About 3 weeks ago on the post announcing the site's new forum, a reader named "D"
asked about escalating things with women, being seductive, and cool –
essentially, how to be smooth.
Here's the gist of D's comment:
I can initiate with no problems and create that instant attraction. But
I seem to hit a wall at some point shortly after. I tend to have
difficulty escalating to physicality. Granted I'm not very experienced
in my endeavors but have been reading, studying, and trying to better
myself; both in my body language and self image.
I need to know how to
ignite the spark that I create and squirt a little gas on it.
can create an opener from nothing and sometimes get 1 or 2 dates. Then
something goes south. I try to be funny and witty, which works with
openers, but I need to flip the switch to escalation and being SMOOTH
to seal the deal! I feel like I have read almost everything out there
so please my brother, let me know if you have any advice. I appreciate
all that you've done and anything you can do to help me. Thank you!”
And just a week ago, another commenter, xChaser, this time on the
post about anxiety in men, asked about
something very similar, saying:
I again want to let you know you blog is impacting lot of guys
I have improved a lot from implementing what's discussed here.
I have one request on a topic that pretty much helps the new guys not
end up wasting lot of time.
Basically what I noticed is as we gain in knowledge, we get more
succesful at dealing with girls, but after moving quite forward in the
interaction sometimes [after] a small mistake the girl drops you like a
ball, never to recover.
Could you cover a topic around this major critical point where you
up the ante and at least during initial days avoid those traps rather
getting dropped flat after spending so much time on the girl.
I guess you got my point.
Thanks in advance,
Both commenters are asking about something I call "transition
points" – those moments in an interaction with a woman where it's time
for you to take things to the next level... if you can only figure out how.
Most guys can't, and drop the ball, as xChaser put it.
But what if you didn't drop the ball?
What if you could handle transition points like a pro every time?
What I'm asking is... what if you knew
how to be smooth?
Because that's what I'm going to teach you to be today.