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20+ Little Tips to Prepare for a Night Out

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After so many complicated and theoretical posts, I will now write a post that’s suitable for you all – even beginners. I will share very simple stuff that you can use right away. But keep in mind: just because something is simple doesn’t make it bad.

I will share in this post a bunch of tips on how to prepare for a good night out clubbing (this also goes for bars). When I say “good night out”, I am of course talking about having a flourishing night when it comes to picking up women. These are just some small tips that I have gathered from meeting women since I was 17.

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None of the things I will share in this post will be hard to pull off. Again, it will all just be a grab bag of small tips that you can apply this next weekend (or tonight if you go out).

I will split this post into two sections. The first one being the preparations – what you can do before heading out, while the second will cover things that are valuable for when you actually are out there.

Alek RolstadAbout the Author: Alek Rolstad

Alek Rolstad launched his pickup career at age 14, an early starter and seduction savant. His unique style of game focuses on “sex talk”: a way to make sex the primary topic of conversation. Sex talk lets the user excite girls rapidly, and filter for girls open to fast, raunchy, kinky one-night stands and sex. You can learn from Alek, the master and originator of sex talk himself, by booking a 1-hour phone consultation with him.



Dave80's picture

Alek, this was a breath of fresh air. Light and interesting. Although, I disagree with having short, shaved sides as masculine In fact, almost every chubby guy who works at a car rental place has that look. Not to mention, just about every Joe Shmoe at the club.
No offense, but if you like your short hair, fine. But I have long hair with a scruffy look, and believe me, I have women tell me all the time it's very masculine.
But anyway, it was a fun read.

Oh--- and I've asked Chase to do an article about what the pros and cons are to being a "sexy male" in the work place, especially if you have a female and male boss. Pass this along to him if you can!

David Riley's picture

Hey 80,

I saw your comment on another article, I forward the comment to Chase and the rest of the team.

Just Dave

Yemi's picture

Since you mentioned it...would you be so kind as to suggest some outfit ideas? If you could focus on shoe and accessory(especially jewelry) ideas that would be fantastic, thanks!

G's picture

Can u suggest some cool/edgy stylish outfits? Also, do u know of any really cool masculine leather jackets that aren't too pricey? Thanks

Joy's picture

I prefer not to drink in general and that opens up the avenue of ... driving!

Assuming parking's not an issue and that cab rides are expensive, would you recommend using a personal transportation for pulling girls or is there a certain magic in grabbing a cab together?

Anonymous's picture

Now that you mentioned it, I'm also curious how bringing you own car would feel. Guess I'll have to try it

David Riley's picture

One of the best things you can do with having your own car is having the option of escalating in your car. It narrows out the possibilities of her making an exit before anything can happen between you too. It's also a great transition, "Hey I gotta get my *insert item* out the car, come with me." By leading the interaction you guys can chill with the heat or A/C on depending on the kind of night. "Let's continue the conversation inside while avoiding this harsh weather." From there get to know her and if things seem good, go for it. If not let her go on her way. You already have plausible deniability, you were just getting something out of your car after all.

Just Dave

Anonymous's picture

Hey Chase and dave, what the hell can I do to get laid consistently? I've been on this site for years and im not getting any play, im going insane!

I approach, move fast, try different approaches, girls just aren't letting me hit. I even lowered my standards a lot and still nothing wtf. I can attract them but not fuck them.

It's been years! !!! Since I've been on here, im getting old and only slept with a few girls, wtf!!! I wouldn't care if I didn't try but I do.

I get numbers very consistently, I get good receptions when I talk to women. But after all these years I aint hit. If I hit half of the girls I got numbers from, I'd be at least in the 40's off of all the numbers I got. Wtf! Im an asshole, I deep dive, im smooth, wtf is wrong!

shit is driving me nuts!!!

Please help, thank you.

David Riley's picture

Hey Anon,

Check out this link right here.

How to Get Laid Every Time
Get Laid Every Time - Part 2

Just Dave

Wolf's picture

Hey Dave, I have on and off nights at the club, mostly off though. It's hard for us blacks, they like anything that's not black or they like lightskin. Anyway, I know Chase says not to dance with girls, but I've gotten numbers and conversations doing this.

I find it extremely difficult to get into a conversation with a girl dancing to loud ass music. It just makes no sense and the easiest way for me to talk to her is if im behind her dancing and talking into her ear.

I've been doing terrible at club game as of yet and have gotten bad results.
Im willing to go against my ways and try whatever I can to get good results from girls.

I try to dance with these girls and I get rejected like crazy and my fundamentals are good. I also try to dance because if she doesn't, that means she's not attracted to you right? So it's like a direct approach.

As a black man in this racist world, what can I do to get better at club game and start fucking these girls?


Lamar B's picture

Hey Wolf,

As a fellow blackman, I understand where you're coming from. I happen to be a light skinned black guy and I've noticed that I get way more attention from women than my darker skinned black friends.
A couple of things...

Nightclubs aren't the best for black guys. It's already dark. If you're black, you look like a dark shadow. Honestly. Think about how threatening that can be to a women if you creep up on her on the dance floor. She's already worried about getting ruffeed and who knows what and then a black guy whose face she can hardly see is grinding up on her.

My parents are from Africa, born and raised. I'm a first generation African American and from this view I think African American culture has 'effed itself up. African American culture, through gangsta rap, morons like Kanye West, and most of Hip Hop in general, just makes us look bad. From the fashion to the attitudes. It's all counter-productive.

I have a black buddy who's into the rock scene. He gets more play than most black guys I know. Why? Because Hip Hop is corny. Baggy pants, talking about selling drugs, and all this other crap is just unsexy to women. It's more appealing to that 200 lb fat wangster who wears over-sized football jerseys and plays Madden all day while listening to Rick Ross. Corny.

So what should YOU do? I think day game is great if you're a black guy. You need to kick game in areas that're perceived as being non-threatening, like coffee shops and shopping malls. She needs to see your face in the light and see your sexy facial expressions, mannerisms, etc. Nightclubs take all that away. Even bars are better than nightclubs. Well-lit bars let the girl see your face and you can actually talk to her without having to yell.

Nightclubs are fine if you're with a group and you already know the girls. Then you can use the sexually charged atmosphere of the nightclub to bed the girl. But nightclubs suck for first impressions if you're black. So use that day game and take the black guy edge off by kicking game in a nonthreatening environment.


AnonBlack's picture

I know this comes years late but I come here to have this on the record as I can't leave such a comment online without a retort. Wolf, disregard the self-hating comment let by Lamar who's basically saying you should be ashamed of who you are and your culture and basically, you're screwed because that’s the way it is and rightfully women should be afraid of you. Bless his heart I guess that he’s born “light-skinned”.

What I'm saying is only regarding nightclub and dance game.

I'm dark, not light-skinned, and I have the best success in mixed clubs where I get great attention from white, Hispanic, Asian, and brown girls. I've clubbed and picked up women in clubs in NYC, Miami, Philly, DC, San Fran, Montreal, Toronto, Las Vegas, and Colorado. My game changes a bit depending on venue and crowd but it’s all the ranges of me and I tend to dress about the same and rely on dance floor game but I’m trying to transition more into verbal attraction.

While Lamar is suffering through his identity crisis, I say lean in on who you are and be confident. Remember that what's permeating mainstream culture globally and in America is black and hip-hop culture that Lamar is desperately trying to degrade. From the fashion, to the dance moves, to the slang, to the music or we like to say "the culture". More now even corporate America is not afraid to hire rappers for their commercials and sponsorship. Have you been watching TV and ads lately? It does depend on your style, venue, group dynamics, and the girls you're talking to but again, lean on "the culture". Black and “the culture” is in.

For the white girls what tends to work is either hip-hop wear or sharp dress (my style) and you either occupy the space of the dangerous but sexual fantasy persona that daddy told them to stay away from or the sharp dressed and witty contrast that's so different than the thugs hey hear about all day and night on the news. Either way, I get them with the smooth dance moves and persistent teasing that gets them wet. While this does work best in hip-hop or mixed music venues, I've had success with this at Latin clubs and venues that play house. The truth is, I hate country clubs (I've tried it) and I've only gone to a couple rock venues and I can't do the head banging and jumping up and down thing, I just don't see how that leads to intimacy without drugs which I'm anti. Funny how Lamar rallies against hip-hop culture where sub-cultures and music of rock include heavy drug use, appreciation of Satan (idk care just pointing out hypocrisy and lower intelligent response), wearing all black with spikes, suicide themes, and self-destruction. This is of course not true of all Rock and again personally I don’t care (I listen to all music on Spotify but dancing and meeting women to them is another matter) and I understand them for the art and self-expression mediums that they are, I just want to further highlight this guy’s myopic response.

Latin girls just like guys who can keep up or better yet, take lead. Sometimes I can be the only black guy in the group but having some of the best success. I learned some Spanish words that enough to get a few laughs when the moment calls for it. Learn some basic salsa and mix it up. Don't worry about being the best dancer. More so have lots of fun with it and ask her to show you some moves. If they're too advance for you, it's ok t say so and then take lead after some short "lessons". Grab her hips and guide her. Low her down and lock-in. Ignore the speed of the music and melt in together until you move her off the dance floor and build more rapport.

With Asians there's two types I tend to run into. 1)  the hip-hop lovers who may know black culture more than you and 2) the very conservative ones with tiger moms who are in search of a fantasy and similar to the white girl, wants to "sample" the taboo they've been hearing about and warned against. With 1 it's actually harder because they fetichize the black man and culture so much they themselves are almost a caricature and tend to fancy the more thuggish looking guys which is not me but I've had my successes playing the "suave thug/hoodlum" who's very articulate and worldly but has that edge and again dance moves. They appreciate hip-hop dance moves the most of everyone as they've been watching rap videos and Korean rappers all their lives and practice the moves as past time. With 2, you definitely have to be smooth, unassuming, and lowkey. Mainly conversational until of course you build rapport, open them up, and then they open up to like a lotus flower after a couple of drinks, great conversation, and slower guided dancing. I'm big on physical escalation.

I don't recommend coming up from behind women in clubs at all or anywhere for that matter. That works in some clubs I've been to where it's later and there's open bar and everyone's guard is down but I've mostly left this to the days of early college and work best to establish eye contact and draw them in, casually ask verbally or by putting a hand out, or having fun on your own and casually dance near where the woman you want is and "bump" into them (one of my favorites). The later works best when you've already had social proof and maybe some preselection. If you're seen creeping up behind women and getting rejected, regardless of your color, then it's seen and they will stay away.

There's my input. Again ignore that self-loather ad realize your advantages and play to them. I've heard complaints both ways. From Anglos, Asians, and Indians "oh the black guys have it so easy. they're so smooth and know how to move. they have game and the girls what some BBC" and from black guys "man all of these girls are so afraid of us. they're so racist. if I were white, I bet you they would be all over me". I actually don't hear any complaints from Hispanics haha. Sometimes depending on what I sense and if the moment is right, I actually play on the race thing with a quick witty remark or black joke that breaks the ice or builds rapport like "You've been dancing with these rhythmless white boys too much and I'm seeing that can't keep up [I have different variations to this]", "I see your moves that you've been learning from music videos but better to practice with the real deal, let me show you this quick move", "Let me guess, your dad has been telling you all of your life to stay away from guys like me [pregnant pause and heavy eye contact]...here's your chance to be a rebel [smirk]", "Growing up, my mom always told me stay away from girls like you..".[wait for the why] and go with either "because you're trouble", "because she said you'll still my dance moves and witty lines and resell it for half-off", "because look at what you guys are doing on the news! nothing but thugs and trouble makers".

David Riley's picture

Hey Wolf,

One of the biggest things I learned to do at a bar and club is to hang back at the bar or seat. I'll be reclining and see a bar of girls who had been dancing and I wave them over. I tell them to have a seat and take a breather for a second. It gets other girls checking me out at the same time. The best thing about it is I stand out. It's hard to see people in clubs and it's easy to get startled. I approach women at the bar so that can hear me and see me a bit better. If the weather permits, I hang out outside as well. Women outside or in the patio are very open to conversation. It's easy to pass them and say "Hey, I love your dress."

Other times women who are dancing are normally just looking for fun. These girls may be dressed sexy but they are just trying to blow off steam. This is not to say girls who are dancing provocative are always gonna ignore you. Actually, stand off to the side and notice which girls are constantly rejecting guys. Those are the girls looking for an ego boost. The girls who are smiling and look like they want to be approached are the ones you want to go for. Another note, women's guard is way up in the club. They know guys will say and do anything to sleep with them. Now I will say this if you're striking out repeatedly at a certain club, go to different club. Anyway stay strong mate!

Take care,

Just Dave

bolt's picture

Hey Dave quick question, so in colts article on Asian girls he stated something along the lines of certain types of Asian girls probably won't have sex on the first date. Well how are you supposed to move forward with these type of girls because the mantra that I've been living by is move fast. However, I haven't been looking for a wife or even a girlfriend so if a certain girl and I were clearly not going to have sex on the first night then I would just move on. One day, in the distant future though, I might want to settle down with a high quality, beautiful girl with a low sex count and doesn't drink or party. Now I've been with a few conservative girls but what I wanted to know was how would someone like you or colt proceed if you were trying to settle down or get into a serious relationship with one of the girls like colt mentioned in his article who weren't likelyto engage in sex on the first night?

David Riley's picture

Hey Bolt,

I would screen a girl heavily and see if she matches my criteria. I would ask her if she's partier, smoker, or "crazy" girl. If she fails my pre-screen, I walk out. If she passes that, I ask if she can cook and clean. If she fails that, I'm out. Now the tricky part is a casual first date, still keeping it sexual but avoiding "I'm not a slut" speech. I also don't get into relationships with girls if I haven't already had sex with them. I'll give her a two meet opportunity. If she doesn't put on the second meet, I'm out of their. Also, if she is not trying to move things forward with me, I walk out. I also avoid spending money on women at all costs. If she believes that because I am the "man" and have to pay for everything, I walk out. I like a woman who is at least capable of doing things for herself. I will help her out on occasion, but I don't want to be seen as an ATM.

This way she's only left to like me based off my actual personality. From there I would attempt to really get to know her. I would ask her serious questions about her life and background. I then let the girl chase and attempt to tie me down. If she matches the background of what I am looking for, I'll commit. If the girl is not what I am looking for, I'll explain that too her. I tell her I'm looking for a woman who can aid me and my ventures and I just don't see her as that.

Take care,

Just Dave

Anonymous's picture

You could write article about 'What if everyone was telling what they truly think all the time?'... and maybe connect it with possible sexual outcomes in the society.

David Riley's picture

Hey Anon,

I will let Chase and the other author's know about your request.

Just Dave

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