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Tactics Tuesdays: What Happens When You Label People (or Let Them Label You)

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label peopleSome years back, as I played around with cold reading, I soon found it often wasn't to my advantage to label people. I'd try; coming up with all kinds of cutesy labels like, "Ah, so you're an adventurer," or, "You're a pretty ambitious person, then." These were seemingly positive labels, but often the women I used them with would reject them. "No, not really," they'd say. It was odd.

I began to realize there was power in labeling. When you label someone, you are, in effect, telling them who or what they are. You're setting yourself up in the position of deciding someone else's identity.

That gives you great power if you can pull it off. It also gives you great responsibility toward the people you label.

But it also opens you up to being knocked down a peg or two, the same way we discussed combating people trying to "tool" you or make you look silly or weak in "Dealing with Disruptive Men;" basically, by politely but firmly shutting this down.

As I began to explore labels more, I gradually got better at using them correctly with other people - and shutting down the efforts of people who sought to use them in a damaging way with me.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



Kim's picture

a man that mainly concerns himself with bettering himself with more altruistic intention. THAT is truly attractive imo.

I have had a few men use that "wild/stay-at-home" line. I like to entertain it to see if they'll use it in a more original way. No such luck.

However, I have to give it to you. Your "game" is still above most.

juan's picture

how i answer when label me ? in my country the people using the way of bullyng i from dominican republic i dont speak english well

abiola sobalaje's picture

Okay please tell me how to label my ex who labeled and subject me to social experiment even promugating false news around for 5yrs now like she's the first girl on the planet that will ever have or had an idea it's getting out of hand am even thinking of getting a restraning order against her, and according to the explanation in your write-up you said when we allow or let them we are letting them either ostracize us , or force you to fall in.
And that can't stand.

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