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Teasing a Girl the Right Way

Chase Amante

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teasing a girlA reader recently wrote in to ask me why I thought his text conversations weren't going anywhere. He's been working really hard to get his game tightened down, and thought he was doing well... but here, again, he could feel this girl slipping away. The texting transcript he sent picks up mid-conversation:

Him: You suck with directions. Lol. Are you from the city?

Girl: haha I dont know what the streets are called1 Just know theres one down a side haha. Its by the big bungy thing, down a little street:-)

Him: haha. You suck. Need to get a gps then. Can you cook?

Girl: haha sorry:-) uhmm like simple things. and if I had instructions then yeah lol

Him: Imple things like biting your nails or fun things? I like dangerous stuff:)

Girl: haha as in easy stuff

Girl again:haha as in easy

Him: Im just finished with my engineering project. I think youll find it interesting. Are you a metal head or a classical music type like me?lol

Girl: Haha uhmm, not really... More party side.lol

Him: Im running seminars in the city next week,. We should go grab a coffee and you can come by...

Girl: I have exams and school next week.

Him: Im running it in the weekend. But your missing out! IM hungry. Make me some soup.

Girl: Um, Whats it about?

Then he replied with some brief info about his seminar, and... nothing. She never replied. It was lost. And he didn't know why. Was she just not interested? he wondered.

Actually, she sounds pretty interested early on. How'd he lose her? Well, it's a little more complicated than you might think. And, as the subject of today's post, one of the main problems it turns out is that he wasn't quite teasing this girl the right way. Because this isn't just a texting issue -- it goes deep into how you hold conversations with women in general. And if you aren't teasing women right, you may very well be costing yourself a lot of success with girls you like.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



Anonymous's picture

I just had two dates with a guy who teased me constantly. He was perfectly fine otherwise. But I started to really hate him. When he went in to kiss me, I was disgusted and pulled away. I felt guilty about it, which sent me to the web. I hope he finds this article. The constant hostility was very trying. Great advice, thanks for the piece!

Anonymous's picture

AWESOME post here man. I really needed it. I went to a party here there was a very good-looking girl, but I did not tease her very much and it felt a bit awkward. Could you give me some teasing lines that are not "cheesy". I want to see the variety of teasing.

Thanks Chase.

bliss's picture

i just got a text from some1 overseas ...then i saw some1 nt knowing hw to teese then i said pretty waz up with ,,do u know wat she said,,,,would tell u if u just turn back ....ah am enjoyin g this

Jake's picture

How do I say, "I don't like something and the fact that you do and want me to love it is seriously annoying" in a kind and appealing way? So far I've been trying to evade the subject but...she's kind of relentless. So what if I don't like colour, is that a big deal? Also WHY does she keep going back to that subject? Does she realise I don't want to talk about it???

break_bread's picture

This completely blew me out the water!
I think I love this style better than anything. It's sweet and non domineering. It leaves the other person feeling more at ease.

The conventional is more suitable for buddies etc because other oriole can laugh at you're jokes and it's cool. This style here is for depth and firm intimacy.
Thx chase

gambetto's picture

This one is spot on. I HATED the guy who teased me the wrong way. It hurt. But if a guy can be funny the right way, that's very, very attractive and makes me very happy. I've seen both.

Pretty Little Liar's picture

I think this is a really nice piece as it provides useful information about teasing. Before I read this, I had a hard time struggling with boys' teasing. I felt like they were making fun of me all they want. Thanks to chase, now I know that teasing can be both competitive and cooperative. I hope boys can tease cooperatively to make girls feel more at ease. I hope I can learn from this and be able to deal with these different kinds of teasing from now on. Overall, thanks for the nice piece of information and keep up the great work!

N2Paul's picture

Hey man good article but I've got a question. What about C&F ? Some years ago I was very c&f and it worked but now I'm just appearing arrogant, many girls told me that, I dont know why because I'm using the same lines and things ? I really like it when I was c&f , the attention I've got and the fact that it made appear very powerful . I mention that I am a good looking guy , maybe thats why this thing didnt worked anymore. Please man if you can help me Id be very greatious .

Anonymous's picture

hahaha! that samurai sword thing was hysterical! best article EVERRRR

Robbie yaytes's picture

I was getting on really well with a girl, we seemed to click and we were into each other. We kissed passionately and I was on another level in terms of my game. However one time I was with a mate and we decided to really banter this girl, we really went for the banter and probably humiliated her. She tried to brush it off but you could tell it hurt her, I tried over the next couple of days to contact her but she had gone cold. I'm going to leave her for a week and then turn up on her doorstep with a letter of apology and flowers, hopefully it should go well, any other tips?

Jimbo's picture

I know this is too late for you, but for anyone in the same situation I'd recommend you ditch the flowers and the letter (too much, too supplicating) and just give a heartfelt apology.

Rick's picture

This works got me laid many times.

Anonymous's picture

I was too cowardly to tell a grown man to stop teasing me and it has set my confidence back considerably. It was really hurtful and I did not understand why he would talk to a relative stranger in such a way. In addition to saying within earshot to other men that I was dirty and encourage younger and more pretty women to be bitchy towards me (one called me "haggard"). On one occasion he walked up to me, liked me up and down and said "ugh!" I'm friendly and try to be inclusive. I'm nothing special to look at and although I'm social I'm not a dater. He did other stuff too. Why would someone do this?

ericj5592's picture

Its simple, this guy is crazy.

SilverTongue's picture

Some people just have no boundaries and think they can whatever they damn well please. I've noticed that there are some people who are secretly or were secretly bullies and as adults they never hung up the belt and learned.

Whether or not you're something special to look doesn't mean you're a human being with emotions. Don't worry about that asshole. He's got more issues that you can imagine.

Richard's picture

This article is excellent!

It is very useful, not just for seduction scenarios, but for many types of interactions.

What a service this is. Keep up the fine writting

Anonymous's picture

What i don't understand is your Article is "Be Short and Direct" But if you be Direct wouldn't you be less intriguing abd getting investment because you are direct and would make it less interesting.. So how do you get Investment and get her chasing while being short and direct on what you say.

Anonymous's picture

I hate the first type of teasing, I'm naturally like the second type, but I don't think it's teasing. I have a sticking point where I can't create that exciting, tense feeling with a girl, even though she's attracted. I think you're right that it's about humour, but the second part is more like 'how not to be a douche' rather than 'how to tease'.

Rizzo's picture

When she said she sucks with dire tons and don't where the street is..I Woulda have said you know those poles sticking up out the corner if the ground they have names on it,and usually those names are the names of the streets..Or when she said she's a party girl I Woulda said I got some henny some X and a Lil Wayne cd (Fuck lil Wayne I'm just saying) Or when she said I have exams I Woulda have said wow that sucks to be you I'm hate exams and studying,So wanna come by and study...He lost her at the music thing It takes 2 to tango and I get stumped sometime but that's because the girls I talk to are the equivalent of talking to a corpse in a morgue,boring as shit then they say why my so quiet umm let's see because ya ain't giving me nothing to work with. Like I said takes 2 to tango.

Jimbo's picture

Chase, your examples of cooperative teasing sound more like playful banter than actual teasing.

Paige's picture

'"But I almost feel like it's too much for most girls -- they're going to feel like they aren't able to compete with you...'"
Um, no. It's not that it's "too much" for us or that we want to win a teasing competition with you. If we're cold towards you after you pull one of these lines out, it's because we found it hurtful. Simple as that.

blogster's picture

another example of women giving it, but not being able to take it.

Jimbo's picture

You know what, if anything deserves that hurtful type of teasing, it's this bitchy attitude!

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