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Overproviding Good Feelings

Chase Amante

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This is one of those things that, when I figured it out, kinda made me slap my forehead and go, “Duh.” But even still, it took me five years to figure it out. And I’m going to give it to you in one post.

You’re welcome ;)

I figured it out gradually as I realized a number of things:

  • I did better with women when I told less entertaining stories.
  • I did better with women when I gave them less fun.
  • I did better with women when they knew less about me.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



Anonymous's picture

I wish I could test this idea out to know for sure.

J.W.'s picture

Hi, Chase.

How do I get out from the overproviding good feelings when I managed to move girls and get them talking. I do not use any impressive stories to make me more desirable than I actually am, but it seems that when girls talk to me, they seem to be too comfortable around me setting me to a friend.

Here is the one episode. This girl I met on the street. I managed to move her to a nearby cafe shop and talked about one hour till she said she had to go. I realized I didn't make it fast enough and I insisted that she could come come home with me, but she also insisted that she should get back to her house to do her thing. So I let her go after about 3 times with exchanging cells. For the second time we met after texting her, we met in the cafe and I invited her home. When I kissed her, she told me she got scared because she only came home because she only see me as a good friend. She asked me "What's your purpose? Is it to have sex with me after meeting me a couple of times?". At that moment I freaked out by her looks because she was staring at me. I asked, do "you want me or not?" she said she wants to be only friend.

It seems as if I played too nice, hmm could you give me some suggestions?
How do I make myself dangerously irresitable from this "friendly"!? :)
I thought inviting home is a dangerous, but women seem to come very easily to my home thinking that I'm a friend.

Thank you with all my heart,

Anonymous's picture

You missed the point my friend you were being scared like chase says and goes back to objections when you should have said your right lets go play monopoly.

Suit's picture

I like this article and think it does work and makes sense. Women (and humans in general) love the attraction of mysticism and a calm cool and most importantly in control and confident nature. Not going into the club is a bad example in my opinion though. Presumably you have just come from a date and haven't sealed a kiss. The club is the perfect place to get a drink and lose a little more inhibitions she or you may have, get close on the dance floor (or at the bar ordering your next drinks) making use of the loud music to get your faces closer while talking and lean in for little tonsil hockey. Also if she wants to dance and you try persuade to go home instead straight away you are at risk of seeming perfunctorily liking her and actually just want sex. (Which depending on the woman could go either way).

Anonymous's picture

Doesn't this leave open the possibility that she'll lose interest, knowing that other guys will provide more good feeling?

Anonymous's picture

In response to the guy above me. I don't think so, but you will have some women walk away and/or not be interested in you. For the most part I'd say it's because they are attention whores..

But.. like Chase says, walk the line. You need to be more balanced, provide some more good feelings if you think you might be acting boring.

It could be that you need to know yourself better, or you need to work on some of your fundamentals more.

dcl's picture

Turns out, I'm a 'Journeyman'.

I was brought here via hyper-link in one of the "Diagnostic" ebooks.

Thanks Chase. I needed to read this. -dcl

Anonymous's picture

This really brought home my mistake with a girl recently:

I spent too much time with her at work, and gave myself to her in another way other than outside of work, where it was conducive to seduction and taking her home. I knew this concept innately from learning social arts for about four years, and connected that to why she LJBF'd me, this just confirmed it. Cool! ;)

Ryan's picture

I love dancing and I love telling funny stories. Thats just how I am. Im very different than the common boring stoic introverted male of western culture. If i were to act differently than it would be awkward and id have a terrible time

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