Once upon a time, a young man prepared to leave home and venture into the city to find a wife. Before he left, his father, a simple farmer, gave him some advice: “Along the way, there are many who will want your ear. These will give you much advice on securing a wife, but the advice will not be for good for you, and it will not be good for your wife. The advice they give you will be based on fanciful ideas
As with the previous two past years (2013, 2014), I’ve sought to review all our articles posted and list the top posts, in my opinion and from comments/shares.
This past year saw 241 new posts, down a bit from 2014, though we started off the year with an all-time high posting schedule of new articles daily for the first several months of the year.
This year saw:
... plus four from George Russell, three from Jeff Stanton, a pair each from Francesco Toggianini and John Turner, and one each from Ben Harrison and Jerome Wu.
(the author links above link to each writer’s catalog of articles)
I’ll also discuss plans for the business in 2016, what you can expect, and a little bit about my upcoming course.
There’s a forceful concept we haven’t touched on a great deal on Girls Chase before, and that’s awareness radius.
We’ve discussed it a bit in the articles on the bored look and the skeptical look, and we’ve mentioned it as ‘extinction’ in the one on operant conditioning.
However, we’ve not called it by this name... awareness radius.
If you’re good, you’re using awareness radius strategically already, without knowing it. Once you’re consciously familiar with the concept, however, you can use it consciously as well as on autopilot, which makes you more socially formidable.
Even if you’re still learning, I’ll bet you’ll realize you’ve used this one from time to time, and what an impact it’s made. Now just think if you used it strategically.
Because, you see, awareness radius is a tool for communicating your own value, in your mind, relative to others; it’s a tool for rewarding good behavior and punishing bad; and it’s one you can use proactively to increase how much attention others are paying to you and what regard they hold you in.
A reader commented on my article on backward rationalization about women’s frequent misremembering or twisting of past event details:
“This is a great article. As a rational man, with integrity, I struggle with this all the time. Young women will routinely misremember things that they said and did, in a way that allows them to not accept responsibility. They’ll conjure up conversations, filling in my words, for their benefit. Very often it is to save them from losing face. Other times it is so they can avoid confronting the truth about themselves. To me, this is lying, but if I’m mad about it, it’s some “loss of frame”.
I had a post about this on redpill reddit a few months ago, asking if you should ever question a girl about why she was dishonest, as it seems pointless. The consensus seems that you just tell a woman what she did, and that it wont be tolerated. When she argues, you ignore.”
What our reader here is remarking on is one of the core differences in how men and women perceive the world, and it’s one it’s tremendously important to have a handle on if you want to run your relationships with women well.
The understanding is this: how a woman remembers a past event has less to do with the facts of the event than it has to do with how she feels right now.
This sounds topsy-turvy and wrongheaded from a male perspective, because how on Earth can you expect to create a sane and stable world if the past shifts with the sands of your very emotions?
However, it serves a critical role in how women deal with the world, as well as with those around them.
Few things carry as much of that ‘punch in the gut’ feeling as having a girl you’re seeing tell you she’s pregnant.
Unless you’re married and trying for children, hearing she has a bun in the oven is one of those shocks you never fully expect, and even if some part of you might’ve liked the idea of knocking this cute girl up in theory, being face to face with a real pregnancy is different.
And if you’re really unlucky (or, more accurately, really incautious), you now find yourself confronted with a girl who tells you she’s pregnant but is not a girl you’d like to have a child with in this or any universe.
The moral police reading this article will tut-tut and tell you, “Well now see, that’s why you need to be more responsible!”
That’s not the point of this article though.
This article’s about firefighting: what do you do when she hits you with this?
University is a black box for many men, and guys can struggle trying to figure out how to rise to the top of the social and sexual ranks. Our host Varoon Raja interviews Girls Chase author Hector Castillo and picks his brain on how men can do just that, and many of the surprises to expect and pitfalls to avoid along the way.
Some of the subjects covered:
Today’s article will focus on three different forms of touch for use in similar situations (mostly as greetings... hello and goodbye):
With each tactic, we’ll look at when these work best, when they can backfire, how exactly to use them, and what their pros and cons are.
So get yourself into a touchy-feely mood and let’s get to it.
“Master Teacher You, who was forty-three years younger than the Master, said, “Being a person who is lovingly obedient toward his parents and who models himself on his elders, and being at the same time someone who is bent on defying his superiors, that’s unlikely. Being a person who is not bent on defying his superiors, but who has a passion for stirring up confusion and disorder, that doesn’t happen, either.”
– The Analects of Confucius, 1:2, translated by David R. Schiller”
We’ve talked on here about crazy girls before, and about narcissistic women and women
with more extreme personality disorders.
Today I want to talk about where the seeds of many of the troublesome behaviors you’ll encounter in some women begin – namely, in the relationships they had with their mothers and fathers during childhood.
It’s not dwelt on too often in the dating advice community, but an individual’s family background and upbringing has tremendous follow-on effects that ripple down through the rest of her life, molding her relationships into something that mirrors the model she learned early on.
And that means that when it comes to predicting how a woman will behave – and especially, what kind of girlfriend she’ll make – you must pay close attention to how she grew up.
“Get up.
“Stand up for just a second.
“Step over here please, I want to show you something.
“Okay, now turn around – eh! Not so fast. Turn around slowly.
“Hmm, okay, you’ll do. So tell me how this friend screwed you over exactly.”
Ever wonder why leading women and getting investment from them is such a lynchpin of seduction?
In all honesty, you can take a woman who’s completely unattracted to you, and if you can get her to follow your lead well enough, you can take her to bed and take her as your lover. I’ve done it plenty of times.
It’s nice when she’s into you. But it’s nice to know you’ve got options too, even when she isn’t.
However, if you don’t understand why leading like this, and getting buy-in and compliance like this is so crucially important to your success rate with girls, you’re going to miss a lot of opportunities to use it where you really should be using it.
So why’s it so vital?
One of the most powerful drives a man has – perhaps, arguably, the most powerful drive he has – is his sex drive.
Your sex drive is a complicated piece of physiological machinery. It’s partly controlled by your hormones (testosterone is its primary driver in men), though also partly controlled by, of all things, your social status and sexual experience (or at least, this is the case in rhesus macaques, not too far distant from us on the primate family tree).
Various things impact your testosterone and can lower it; a messy
sleep cycle, certain diets, even emotionally
supportive relationships can bring it down (so you may have to
choose between a raging sex drive and fulfilling relationships). See my
article on the winner effect if you want to
read more about testosterone.
However, the male sex drive is good for more than just sex.
Your sex drive also powers your aggression, your ambition, and your motivation.
And the more you tap into and learn to channel it, to access the power of sexual transmutation, the more you can turn yourself into whatever man you aspire to be.
