How to Use the Sexual Frame to Turn Women On
Many people believe that it doesn’t
matter much what you say to a
girl when you chat her up… that 93% of all communication is nonverbal
anyway, and that the words are just filler. Thus, any sexual frame you employ should be
more focused on your body language and less so on your words… they just
aren’t as important, goes the thinking.
This is a misunderstanding of Mehrabian’s study, which showed that somebody’s body language and tone of voice account for 93% of our LIKING for that person… it does not, however, mean that the spoken word only convey 7% of the meaning of any communication.
“Liking” is also largely irrelevant when it comes to seduction –
girls will often sleep with and even get into relationship with guys
that they don’t particularly like… attraction beats liking, hand over
fist, every time.
And if it was true that words only conveyed 7% of what’s being
communicated, it should be perfectly possible to watch a movie in a
foreign language and still understand 93% of what is being said…
Try that some time. :)
If it was true, it should also be
possible to tell a girl to bugger
off… and get a 93% similar response as when telling her that she’s
pretty.
There is, however, a more subtle reason why words matter… and that
reason is frames, and the implications of what is being said.
So what are frames and frame control now?
Well, let’s look at some examples.


I'm listening to Nassim Nicholas Taleb's book
In the first edition of this two part series on
There aren’t many things more frustrating than picking up a beautiful girl, getting her phone number, going out on a date with her, bouncing home together, making out on the bed and getting each other all aroused…
In a fascinating study by Kristina M. Durante of the University of Texas, Austin's Department of Psychology et al., entitled "
Following up on and complementing our post on
“Nothing much to do... I’m at home and I think I’m so addicted to your passionate sex... I still can’t get over last night… I love it.”
... no, I'm not going to suggest that you dodge the dangers of sex and the dangers of dating by dodging sex and dating. That's a little too extreme - I'll leave the abstinence education to the religious institutions.
In the vein of my last post - 15 lessons on