The effects emotions have on men and women, and how they can be a powerful tool in attraction and relationship building.
Welcome back, gentlemen.
In Part 1 of this series we explored the power of arrogance and how to get it.
Then in Part 2 we explored the inevitable consequences of exercising arrogance.
To recover from that prideful fall, we looked at how to cultivate humility in Part 3, a sheathe for our fearless determination and a crucial step in surpassing the “jerk”.
Now we’re going to learn how to love people.
As men, we often want to solve every little detail when it comes to women, especially when we are feeling cynical (when we don’t try in life). You don’t think you deserve it, you don’t want to hear confirmation that you suck, you just want to stay deaf, dumb, and blind. How can things ever work out unless you hold the MAGIC answers? How can you ever be good enough unless you can prove it? How can you progress at all if you don’t know everything there is to know?
You think you are doomed because you don’t know it all, and so you want all the details; you want to have it all figured out ahead of time. But what if I told you, the details will only get you to the fight. What if I told you that the fight you will then enter will suck and hurt, and all your obsessive planning will be minimally useful from this point on. Would you still rush to know it all, knowing it will only get you out of the frying pan and into the fire?
Sometimes we feel so compelled towards our desire for solutions and the truth that we cannot help but feel the allure of being a cynic, at least temporarily. So in this article I am going to explain to you why positivity is more valuable than every little detail about something you can find... and we’ll also discuss why it’s such an important tool to master and practical applications of it in our dating lives.
Howdy folks,
In Part 1 of this series we covered how one can utilize the virtue of arrogance to kill the weakness within. In Part 2 we experienced the pain of misusing arrogance.
Here in Part 3 we will discuss humility, the sheath that can reign in the sword of arrogance.
In the last couple of posts, we have examined the series of events
that had to happen both logistically and emotionally in order for an
escalation to progress successfully from meet to mate. 
We understand that logistical escalation refers to, from a simplified perspective, where to do something, while emotional escalation refers to when to do something.
This information is important to understand, as the majority of time spent during your learning curve when approaching and socializing will be learning when to do (or say) whatever it is you do (or say).
In other words, when you are in an interaction with a woman to whom you are attracted, you will learn, through trial by error, to recognize the signals that she is communicating to you (mostly non-verbally), as to when to ramp up, or slow down your escalation.
Women are all different, so when you are able to recognize the emotions a woman is experiencing, you will be able to connect with her quickly, effectively, and then build upon this connection to guide the interaction to the Optimal / Desired Reality.
A good way of looking at emotions is to view them as filters. These emotional filters are the keys to decoding her communication.
In this post I will discuss a very simple concept: moving on. This seems so basic and so trivial to many men, but, believe it or not, this is where most rookies and even intermediate players fail.
In the comment section we often get questions where the obvious answer is “You should have moved on.”
Still though, many expect a more interesting answer, so we try to give them some more feedback that could help them with their issue, and though our suggestion might work, honestly, if I were in their situation I would have simply moved on, and I can with confidence say that many of my colleagues here would have done the same.
Let us quickly explain what is meant by moving on and why the ability to do so is attractive before discussing different scenarios in which moving on is especially useful.
Howdy kids!
In Part 1 of this series, “The Genuine Man, Part 1: The Arrogant Man”, we explored in great detail the virtuous nature of arrogance. I hope you’ve been applying the lessons diligently! Now let’s examine the fruits of our labor.
Note: this is a cautionary tale.
You’ve probably met one of these guys before. Or you’ve at least seen countless variations of him on television shows, in movies, or in books.
This is the guy who really just doesn’t give a fuck.
Previously, in “Escalation Series Pt. 1: The Logistical Timeline of Events”, we were able to breakdown and plot the series of logistical events that had to happen in order for the desired reality – consensual physical intimacy – to exist in an interaction that successfully progressed from meet to mate.
We also learned that, just as there were external (for example, logistical) elements that had to occur, there also were internal (read: emotional) elements that were needed in order for an interaction to successfully progress from the approach, throughout numerous moments of posting up and moving together, until eventually, and inevitably, leading to the desired reality of physically bonding together.
In part 2 of this series, to gain a better understanding of how to effectively escalate an interaction from meet to mate, we are going to take a closer look at this process by examining it through the lens of emotions!
Once again, as a bit of a disclaimer, understand that some of this information will seem very abstract, so I will attempt to give concrete examples whenever possible. At the same time, understand that as you gain more experience while internalizing these effective mindsets and behaviors, the information will become clearer and less abstract.
Let’s begin!
Many men seek purity in women. Some men view them as of higher value; as something beautiful. The idea of purity is very important, especially when a man is looking for a long term relationship.
Now, personally I do not care for purity – in fact, purity for me is unattractive in the sense that it is incongruent with sexual liberalism. I enjoy female sexuality; I find it hot, sexy, and mysterious. It gives me so many kicks, you have no idea.
When I first read Chase’s article on being a genuine man, “Secrets to Getting Girls: Better than Jerk”, my mind instinctively rebelled against the notion. “I enjoy being the badboy jerk! It’s part of my identity! Anyone who doesn’t like jerks is just a pussy!”
When you are the jerk, you spike attraction ridiculously hard, especially if your competition is a bunch of wimps, and you rarely feel weak. You’re always the strongest man in the room. Or, if you’re not, you’ll take him down. You will inevitably crush all competition with brute arrogant force and win.
Or so I thought.
Excuses – we’ve all got ‘em. Some of us more than others.
This article’s for the guy who’s committed himself to turning pretty girls he meets in his day-to-day life into pretty girls he’s sleeping with on a none-too-infrequent basis, yet still finds himself stalling up or not having things happen for one of a small variety of reasons.
Here are the reasons that we’ll be covering in this post:
