Ever deal with a girlfriend causing drama by just trying to get her
to forget it?
This can seem the expedient path, but rarely is it the most prudent
one.
It
is just human nature that we don’t want
to forget the things that got
the better of us. We dwell on the past to avoid getting bested again in
the future.
However, in order to make sure the old wounds are not sabotaging us
in the present, we have to remember that moving forwards is more
important than reminding ourselves of the past.

We get stuck in a perpetual loop after bad things have happened
sometimes, and that is okay, but sometimes we just need a little help
to step outside of those troubles so we can start seeing ourselves
acting normal again before we get past it.
Girls are just like anyone else when it comes to the past because
they don’t know how to address the same issues if faced with them again
in the future. When they face them again they will gain a heightened
awareness of how fragile their situation is and worry about it.
Most guys address these concerns the wrong way: they
make promises,
ignore the looming possibility of reoccurrence of the issue, and target
her “focusing on the past” as the problem to be eradicated. The
only
problem with that is GETTING HIT ONCE IS ENOUGH to double the pain when
hit TWICE, so a girl is going exaggerate the importance of the issue if
it is ignored.
Girls often mention the past because they
are afraid
that a positive stream of events they are having will be interrupted by
the same BS. In order to help girls move past this, don’t make
promises, don’t ignore that it can happen again, and don’t treat her
memory and caution as the problem.