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Women Want Your Attention

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Everybody likes attention. Yet with women, attention is more than a means to an end – getting your attention is very often the end itself.

Women will tell you they want a lot of things.

But there’s one thing women want from you above and beyond all else: your attention.

They can want this attention to take various forms.

Some women want you to be smitten with them.

Some women want you to chase after them.

Some women want you to feel like you could never have them (yet pine after them regardless).

Some women want you to court them, seduce them, and make love to them.

Some women just want you to think they’re amazing.

But the one thing all women have in common is they want you to notice them, look at them, and pay them attention.

As a man, this is important for you to understand. All the women around you fight for your attention. They do it in different ways. Some tempt you; some shame you; some scold you; some befriend you; some agree with you. All seek to have you notice them, listen to them, and invest your time and energy into them.

You must understand you can control which women receive your attention... and what they must give you in exchange for it.

But just because you can control this, doesn’t mean you will. Many women are far better at extracting attention from men without giving things men value in return for it than men are at getting what they want in return.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



Edgy's picture

Chase, I really love ur mind! Thnx for the great content as always. Btw I'm wondering if u have any insights on the October man technique. All the various posts online claim it is a seduction tool that can yield results in as little as 15 minutes. Is this really fact or myth? And was this what u partly used in ur 15 minute lay report at the end of HTMGC?

Anonym's picture

Hi Chase,

thanks for an interesting article. I have two points:

1) You wrote "This is a subject that is more or less verboten in the 21st Century West. You are not allowed to say that the things women say and do are done for attention! You are supposed to take all these thoughts and deeds seriously, as serious, literal, rational business!... Women do what they do to get attention – that’s the observed reality. "
Do you really believe that woman do things only for attention and do not take things as serious bussiness? I agree there are attention seekers etc., but I believe that in many cases they take things seriously (which is not necessarily exclusive with intention to get some attention). However, I am not sure how to make clear distinction and how to recognize those who do things purely for attention and others.

2) In some article in the past you wrote some about how is it important to make a woman feel allowed to be with you, continue with seduction, flirt, get laid etc., because sometimes women have internal inhibitions to do things like this. Then you offered some advice what to do about it. Do you have some advice for men who have this issue as well? If you are inexperienced and also more a rules-based rather than spontaneous guy, than it may happen you do not feel allowed to approach a girl, ask her out, make a move, touch her, have sex etc., even if you see people around you doing it (not mentioning other social situations where approaching and seducing women is not common). Like it is not the right thing to do.

Thanky you.


Zanardi's picture

A conclusion that I drew from this and other similar articles on GC is that you can gave good fundamentals and good game and still don't get the girl, but not because of you, but because of her. If I meet an investment thief, for example, I can be the next James Bond and it's all in vain.

House's picture

Great insights. Really appreciate your endless endeavor in picking up the female mind and having zero qualm sharing such taboo yet valuable topic with the general public.

However, I do notice that men, under lots of circumstances, also act in ways that seek attention for the sake of feeling powerful/influential/admired, much like some of the females behaviors described in the article. Examples:
- gucci up with fake gold gadgets or limited air jordans feel trendy
- throw up jokes or lines to feel "cool"
- initiate fights in front of crowds (especially girls) just to show what a badass they are
- show off the brilliance of their brain power in classroom discussion
- up their voices to let others know who is in charge
- etc.
It's a very natural human trait to seek certain feelings (which I think could be classified as an end) through the behaviors/actions (means) of attention-seeking, regardless of sexes.

It's hard to distill the "how bad do you want it" into genetics or environment. Some men are just very driven to power because they like to feel the status boost, not because they want to use the power to do something else. I can't really speak for girls, since I am not as experienced as you in this. But for men, I guess there is certainly a background element involved. From my observation, these guys usually had very a busy, inattentive father figure in their life (me included), or just straight up broken childhood. People crave more feelings for what they feel like they missed in life.

Jimbo's picture

True. There's some of that for men. The #1 motive for these school shootings is infamy. Every FBI report on mass murders and high-profile crimes cites yearning for notoriety as one of the motives of the man who committed them, after they go through their writings and all - emerging as a badass, being the talk of the town, movies made about you, groupies, etc.

But see, all of these things you mentioned, men do them to increase their status, influence, desirability, respect, etc. Attention is still not the endgame here, it's still a means to an end, the end being looking more powerful and intimidating and all.

So I'd say it's still different from the females who want attention in and of itself.

Sadeqh 's picture

From reading this art Of chase and others that he wrote I say he’s really good at giving people perspectives and
He has some seriously working standards that is generally applicable when it comes to women, he as well does very well at cutting edge techniques that saves worthy amounts of time but I guess he sometimes becomes too intellectual on details and is a little bit hard to understand(why?)

Tnx regardless

Jimbo's picture

Nice essay, Chase. Though it did get a little too technical at times.

On that "abused girl seeking white knights" part, I've always been of the opinion and suspicion that the main driver behind false rape and abuse claims is attention. It must be really thrilling getting all that attention from the entire village, and men willing to defend you and punish your alleged abusers, getting all that turmoil just for you, when just two seconds nobody paid attention to you.

Jimbo's picture

The dude hugging the woman looks like Drake

Edgy's picture

Chase! Hope ur doing great. I'm wondering if u might have a few pointers on how to comfort a friend in adversity. A few years back a close friend of mine lost his dad and I just didn't know what to do...whether to call him since at the time I was on business at a far away location and in case I did call him, what wud I say. Nonetheless it was a deer in the headlights scenario for me. Given that this is a social dynamics site, I think the GC community wud appreciate an article on a matter such as this that is bound to rear up its ugly head once in a while.

Bruhaha's picture

Howdy Chase! Thnx 4 all the amazing content. Such a treasure trove! Whew, BTW Chase I just noticed that there are 2 articles I can't trace at the moment. The first is an article u wrote during GC's infancy days on how to pick up waitresses and bartenders. The 2nd is "meet women more easily; lifestyle" which is a companion piece to "meet women more easily; location". And finally " why you can't let her go" which was a guest post by you on post masculine.

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