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How (and Why) to Become a Tactile Man

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tactile manRight now, you're reading an article on a screen. Its text reaches you through your eyes. Or perhaps you have a text-to-speech app on your phone to read this article to you, and the words trickle into your ears. All the media you consume is visual or auditory. Columns, articles, videos, forums: it is all via eyes and ears.

You work a job, more likely than not, which consists principally of visual and auditory tasks. Type things into a computer. Receive verbal orders from customers. Communicate expenses to accounting. You speak, you listen, and you see.

When you order take out food, it's audio and visual. You don't grasp the food before you order it; you don't touch the clerk who takes your order. When you go to the café, audio and visual. When you head to the DMV, audio and visual. When you spend a few hours at the cinema, audio and visual. When you get beers with your buddies, unless you're all quite chummy it's audio and visual.

That our lives are so audio-visual is probably due to life in an urbanized society. Touch, as a sense, does not scale well. I can write this article, and you and fifteen thousand other men can read it. I cannot come to where you are, walk up to you, and turn your head to point it at every audio/visual item or technology you have around you, or place those items into your hands. It's simply not doable. Audio and visual communication, on the other hand, scales.

Yet despite the advantages of scale, our digitized, atomized society also makes it harder for people to truly connect.

That's because people are not just auditory, visual creatures.

We are, very much, tactile beings, too.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



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Hey Chase,

Thank you for this article. Sorry for going off topic but before, you had quoted from a book saying that men and women are equal in society but women are a little more control than men.

In that article, you talked about society and gender roles. I can't find that article now but...

I remember you also said society where women lead have shown in history to grow weak. Over many civilizations.

And countries that maintain a patriarchy end up conquering those societies where they've grown softer and more civilized and less strong due to women being the leader. It is a trend that shows from history.

I agree with you but Can I ask what are some examples of fallen societies you are thinking of?

I had this discussion with my friend and my friend raised an example of a powerful ruling while woman was in charge and control, namely British empire. It was controlled by Queen Elizabeth and that nation conquered the world nearly.

I love intellectual topics like these :). What are your thoughts on this?



p.s. what books are you reading now?

In regards to the fact that you study past societies and trends, any books you recommend ? Or do you take the audacious approach to read original excerpts from historical manuscripts, dry and pure without embellished structure? 

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