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Curb Your Approach Anxiety by Flipping the Script

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When approaching a woman, much of our anxiety comes from not understanding her perspective. This mindset tweak will help unburden your ego and smooth things out for you.

The assumption with approaching a woman is that you want her to become your lover, and because of that assumption, you probably start off approaching girls you think are going to be easier to handle if rejected, or girls you feel are less likely to reject you.

Approaching women is a unique difficulty that usually only men have to face. It is a startling requirement that tips off women so dramatically of your interest in them that it can cause you to feel helpless and very vulnerable.

So how can you start approaching a woman with confidence like the kind of man she would like to be approached by and want to attract? How can you stop overcompensating because of your fear of rejection?

Here are some ideas.

Cody LyansAbout the Author: Cody Lyans

Girls Chase’s resident “man of mystery”, Cody shows shy, quiet guys how to turn these traits into assets. Girls call his style “cool and calibrated”; he’s adept at smoothly meeting girls everywhere from the beach to the dance floor. Cody prides himself on versatility, and specializes in both fast (~20 minute) hookups, and slow, sensual seductions. Book a phone coaching session with Cody today to learn from him directly.



Glow's picture

Great focus. I tested it and i feel this is very true to what like 70% of women feel like in the midst of the connection. Aka it depicts what i see in their eyes well. what i sense from them upon my engagements. I havent seen anything this precise on that dynamic before.

When taking the focus it automatically provides 1) sensitivty to her - a state of sensing and 2) a strong and confident position to work from. At least for me. 

Add the earnest vibe you discuss in your podcast to it and some purposefulness in your presence and it provides for a powerful opening model w. very attractive presence. And a much more true model for a more precise engagement and understanding of dynamics.

This is a great gift to share w. us - thank you.

T's picture

Hi Cody,

one of the best articles I've read here on GC. It gives a deep insight into female psychologie. It is really a wake-up call for every man. Simply act relaxed around women. It really works!

But as far as I understood this article it supposes that you got an approach invitation. Is that right?


Gerald Ballough's picture

Cody's article, "How to Dance with a Girl and Turn Her On," is better and more accurate than anything I've ever read or heard!! I know Cody is right because I have become/am that dancer (bachata) he says we should strive to be, not professional, but the one all the girls want to dance with! Cody's insights are exactly correct! My son, is also a bachata dancer and I gave him Cody's article; we call it our "Bachata Blue Print." I have not shared it with anyone else...for fear of being recognized and motives revealed. WONDERFUL!! THANK YOU CODY!!!

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