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Last time, we discussed how one should proceed to learn the art of seduction; how I would do things if I were a total beginner again. Today we will discuss the things I would recommend you to focus on if you are new – these are the things I would work on if I had to do the learning process all over again.
There is loads of information on this website and it can be very confusing to many newer readers to actually figure out what should be their priorities. I will list what I consider basics – or foundations – in this post. I will briefly explain the different elements, and will also provide links to more in depth articles throughout.
Now what will be discussed in this article are BASICS, but that doesn’t mean the material provided here is “beginner material”, quite the contrary, this article covers things that:
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Are the foundation to most other (more advanced) material out there – without many of the concepts covered in this article, pulling off more fancy stuff will not work well unless you have the foundations in check
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Many of the concepts in this article will be enough to get you laid.
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The concepts covered are things that most seducers (even advanced seducers) will have to apply in most situations. I will not go as far as to say the concepts apply to every scenario, but not far from it.
Now, this post will not cover elements such as style (and grooming), body language, and basic attractive attitudes. Although it is recommended to have those things in check for best results, this post will focus on “outer game” – i.e., techniques and practical elements of seduction. Again, this is NOT an in depth post about each of the concepts, just a list with some quick info.
The six basics we will cover are:
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Opening
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Hooking in
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Isolation
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Escalation
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Extraction
- Persistence
Let us begin with an obvious key element one should focus on.
Comments
meh
Everyone here already knows all of this stuff. It's nothing new really.
umadbro
Hi there.
This post is not supposed to be covering anything new. I wrote this post as a response to a private message where a reader asked me to cover the different things I would focus on if I in a hypothetical situation where to become a beginner again. I really enjoy responding to requests and if there is anything in particular you would like me to write about, feel free to let me know.
Also, keep in mind that we have many new readers every month (many who are total beginners) and therefore some posts (like this one) will have to cover some fundamental basics - hence not cover anything new.
Best,
Alek
one thing I think is missing
I always like Alek's articles because they focus more on "being sexy" and pushing that sexual envelope. This is an area I consistently focus on improving as an intermediate. That being said, most of my earlier success was founded on the deep dive, and even though I continually work on calibrating the deep dive with quality innuendo (or outright blatant sexiness), the deep dive is critical to keeping a conversation going past the surface level. IMO, the deep dive / conversationalist aspect is missing from this article. Sure, deep dive not required all the time for some random quick hookups. But for day game, and even most bar situations, it's imperative to know how to have good conversation.
z23
Hi there and thank you. I am personally practicing pick up and seduction at least twice a week. as I am very active these days, my posts are more focused toward practical post.
About deep diving: you are making a fair point. Now keep in mind that this post is meant to cover to fundamentals for beginners. Deep diving might not be that hard to pull off, but I don't consider it a fundamental. i would learn how to actually manage to keep a conversation (and become comfortable doing so) before attempting any more fancy stuff like deep diving. But again, as mentioned in this post, this isn't a "complete" guide by no means, and if you are getting positive results from deep diving, then obviously you should keep doing it.
I on the other hand don't use deep diving ( and it is not because I don't like it - I just have things such as my beloved sex talk that works amazingly for me). However, I don't feel like covering any topics that i don't have a lot of practical experience with.
-Alek
You are right about deep
You are right about deep diving, but don't dive too deep. During my beginner stage I was having too much rapport and deep diving too much, but now am at intermediate level and I calibrate good.
Alek, I also want to add that been careful during sexual escalation isn't just for beginners but also for black folks living in a predominantly white nation. I am speaking from experience, where I met a white girl after the club and the only thing I did was a harmless handshake and she was laughing and giggling all through, only to return home and make a warning Facebook post, the warning got to the police and they said the matter was not reported and people are responsible for what they post on social media, so eventually she took down the post. If I were a Caucasian guy holding just a basic conversation with her at night, she wouldn't post that crap.
My friends all say I get on fine with these girls but why is it hard for me to close, and I often told them because as a black guy living here you can't be too careful. I have a friend who had a false allegation of rape because one of the friends of the white chick he was smashing made her do a false report, the only thing that saved him was the Facebook chat with the two girls perpetrating how to deal with him, just because my friend dissed one of the girls in the group at the club a long time ago which he forgot, anyway he was lucky to escape this and he got very good monetary compensation from the state.
I go home with white girls here, but I just can't escalate unless they escalate, I don't want to end up answering questions from the police. Go to the clubs here it's the same thing, you find a white guy doing all sort of things with the girls and they just laugh and giggle, but as a black buy the moment you open your mouth to say hi how is the night going.....the jumped off like they have just been electrocuted and say ughh sometimes. I am a stylish and handsome black guy for the purpose of this post and i consider myself between 6-7 to be modest, even though my white friends tell me wow you look so cute and all the girls should be running after you....Hahahah I just smile because in reality that's really not the case.
Jobs and apartments are hard to find, so moving to a bigger city is like trying to find a pin in a hay sack, the average waiting time for an apartment in a big city is like 6-15yrs.
I Know the almighty US of A is different, because I have met few American girls here and boy oh boy they are amazing people, like seriously they are fucking different from Swedish girls. I met an American girl sometime in Malmo and we hung out most of the day even went to the only surviving American store in Malmo and met the American owner and we all went for ice cream, that kind of spontaneity does not exist here.
The slut shaming is real here especially loser guys who refer to a white girl who has only been with one black guy has nigger mattress, but don't extend the same slut shame to a white girl who has been with 100 white guys. Most girls here have a big fear of social exclusion should they try to date a black guy, and yes they have revealed this to me personally and of course the parent factor. I have a baby with a Sweidsh girl and there was a time the father called her a slut for opening her leg for a black dude, they thought I was sleeping. I dashed out of the bedroom and told him hey look your daughter showed me pictures of some of her exes and I am finer than them, so walk out of our house...yes I walked him out before we finally became close when the baby was born. I don't know if you can direct me to a post here about successfully dating as a minroty.
This site is the best dating advice site I have come across so far...
Davido
Tjenare,
I would like to be of help, but being a Caucasian male gives me limited experience in that field. However, I would like you to check out the posts from William Gupta, who is used to date and pick up as a minority (being half black and half indian himself). A retired writer, namely Colt Williams is also black, you might want to check him out.
Here is a podcast on the topic by William, that I would definitely check out if were you. http://www.girlschase.com/content/girls-chase-podcast-interviews-ep-9-wi...
Best,
Alek
High School
Hey Chase how did you and the rest of the GC team feel about graduating High School. What were your thoughts, feelings, viewpoints, etc.
Tennant
Well, quickly put, I was just happy graduating from high school and could not wait for Hollidays. That year I went to a party Island in Greece and had a lot of fun - i was free and I could do what ever i wanted with my life. Fact is, after the summer Holiday, I started studying at a university, which has been life changing for me.
I don't really know how to answer your question, could you be more specific?
-Alek
Hey Alek!!!! Great article
Hey Alek!!!! Great article man, this is a really helpful guide because this site has so much separate articles that a beginner like me might not even know how to properly organize the interaction.
I have a question for you, how do you think I should be handling an interaction with a girl in my college, which is really small and everybody knows everybody so there's much more pressure and escalation has to be slower because the girl does not want to be labelled as a whore, ect. Since you obviously can't progress so quickly to sex talk and such how do you think I should handle the interactions in this situation?
Hugo
Hi Hugo. Thank you for your comment. I am glad this guide was helpful to you.
When it comes to your question, I am afraid I won't be able to give you any good answers as I have no expertise with social circle related pick ups and seduction. I never have such interactions as I prefer cold approaches from the street, bars, coffeshops or nightclubs over social circles (and hence high school/college pick ups).
I would ask Hector Castillo, the master of social circles and college pick ups. He would provide you a better answer than I could ever give you.
-Alek
Biological Resistance
Hi Alek,
could you specify what biological reasons a girl gives, when resisting your advances.
Keep up the outstanding work !
Lucard
Lucard
Hi Lucard.
Good question .... actually you gave me an amazing idea - write a whole post about it. I will do so right now.
But quickly explained:
- Women will resist your advance because biologically speaking, pregnancy is a risky business for women, and being impregnated by the wrong man can have detrimental effects on her offspring.
- Once a girl is impregnated, 9 month's has to pass before she can get impregnated again - that is why it is key for women to be impregnated by the perfect men.
- Safety is an important thing for women - men being by nature physically stronger than women, women need to be sure that you will not harm them. That might be a reason for them to hold back.
-Alek
Thanks for the refresher!
Thanks for the refresher bro!
Keeping it simple, efficient and No bs!
Keeping it real :)
Lawliet
Lawliet
Thank you Lawliet
Yes sometimes, going back to the basics is key, for players of all levels.
-Alek
I have a problem I've read
I have a problem I've read your post for sometime now but I still can't attract woman I do get phone numbers but things ends there the girls start rejecting and not willing to meet me I need your help
Hello, i love your site and
Hello, i love your site and all your articles,
"just share a few more awesome stories and have a good time with her and make her reach a new high note and try again." I don't have awesome stories how can i do ? How concretely have good time with girl ( all that I read seems so abstract) ?
"it can also mean you need to build more attraction"
There too, all that i read seems so abstract, how build ( more ) attraction?
Thank you
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