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Sex Ratios, Human Dynamics, and Picking Up Girls

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By: Alek Rolstad

sex ratio & picking up girlsThe male-to-female sex ratio has a big impact on how people behave in nightlife. A favorable ratio can help you pick up girls… but a bad one can block you.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Today I want to talk about social dynamics and sex ratios.

There’s no doubt that social dynamics play a crucial role in night game while at clubs, bars, and parties, and this post also applies to social circle game, including social gatherings and private parties. Seduction occurs in social settings, so they both have that in common.

Anyone active in pickup and seduction needs social skills and a good understanding of social settings because women like socially savvy men. In my last article, I made the case that even day gamers should go to social gatherings to focus on social dynamics, so check out that post. (And if you are a beginner, you should.)

Let’s discuss a factor in both night game and social settings that determine the difficulty level so much that this simple factor can break or make your night.

That factor is the ratio, to be more precise, the male-to-female ratio in your pickup setting. You may already have a good idea about what we are about to discuss, and you likely have some knowledge about how the male-to-female ratio can affect your outing.

Nevertheless, it’s an overlooked factor that we have not discussed much. And if you are a seasoned reader, you know how we operate: we will go in-depth on how the male-to-female ratio affects social dynamics. So, this will be a theoretical but important post. Next week we will get more practical and cover different solutions to unfavorable ratios.

5 Best Places to Use Sex Talk & Turn Girls On

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By: Alek Rolstad

sex talk on datesSex talk works great for nightlife. But it isn’t just suited to there! You can use it at parties, on dates, your place… even in day game and online.

Hi guys. I hope you are all doing great.

Today’s post is straightforward to clarify some misconceptions about my signature and favorite technique, sex talk. It’s the art of setting a sexual frame and presenting an attractive sexual persona by conveying that:

  • You are an experienced lover who knows how to provide an unforgettable sexual experience for women. You understand sexual psychology, anatomy, and techniques.

You express all this in a laid-back, indirect way. You never convey that you have direct sexual desire for her. You only discuss sexual subjects to set frames and communicate those traits about you.

This “indirectness” allows you to sexualize the interaction without facing much resistance. Combining it with smooth transitions allows you to sexualize things easily and safely.

The sex talk method has been very popular since I introduced it in the late 2000s, especially with intermediate and advanced players. It makes sense because they have an excellent overall understanding of social dynamics combined with conversational control. And both are required.

Sex talk is an essential fundamental, not an advanced skill. It’s not suited for total beginners, but intermediate guys can learn it if they are comfortable talking to girls, have a decent hook game, have good fundamentals, and can manage conversations using frame control.

Even though sex talk is very efficient, many guys disregard it. Why? Some have misconceptions and believe it is only a night game technique.

Because online and day game are the two most popular methods, those unbelievers disregard sex talk as a valid method due to this misconception. I will clarify: it is not just a night game-only technique. Sex talk was not meant initially for night game. Sex talk truly shines in settings that are not at night!

First, a brief history.

How to Become a High Value Man (Real Life Example)

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By: Alek Rolstad

become a high value manA high-value man is not just a man who POSSESSES value – he is a man who GIVES value. Here’s how to become one, with a real life case study example.

Hey guys and welcome back.

Today, I want to discuss a factor in social circles and night game. It’s a concept we’ve discussed before: giving value makes you high value. In other words, to become a high value man, you need to give, not take.

Givers are valued. It’s what makes them high value. It is as simple as that.

I will delve into details and provide some theoretical background for this concept. We’ll look at examples of how giving value got me at the top of Parisian nightlife. I will share some examples of how other high value men use these tricks, and hopefully, you will see how YOU can use this concept in field.

This concept has rarely been discussed practically in the past. Instead of discussing high value as a mindset or philosophy, we will talk about how it can be useful when you are out. And that is fine; it indeed is both. More importantly, high value is a social concept and a technique! And it is the latter I’ll emphasize in this post.

New to Day Game? You NEED to Do Night Game or Social Circle Too!

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By: Alek Rolstad

day game social skillsMany day game novices make mistakenly focus JUST on day game… without raising their general social skills up too. This is a big no-no for day game success!

Hey guys.

This post is for struggling beginners.

I have written many posts defending nightgame. Online and day game has become the most popular forms of seduction lately. I understand why online game has become so widespread. It seems easy, and if you struggle with approach anxiety, sitting at home swiping left and right removes some of the scariness of seduction.

You may have this perception that if you swipe through massive numbers of hot girls, one will eventually like you, and getting a date will be a piece of cake, and it will be an easy deal moving forward. But we know it’s not quite that simple for most.

The problem is that dating apps primarily include men. Recently, I did an experiment on the Bumble dating app. I set my profile so that I was interested in both men and women.

Guess what happened? When I was ready to swipe, all I saw were guys, with a ratio of probably 90% men. It blew my mind! After a few hours, I had 53 likes. Next, I deselected that I was interested in men, and I only had three likes!

Those men are most likely bi or gay. They are a minority of men. And despite that, they made up 90% of my suggestions when I was about to swipe! So, imagine what it is like for straight guys, the majority. So finding women online is not ideal.

But what about day game? It’s a legitimate form of game. Yes, I’ve had my fair share of daygame outings. It offers many benefits, like allowing you to pick up girls without having many distractions. You don’t have to deal with the noise and the chaos so common in night game, also appealing.

You often interact one-on-one from the start—the meta in day game, going for single girls, not groups. It allows you to quickly build rapport and connect without distractions, with the intimacy of a one-on-one interaction, without interruptions from her friends. You won’t have to isolate your girl from her group, which can be probelmatic. And you don’t screw up your sleeping rhythm.

So, these are all good reasons, right? Just stick to day game.

How to Isolate a Girl in a Seduction, Pt. 5: Step-by-Step

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By: Alek Rolstad

isolate a girl: wrap upA step-by-step guide to isolating women in a seduction. Follow these key steps and make getting girls alone with you wherever you are straightforward.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

I recently shared four comprehensive posts that delve into various methods and dimensions of isolating your girl.

Today I am providing instructions for isolation techniques with a cheat sheet summarizing everything I’ve discussed about isolation, putting it all in context, and covering all the steps. I will not go into depth here, as I’ve discussed technique details already. If you haven’t read my past posts on isolation, look at the techniques here, choose what you want to work on, and read the linked post below that covers it fully.

How to Isolate a Girl in a Seduction, Pt. 1: Basics

I will not share every pointer covered in my past posts today. I will mention the most efficient, useful, and crucial ones.

If it is your first time hearing about isolation, you’ve come to the right place. Isolation is a crucial technique (some would even say it is THE most essential aspect of pickup and seduction next to frame control).

Isolation is the art of getting a girl alone. It’s especially relevant if you meet girls in groups (very common in social gatherings and night game). As a reminder, here are some benefits of isolation:

  • More intimacy – it’s only you and her. This creates more of a connecting vibe.

  • Fewer distractions – no interruptions mean that you can focus on her alone.

  • Less resistance when escalating – fewer people can see and judge her, making her feel more at ease letting go and escalating the vibe with you.

  • Quieter surroundings – isolation often involves taking her to a calmer area, facilitating verbal communication.

  • Moving her elsewhere – grants you bonus rapport points, as experiencing different spaces makes her feel like she knows you better.

But isolating her can sometimes be tricky, so we dedicated four posts to this, as it is such an important subject.

We discussed a lot of content in those four posts. It may seem like isolation is the hardest thing on earth to pull off. The truth is, if the girl likes you, isolation can be easy: “Hey, wanna go outside and grab a smoke?” Yes, it can be that simple. Sometimes, it is more challenging, and you may need to befriend her friends. By default, I always do so preventively!

Note: the steps may look overblown and advanced because I aim to give as much detail as possible to ensure success. However, this may be overwhelming: it may look overcomplicated, advanced, and too hard to pull off if you are a newer reader. Do not panic. I will provide a simpler setup later in this post.

How to Isolate a Girl in a Seduction, Pt. 4: Mini-Isolation

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By: Alek Rolstad

mini-isolationWhen logistics or compliance don’t permit full isolation with a girl, instead: mini-isolate her. It’s simple, and can springboard you into full isolation.

Hey guys.

Today I will share another isolation technique to use when isolation is difficult. Try this option If you run into situations when the go-to strategy granting full isolation, as described in my previous articles, is not feasible. Your best bet is to opt for mini-isolation: you are still near her group but slightly outside, say just three feet away. You may not be entirely alone with her; however, her friends are not directly part of your interaction.

As you can imagine, being completely isolated is more desirable because it allows more benefits:

  • You both have more intimacy.

  • You have fewer chances of people chiming in and disrupting your interaction.

  • She will feel more at ease acting sexually and escalating with you away from her peers, and, even better, she is not in view of everyone in the venue.

The problem is that sometimes you cannot fully isolate for various reasons. I will discuss these below.

So, what can you do? Do you keep conversing with the whole group? Sure, that is one solution, but it is more challenging to set the right frames with your girl when you deal with the entire group. And how do you truly connect and escalate the vibe with your girl if you are dealing with the whole group? A better option would be to go for something in between. This is where mini-isolation comes in—the “lesser evil” option.

Mini-isolation allows you to get some peace and intimacy.

Read on to find out how to get your girl mini-isolated and what to do during mini-isolation.

How to Isolate a Girl in a Seduction, Pt. 3: Qualify to Isolate

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qualification isolationWant to make it even simpler to isolate a girl you’ve been chatting up? Here’s all you have to do: qualify her first, THEN isolate her.

Hey guys. Welcome back to my series on isolation.

You already know that isolation is crucial when meeting girls in groups, typically in night game settings. Isolation makes the interaction and seduction easier. It generates more intimacy, facilitates rapport, builds connection, and helps to escalate the vibe, reducing resistance from your girl. On top of this, it also reduces being cockblocked. Isolation is essential.

In my first post, we discussed the basics of isolation and its benefits, isolation factors, and using “isolation requests.” We also shared tips to increase your odds of succeeding, such as using seeding, plausible deniability, and reducing the pressure by letting her friends know where you are isolating your girl.

In my last post, the second post on isolation in this series, we went through social dynamics and how that plays into isolation: what makes it more difficult and easier, how to calibrate, and, more importantly, how to deal with challenging isolation situations.

Finally, we covered how important it is to win over the alpha girl when attempting to isolate. The alpha girl usually gets the final say on whether you get to isolate your girl (unless your target is the alpha girl). We suggested that it is wise to ask the alpha, in addition to your girl, whether you can isolate. We also discussed why doing this is often your best call, so if you are curious why, check my previous article.

Today, I want to share another technique that will increase your odds of isolating successfully: qualification. In addition to facilitating isolation, this technique provides many other benefits. I’ve mentioned these in my past posts on qualification, detailing how to qualify and why you should qualify. If you do not know how to qualify, consider this required reading for this post.

I will give a brief recap here, but that may not be enough if you are unfamiliar with the subject. You must familiarize yourself with this because it is a crucial and fundamental seduction technique.

How to Isolate a Girl in a Seduction, Pt. 2: Social Dynamics

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By: Alek Rolstad

isolate a girl with social dynamicsWhen you want to get a girl alone with you but she’s with friends, use it to your advantage. With her friend’s approval, isolating a girl gets even easier…

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Last time we discussed isolation basics: the art of getting her alone with you and away from her group of friends.

We covered why isolation is essential and went over basic techniques.

So why is it essential?

  • You create more intimacy; it’s only you and her. You have a more connecting vibe.

  • Fewer distractions as it is all about you and her. You can focus on her alone.

  • You have less resistance when escalating with fewer people to see and judge her, helping her feel more at ease about letting go and escalating the vibe with you.

  • Usually, you both move to a quieter area, facilitating verbal communication.

  • Moving her around grants you bonus rapport points, as experiencing different spaces with someone makes them feel like they know you.

We discussed different settings where isolation occurs, ranging from natural isolation (when it happens accidentally) to actively isolating your girl with isolation requests (asking her to go somewhere with you). The ley for successfully isolating is how your girl feels about you (unless it is an accidental isolation).

Consider these factors before trying to isolate:

  • How compliant she is toward you. (How attracted is she?)

  • How comfortable she is around you.

  • How much her friends like you, and how secure they are in letting you be around her.

We also covered techniques to increase your odds of successfully isolating, such as seeding, thread slicing, open loops, and plausible deniability.

Today we will dive deeper into actively isolating her with requests. We will focus on group dynamics and how that plays into isolation by making or breaking your isolation attempt. You will learn how to use social dynamics to increase your chances of successfully isolating even more.

The main goal is to understand how social dynamics affect isolation requests and how playing the social dynamics correctly will up your success rate.

And as you will see, it plays a huge role.

How to Isolate a Girl in a Seduction, Pt. 1: Basics

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By: Alek Rolstad

how to isolate a girlIsolating a girl is critical to moving your seductions forward. Use these simple steps to isolate girls and get them alone with you, away from other people.

Hey there. Welcome back.

After scrolling through the site, I realized we have nearly everything covered: every interaction phase of courtship, almost every imaginable situation. And we have many posts covering subjects from different perspectives with varied solutions. That’s awesome!

But I see very few posts on how to isolate a girl — that is, how to get your girl alone and away from her group of friends. There are plenty of posts that mention it and discuss its importance. But few talk about how to get her alone.

You’ll find one good post on the subject that covers the basics: Tactics Tuesdays: How to Isolate a Girl Away from Her Friends. Considering it is a crucial topic essential to successful seduction, it baffles me that we have not written more about it.

It’s not just a phenomenon seen here. It is rarely discussed in general in the community—whether on forums, in YouTube videos, on other sites, or in products. And it is odd!

Seduction almost always requires that you get her alone at some point. Yes, there are odd exceptions, but don’t rely on them just as you should not rely on group sex and orgies. Not all seduction requires isolation, though. If you meet a girl online or through an app, they will be alone with you. If you go for a lone wolf, common in daygame, you will be alone with her from the start.

But going for girls in groups, commonly done in night game, will require you to isolate her. If you meet girls in clubs, you must learn how to isolate a girl. You will need to know isolation basics if you meet a girl in bars, lounges, or social events.

So today, I intend to cover this subject in-depth with a three-post series. This post will be like Chase’s post as I will provide my take on isolation. My next two posts will cover deadly efficient advanced techniques that my students and I use successfully. They have a higher success rate than the basic strategies. However, the basic strategies have their place, and the more advanced tech builds upon them.

Let’s begin.

Spotting the Alpha Girl in a Group (& Winning Her Over)

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alpha girlThe alpha girl (or alpha female) of a group of girls can help you – or hinder you. You must know who she is & how to approach her to succeed with her group.

Hey guys and welcome back.

Today I want to discuss a subject we haven’t talked about: social dynamics and group theory. This post will be handy for those who meet girls in bars, clubs, and social events, as these places have groups. The day game meta is about going for lone wolves. But day gamers sometimes go for groups, so this post may apply to them.

I will discuss dynamic group theory as it applies to alpha girl theory, specifically who leads the group and who are the followers. As you can imagine, this plays a crucial role in defining how the interaction goes and affects your game plan.

First, I want to credit my friend and wingman (the best wingman) Pablo Garcia, aka Pelusita, for introducing this theory to me. Back in the day, he wanted to write a post like this.

This post is an extension to my past group theory posts: A New Take on Mystery’s Group Theory for Meeting Girls in Groups.