Your initial approach: how you first start talking to that girl you really like.
Lately, I have been getting a lot of my dates from riding on the subway. So since that style of game is fresh on my mind I thought I would give you guys the run down on how to turn your everyday train ride into your new pick-up spot.
My first “real” job was an entry
level position in a contact center – I was one of a few dozen young
people who sat in a large office floor
taking calls. It was a thankless job but a fun experience overall.
You might be wondering – what does this have to do with first impressions?
You see, I was still rather inexperienced at the time, and after hearing stories from buddies in similar jobs/positions I figured that I might as well use this opportunity to meet women too.
Office romances... great idea right? Well, not really, but that’s another story.
Before my first day I went out shopping for clothes. Because this was my first job with a dress code (no jeans and stuff), I didn’t own anything remotely passable that wasn’t a suit, and this was by no means a job worth wearing a suit for.
Even though my dressing sexy skills were far from what they are today, I was already grasping the basic concepts:
The result,
I got myself slim cut grey dress pants, purple buttoned shirt, black dress shoes, and a black leather belt – solid, professional look. Because I had that ulterior motive of getting with my new sexy coworkers, I wore my buttoned shirt with an extra button open and had my medium length hair styled to something similar to this picture.
Given my agenda, I also tried to have a sexy walk going when passing the floor to get my coffee.
Considering that most other guys did the bare minimum just to pass the dress code requirements, I naturally stood out.
For the first week (or was it two weeks...) we, newbies, were trained separately and only passed the floor where everyone was working a couple of times a day to get coffee and have lunch.
By the end of the training a few funny things happened:
Most guys who were working there already didn’t like me.
Some of the female co-workers were already calling “dibs” on me (it was shared with me later in the job).
Both of these things happened despite me saying probably less than five words (“Good morning”, “Hi”) to people who were working there.
Unsurprisingly, by the end of my first week actually working there, a cute co-worker approached me during the break to ask for my number and later asked me out. And during my short time before getting promoted to another department there been a few other pleasurable encounters like that.
I’m sharing this to show you how truly powerful first impression and your image can be. Now, as I got wiser, I usually advise against office romances, but we can reap the benefits of the right first impression in nearly every social situation.
And with this article, I’d like to show you how you can use specifically clothes and grooming to achieve the first impression of a sexy man.
In every genre of music, concerts typically play a big role in fan enjoyment. All music lovers dream of seeing their favorite superstars live. I’ve been to dozens of concerts and at them I have picked up several women.
There are similarities between gaming at a concert and gaming at a night club. However, the concert is still its own unique scenario.
There are a few challenges you will experience when gaming women at concerts. The first major challenge will be dealing with a girl’s friends. No girl goes to concerts alone. Her friends might try to cockblock you. Lean to handle them through the article on Handling Her Friends.
The other challenges you are bound to encounter are the loud music that will hinder your communication and packed crowds that will make it otherwise difficult to move through and reach your targets. I will explain how to deal with all of these obstacles in this article.
Note from Chase: this is our first post from Philip Etemesi, joining us from Africa for a four-article trial run. Philip’s been a follower of and practitioner of Girls Chase material for some time, with his own twists. Please let us know in the comments section of Philip’s next few articles if you enjoy his writing and would like to see more from him in the future. His first article is about meeting girls on buses. Here’s Philip.
I am a new writer at Girls Chase and I am more than thrilled to be part of a site that has influenced my game so much. For a start, I’ve been tasked with reviving a blog post series called Tactics Tuesday. Through it, I shall focus on seduction techniques that you can use in situations that might appear tricky at first.
If you don’t own a car, you probably ride the bus a number of times a week. Even if you do own a car, you’ll find yourself having to take the bus from time to time because you’re either saving on gas or you’re tired of pressing your foot to the pedal. Buses are designed to transport plenty of people, and any location where lots of people converge will consequently have lots of women too. Buses can offer a great atmosphere for seduction.
So in my first piece, I’ll be your tutor on the all-too-tricky issue of how to approach a girl in a bus.
Welcome back. Today I will continue where I last ended it. Just to recap my previous post where I discussed going out and meeting women when you social momentum was low (or “negative” – as in “not feeling like it”), I discussed a few things and I used one of my nights out in Bulgaria where I went out even though I had caught a serious throat infection (I was on strong antibiotics) and also had a lack of sleep in addition to being tired from travelling.
This post is from the same night and is a continuation of that night out. In my previous post I covered the few event that took place before what I am about to cover in this post. I went out and talked to 2 groups of girls, but the emphasis of the previous post was on how I dealt with my bad mood.
This post covers the event of my third approach of the night. I will cover the interaction step by step. I will add as many details as possible and share my personal notes on the interaction and explain everything I do: why I do what I do and why and how it works. In addition to that, I will share many different techniques; so this post will work partly as a lay report and partly as a guide – a hybrid.
This post will give you an idea on how a seduction works – how it all works together. The main theme of the post will be around “leading” – i.e., leading the interaction from you being just a stranger in her eyes into you being her lover for the night. I will use the actual story of the report to exemplify my points.
Take a big breath...
Because this post is long, full of content, and VERY action packed...
In addition to the main theme “leading”, here are some other topics covered in this post:
Let’s get right into it...
Hey everyone. Having finished up my long and detailed picking up women on the dance floor guide, I've decided to write about something else.
I recently finished my degree, giving me a lot more time to head out. Lately, I've been going out every weekend. I also travelled to Spain and Bulgaria.
In Bulgaria I met Chase. It has been a while since I have seen him. Chase hasn't changed much, apart from growing his hair - which looked great on him. We had a blast in Bulgaria - Chase is still an interesting character and it's always a pleasure to hang out with him. The discussions we had in Bulgaria were as interesting as when I met him years ago in China.
My idea is to write a series of posts inspired by my recent nights out; covering my observations and the lessons I have learned on the way. I will not cover every event - some are less interesting - for example the nights where I accidently bumped into a super horny girl who ended up back at my place within minutes are not that interesting.
I will also share some detailed reports as well (next week!) where you will see what I do step-by-step in-field, with my own personal notes. This way you will:
Get a feel on how things work together - most posts here at GC covers a narrow topic, but putting it all together is an art in itself.
Get an idea of how things are applied in real life.
Understand how I think in-field - my mindsets, beliefs, and reasoning.
Steal some cool lines - I will share some nuggets.
Learn a few cool tricks and tactics.
See how I handle different REAL life situations that occur.
Each post will have one main topic, but we will also discuss some other smaller observations that are of interest.
Whether you’re talking to a girl inside a club or inside your apartment, you are going to need to be an effective communicator.
Conversation is not only something you do to bond with girls, but it’s a tool to get her back to your place. Not saying the right thing at the beginning could result in her never giving you a chance. A boring conversation could have her walking away from you mid-sentence. If you can’t get her to feel comfortable at your place, you could fail right at the finish line.
So here is my hello to good morning conversation guide:
One of the mainstays of old school pickup was the false time constraint.
You would go up, deliver it on approach, and it would help you display high value plus remove any fear a girl might have of you being a social burden – some guy who shows up, gloms onto her, then never leaves and she can’t get rid of him.
The false time constraint’s faded into increasing obscurity, a relic of an indirect game past that assumed guys start out in a low-value position and have to demonstrate higher value before women will like them. That’s why I haven’t talked it up much before – my advice is “get your fundamentals to the point where you’re automatically higher value.”
But what about situations where you mess up on the opener, or maybe for whatever reason this girl thinks she’s better than you, or you’re meeting women somewhere the competition is fierce and girls are flakey and non-commital – is it ever worth using an “FTC” to give yourself breathing room and show her what you’ve really got?
Last week I wrote about how to get good at night game quickly. This week I am writing my guide for efficient day game.
Day game is a lot easier than night game. This is due to the fact that interactions aren’t nearly as long and there aren’t nearly as many distractions.
The problem a lot of guys face with day game is, first and foremost, approach anxiety and poor strategy. Approach anxiety never fully goes away, but the one thing that helps me with it is the phrase “Think Do” – anything I think I should do, I do. This gets me out of my head and approaching quickly, but despite that, approach anxiety will still be a demon you face for as long as you’re in the game.
This article is mainly concerned with approaching day game with an efficient strategy. This is so you can get the girls you want in a realistic time frame.
Hi everyone, and welcome back. I hope you are enjoying this guide so far. There is a lot more to come.
It is now time that we start discussing the actual interactions you will have with women.
So far we have covered numerous topics involving the pre-approach phase. These topics included:
Keep in mind that these 3 topics will work as a solid foundation for what is to come.
For example, having social momentum will make your approach smoother (increasing your chances of hooking a girl and minimizing your chances of being rejected). With social momentum you will also approach more girls (because you just “feel like” socializing with people), which will create more opportunities. Both these things will affect your opening positively.
Also, being in a sexual state will help you out a lot – maybe not during the opening phase, but it will help the next phase to come (escalation) tremendously, as your presence will be sexual and it’ll be easier to set a sexual frame. Setting a sexual frame is useful because it eases up the process from meeting-to-bedding a lot.
Last time we discussed target selection – how we could cherry pick receptive women out of the crowd by looking at their availability and spotting girls giving you signs of interest. By training your eye, you will easily know which girl will be up for a roll in the hay tonight and which won’t. Opening will then become really easy.
So if you have at least some of the things we have discussed in the preceding weeks in check, then pulling off what I am going to talk about in this post will be a piece of cake. This is especially the case if you have managed to receive an approach invitation from a girl. But what if you fail to get any approach invitations? Or what if you do get some but you fail to see them? Then you can always do a receptivity test by forcing an approach invitation out of a girl. I will now tell you how to do that and how it works.
