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How to Be a Powerful Man: The Secret You Didn't Know

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how to be a powerful manI sat there staring for a moment at the woman who'd walked outside to tell me to clear out, thinking about how to be a powerful man in a situation like this. I was sitting at an empty table -- one of about thirty of them -- in a largely empty seating area in the middle of a square surrounded by a bunch of restaurants.

"You can't sit here, sorry," she told me. I'd gotten my food at one of the restaurants ringing the square. She apparently was from another one. "This seating is only for our customers."

I looked slowly out over the tables. Then I looked back to her. "All of this?" I said, gesturing to the entire square of empty tables.

"Yes," she said. "That's all ours."

I briefly considered. On the one hand, it was incredibly unnecessary for her to come and ask me to get up and leave. It's not like there was a mad grab for tables; they were almost all empty. And it wasn't like me sitting at the table was going to wear the chair out or anything. I supposed there was the risk that I'd leave some crumbs or garbage or something and she'd have to clean up after a non-customer.

But on the other hand, it was her restaurant's private property. They paid for it, they owned the rights to it, and they had final say on who gets to use it, when, and why. That's how it works in cities, where there's basically no public property. Fighting back means fighting the system; police or security get called, and then it's a big mess.

"Okay," I said. "Which restaurant are you?" I asked her. "That one?" I said, pointing to a classy Japanese place.

"No," she said, "that one." She pointed toward a tiny little deli. I had a hard time imagining a deli was going to fill up all these seats with paying customers and that owning the rights to use this big outdoor square (and spending the time to police it all) was worth it.

"Okay," I said, after another moment. "I'll head elsewhere." I slowly started packing up my food.

"Sorry," she said quietly, and walked off, leaving me to pack up and leave. I noticed there'd been some people who'd stopped to watch the interaction. As I slowly packed my things and left, they turned and went their ways.

After I left, I realized I should've just ordered a bottled water for $1 or whatever it was from the deli. I'll do that next time. But regardless, it got me thinking about looking powerful even when you're not getting your way, which can end up being something that makes or breaks your interactions with women, more often than you might care to think.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



Emily's picture

Just wanted to say that this is one of my favorite articles on this site because it isn't just for picking up girls. It's sort of like a philosophy on how to live life. I was in a horrible mood when I first came here today because I had failed at something I consider to be of high importance, but everyone fails at the high stakes sometimes. And now I'll have an awesome comeback story that will gain me more respect than always being on top.

I've just saved this page as a favorite. Thank you for writing this article and empowering others everywhere.

WalkTall's picture

brilliant article chase. There's a mythos around manliness that its unacceptable to lose. This article should clarify to a few people that life isn't all success, and such lives where you always win are fantasy. Its a much healthier perspective to live a life where you handle losses confidently rather than aim to never lose. That way you stop fearing it.

Anonymous's picture

Every now and then, mostly on Friday afternoons, I'll drop by this page to read a few articles. I'm glad I came across this one. It is the best one I have read yet. It has a lot of lessons/pointers that can be applied to a multitude of things. Thanks for the wisdom.


Ben's picture

Hey Chase, how would you deal with situations where the other guy isn't in the right legally, and isn't entertaining discussion (screaming at you without letting up, for example) in general,

and when the guy specifically is trying to get a win on you,

and/ or is physically touching/ shoving/ other not quite violent actioning you in particular?




ps if you guys update the comments section, could you set the page to keep whatever was written when save is clicked, when the email is off? Not much more annoying than finishing something then it disappearing

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