but once I make a mistakes! she dramatize my mistakes, almost every day and that's it! actually she already tell me that she have problems with his emotions and she really hate man! every time man approach her, she feel angry and mad! in fact she tell me that's she have girls friends! I said to her, I can deal with that! no worry! but after times, I realize, its not worthy! cause no matter what I always wrong! good news is, she have good time with girls friends! and also she is a lesbians! and I said to my self, next time if I have to deal with unstable girls, I think I am gonna pass! and find average/ugly woman! , cause I don't see any different! all girls all delicious ! lol :P

vanja's picture

Actually, I have had long term relationships, and I was always the one who decided to break up, and all of them wanted to date me again. And I am really picky when it concerns men, I wouldn't date anyone. You can look beyond a diagnosis. DSM is getting bigger and bigger every year, and all the psychiatrists say that they can easily pin a diagnosis to anyone. You guys think you are so normal ha? Perhaps you here are the ones people should avoid! You definitely lack empathy, and that has a name :)

Duxberry's picture

Hello Vanja,

A couple of things I'd like to say, first and foremost is the fact you said you are BPD, then went immediately to the negative in pointing out on your own volition, "but I guess you won't believe me that because we tend to ˝exaggerate˝. If that's the worst you do, I'm cool with that. However, if that is something you tend to do, along with "future faking" (making consistent romantic superlative references to a future you've no intention on ever actually having with someone), or if you're in the business of placing someone on a pedestal by inflating their ego, simply to have the thrill of dismantling everything YOU built, or if you are able to look someone you've pledged your undying love and commitment to, while at the same time are screwing who knows how many other guys, and girls, along with whatever Skype relationships you've got going on. Or if perhaps, you have a bent towards having a guy divulge the most painful memories, or deepest fears to you, simply so when you reach the devaluation phase of the relationship, in order to hopefully cause him to relive the most painful and/or embarrassing moments of his life, or if you just like screwing with people's minds, (mindfucking) them, just cause it's a form of entertainment to you, or if when you see you've successfully drained him of all the awesome traits he was known for before you infiltrated his life, so proceed to project all ur self loathing, shame, guilt, and every other weighted reality you've created for yourself onto him, and especially while doing this, you point to others, as you feign concern, and say to them, "see how crazy he is?", while you've worked behind the scenes for months prior to undermine the areas he once felt strong, and competent, and undermined his support system, by seducing his friends, family and basically anyone you perceive as reasonable, because of your sense of entitlement, that says everything is yours, then as a simple BPD, you're ok in my book. But if ANY OF THE ABOVE apply to you, please remove yourself from society, as laws are now FINALLY working in that direction, and if you're not, perhaps it would be wise to study up on your sister's bents on destroying us, before you're so quick to shame us for the need to avoid those who'd just as soon see us dead, as nothing more than a used tampon, they toss us in the discard.

Nic's picture

Yes its true, everyone deserves love. However, love doesn't come from external means.

Have you ever been abusive to your partner before?
If yes, then what you're basically doing is saying "He loves me, and I know I don't deserve to be loved, so I got to abuse him, so that he doesn't love me, because I don't deserve to be loved".

The bottom line is: "Do you let people love you?"
If you know that you are NPD/BPD, that means your level of awareness is reasonably high. If you really want love, then you have to heal yourself with a therapist. Because deep down, in your core, you don't allow yourself to be deserving of love.

Jacque's picture

Would you consider men or women who've been cheated on, as people who've been in an abusive relationship? What abt women who've tried to commit suicide? Do they fit into the Cluster B or women with low self esteem?

John Dough's picture

I can't believe you left out the queen of true love scam/fraud, the sociopath, as they are the absolute worst because of the covert way they connive and manipulate, and as usual nothing is sacred, not God, not her own children. I'm still in a fog because of a female covert narcissistic sociopath, and I vacillate between wanting to kill her, and wanting to fuck her again, because the sex, oh man the sex, and for them it's not even the sex, its the rush it gives him creating that rush of supply for the c*** narcopath piece of shit. You also said she doesn't do this intentionally; if that were the case, don't you imagine they'd have a harder time "keeping it together" in public settings. One other HUGE red flag, they mirror, NPD for sure, and transform themselves into your perfect mate. Somehow us guys fail to notice the common sense truth that NOBODY is EXACTLY like ANYONE else. lol
Anyway, good article, and thanks for sharing...

jeff's picture

Or, just don't be a beta male and you can date these women no problem. So they pull away? Cool. Don't contact her until she reaches out to you. Go focus on be an alpha male and build your empire.

Fact is this: you won't experience this drama unless you enable it. Beta males and weak men enable this type of behavior. Alpha males don't go thru this drama because they just walk away, and she knows you'll walk away.

Walking away is impossible for beta males because they have a scarcity mindset. They don't have options. They put the girl on a pedestal.

Thanateros's picture

I attract only this type of women on my life. I AM from São Paulo, Brazil. But I use Tinder, Okcupid and this type of apps and have only cluster B girls there. And I am a cluster B man (I have Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Vulnerable subtype). My ex and only girlfriend was a Vulnerable narcissist too.  And the other that I fucked or Kiss or had some type of relationship until 3 encounters were ALL cluster B .They were ALL like this article, Very abusive and bad. But I think that we attract who are like us. If you attract only this type of girl, probably  you are a cluster B man too like me. But If you attract in general normal women and one or another cluster B, so you are normal. Unfortunally I have only this type of women on my life and in general two cluster B together don't make a relationship, only some kisses  and one or another fuck If not one block the other before the real encounter or after the first encounter. In general dont pass the first encounter in the best scenario. Cluster B are made for sex and not for love. In general I prefer hookers because the ritual to get love , sex or relationship made me with Burnout. 

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