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How to Be a Man Women Chase and Pursue

how to be a manAs a boy, I decided I wanted to learn how to be a man who inspired others to gather around him. I wanted to become a magnet for people. I don't know why I wanted this; it's just something I've always had, something deep in my DNA. I have family members who are actors, singers, and entrepreneurs; at least one of my ancestors was a privateer (or, more commonly, a pirate), a few hundred years back.

Even as recently as my great-grandfather, I'm told that my grandmother was first introduced to her future father-in-law when my grandfather brought her to his father's estate in Europe, led her up a large grand staircase, and cast open the doors to his bedroom, revealing an old man reposed in his bed with two young women, one on either arm. I come from a long line of different, eccentric individuals who have had little taste for playing by the rules.

Yet, I still faced an uphill climb as I developed. It might seem that being a man is passé in today's world of tender, sensitive males and assertive, upwardly mobile females. TV and the movies lionize the shy, unconfident man; powerful men routinely get painted the villains, or used as unintelligent plot devices eventually triumphed over by strong women and underdog men. Society tells you it's men's feelings that are most important, and achievement is of secondary importance; so long as you're happy, that's all that really matters.

Because of all this, we now celebrate the ordinary, and frown upon the exceptional. It's as though the exceptional threaten ordinary individuals' contentedness in their own ordinariness, and so must be discouraged from pursuing the exceptionalism that would seem so disruptive to those around them.

Well, if you want to know how to be a man women chase and pursue, you're going to have to accept that you're going to get a lot of push back from people, and you're going to have to confront the beliefs you've been instilled with since a child. You'll have to pull the wool from your eyes, so to speak.

But as you do, you'll find the world comes to look a more and more beautiful place, the more you see it for what it really is. Today, I want to help you pull that wool down and see the world a bit more for what it is, and arm you with a few steps to start taking right now to set yourself on the road to becoming the kind of man you've always dreamed you could be.

And in order to accomplish all this, I'm going to give you a set of maxims to grow by.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.


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Sean D's picture

As much as certain articles very specific to a skill can be of immense help, I'd suspect a lot of us (myself included) need help on the grander scale of goals and motivation. One of your best pieces yet Chase.

L's picture

Hey Chase!

Great article man! Speaking for myself, the second and fourth maxims were not that much trouble for me so I'll try to comment on the others.

Here goes.

A while ago I used to be a really passive guy (mostly because I'm very lazy at heart). Then one day I decided to turn things around and start taking action, and at first it was scary as hell. Especially the first couple of times it felt like my whole body was resisting my mind, but when you start taking action with women more and more, oh boy. It was kind of a snowball effect for me, the more I did it, the more I got comfortable and it started to become almost effortless. Also in everyday life I'm still essentially lazy, but pushing myself to get things done is much, much easier for me these days.

For your third maxim I'm going to say some politically incorrect things, but hey. One of the things that helped me alot in the beginning was assessing the time and effort I spent on women. Once I started thinking things like 'ok, if I go on 3 dates with this girl, how long will that take me and where does it get me? Eh, I'll just invite her home right now so I can do other stuff with my time' I started noticing alot of improvement. Firstly, like you say in 'moving faster' it helped me get intimate with more girls and secondly, I had more free time to work or meet more girls.

Anyways, thanks for the article, it was very relatable!

Harry's picture

Being polite doesn't help if you are in a retail establishment and the person being offensive is an employee. And I do mean offensive, in tone and attitude. There are alot of these types who have low social skills, high levels of anger and frustration and who are bitter to no end if they see an attractive woman approach a man. Their sense of inferiority is stoked by their envy and all of a sudden they are like rabid dogs. Restaurant owners and their employees, store clerks, people whom, if you were to assault, will call the police or someone will call the police for them. This is how the beta males, police authorities and court system hold alpha males in check. If they disrespect you and you disrespect them in their turn then you are going to be told to get off the premises. Period. They will not come and meet you out side. And if you touch them within the establishment what you are going to hear from a cop and a judge is that you should have been the bigger man and walked away. Easy for them to say. So, being polite doesn't always work or defuse the situation and it is sometimes seen as absolute weakness. We are talking about dealing with losers who have nothing left to lose, or so imagine. One Korean restaurant owner decided to sell his place after I returned, placed and order and walked out of the restaurant to get a newspaper... Real funny thing is he had a wife who was working with him at the time; I'm not married and I'm single yet he was acting like I was trying to walk off with his wife and he probably never even saw the woman who was approaching me before that very day.

Anonymous's picture

Hey Chase, great article.
Ive been following you for a little while now and love the advice you give and I have definitely seen improvement in my interaction with women. I was wondering though if you had any tips for younger guys like me (18 years old) that wanted to attract women that are older (around 21-22.) Its pretty daunting approaching them and it seems like a long shot, but any advice would be appreciated.


Holmesfan13's picture

I'd suggest looking into Friedrich Nietszche's Master-Slave morality. It seems to parallel your first point of which traits are revered, like meekness and modesty, and which are frowned upon, like pride and confidence.

ennis's picture

Mr. Amante - I think I understand your point about "action vs. inaction", but you have seen the posts offered by women who expect to do NOTHING but test the guy who cones along, and "measure" his interest, Sounds like you have no problem playing such a game.
It is a different life when you wait for wome to approach, but at least she will be interested.

Vlad's picture

Hi Chase, I've accidentally found your blog and I was reading your posts for a while. One thing noticed is that you're not just good at helping to be successful with women, you also give food advices on sled-development. May I suggest you to wrote a few posts on how to act not just with women but in life (what to do, what to think about)

With respect,

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