(2) Intermediate

How do you know whether you’re dating a woman or just hooking up? It’s hard to tell sometimes, and this confusion can really foul up whatever it is you have going on.

Dating a woman in 2020 can be confusing. With the popularity of hookup apps, dating sites, and even cold approach, combined with a sexually liberal culture, who’s to know when you’re actually dating versus just hooking up?

You’d think it's always the man who aims for a hookup. But it’s not always like that. I remember when I lost my virginity at the sweet age of 15. She was 17 and had these mega-yummy huge bazoingas. For some reason, she decided we had to bang and dragged me off to her seduction location.

Following my first sexual encounter, I was ecstatic. Now I finally had a girlfriend, I figured, imagining all the sex and good times I was going to have with her. But she had different ideas. The more I pursued her, the less I heard from her. This was before texting, so she just didn’t answer the phone or return voice messages.

After a few weeks, I got the hint. She didn’t want a boyfriend. She just wanted to have a hookup. It was disappointing because I didn’t know when I’d ever get another girl, but that’s life. After she slept with me, she did half the guys in town. She just loved sex — or hated her dad.

Some women will want a relationship, and others will just want a good time. When you’re inexperienced, telling the difference can be tough. So in this guide, I’m going to help you out.

Was your pure princess corrupted by a dirty playboy? Does it really even work that way? We explore whether women are innocent doves, ruined by filthy, devilish men.

I've been meaning to write this article for a bit, and we just got another one of these comments. The comment was on my article where I talked about feeling sad when splitting with a woman, not knowing if she'll ever find another guy on my level.

The commentator naturally said this showed I was an evil man for dating women and ruining them for other men and that I should only do friends-with-benefits or something (as if that was something I was even interested in!).

So I guess now's as good a time as any to address this belief that some guys hold.

Namely, that women are innocent, dove-like creatures, who are tragically ruined by diabolical romance fiends (like me), who seduce them, capture their hearts like they've never been captured before, then boot them out into the cold, to never be able to truly love a man again.

It's a kind of reverse-Disney; Prince Charming, rather than making the Princess's dreams come true, transforms her dreams into bitter lifelong regrets.

Is this how it really works?

Here I share my current modus operandi for meeting and sleeping with women during the COVID-19 pandemic. Dating can still be quite lucrative, you just need to adapt.

Hey guys. And welcome back. Today I would like to share my current M.O. (modus operandi) on how I’m dealing with the COVID-19 pandemic.

My M.O. may not work where you live, since lockdown policies are different everywhere (more tips on that here).

This makes it very difficult to write a clear-cut guide. For this reason, I was hesitant to share my game plan. Due to fluctuations in the pandemic and political climate, my game plan can change.

And this makes it challenging to make a straightforward “how to pick up girls during the pandemic” guide. At first, I hoped things would calm down and get back to normal. Unfortunately, it does not seem like this pandemic is about to end anytime soon.

I know this frustrates many of you, so I decided to share my plan. Maybe you can extract elements from it or use it as an inspiration.

The way to deal with this pandemic is by observing your current situation, analyzing the lockdown policies to find loopholes. This is how you can make a semi-decent game plan.

Lockdown policies can change, just as the course of the pandemic is ever-changing. You need to anticipate. This is one of Machiavelli’s core concepts from his famous book, The Prince. Virtue is one’s ability to deal with fortune, good or bad. Those who are prepared will survive unfortunate events, and unfortunate events will occur. Being prepared is being virtuous.

Enough political theory. The point is, this advice is particularly important during this time. You need not only to create a “pandemic” M.O., but you also need to anticipate changes. You can adjust your M.O. to changes. You may consider having other M.O.s if lockdown policies become more severe. Next week, I will share my backup B and C plans, which unfortunately may come into fruition since there is talk about a potential second wave in the works, and more strict policies may come with it.

For now, here is my current cold-approach M.O.

The easiest way to escalate to sex with a woman is to start fingering her… and then just never stop until your member's inside her.

There's this magical little love button every woman's got.

It's called the clitoris.

Most guys figure out that when they rub this magical love button, women get very turned on.

A girl whose clitoris you rub (once you've readied her for that step, of course) becomes animalistic.

She grows ready for sex.

Because of this most guys will rub that little love button.

Yet at some point most men do this weird, funny thing: they decide it is time for their penis to enter the woman, so they stop rubbing her love button and start fumbling around.

Yet when they stop rubbing her love button, and start to fumble around with their belt buckles, and condoms, and positioning, and getting over her the right way, and getting their penis into her in the right spot, very often the animalistic passion the woman felt while her love button was being rubbed recedes.

The spell breaks. Passion subsides. Logic reemerges.

Many times women 'come to their senses' and toss up new walls of last minute resistance.

"I don't know if I'm ready for that." "It's too fast for me." "I think we've gone far enough."

Sometimes this is enough to end the escalation altogether, and the man doesn't get sex.

I have seen men concoct all sorts of brilliant plans for how they'll do things better the next time they reach a similar position with a girl. They will say certain things, they say; or they'll get out ahead of her objections up front, or maintain a more unshakeable frame.

While those things will help, there's something a lot simpler, a lot more pleasurable, and infinitely more effective you can do, as well.

It is to simply keep fingering her until you've fully penetrated her with your penis, and not stop till then.

You just don't let off that love button until you've filled her love canal.

Travel is a great conversation topic for seducing tourist girls. Also, women don’t always tour alone, so it helps to know how to deal with her friends and groups.

Hello, and welcome back!

Last week we looked at the best mindset to have when meeting girls from your tours for a date. I suggested some good venue ideas to enrich her narrative (and her arousal) as she discovers this exciting new city or country.

Finally, I discussed some verbal juice you can deliver to unblock potential resistance to fast sex your tourist girl might have while on the date.

Now let's touch on some finer details that will give you an even sharper edge in this game: seduction-friendly conversation topics and dealing with her friends and groups.

“If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music, or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of Heaven and Earth will pause to say, ‘Here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well.’”
    —Martin Luther King Jr.

Learning how to be good with women is not a small achievement. I’d say it’s one of the greatest achievements a man can accomplish.

Most men will never know what it’s like to sleep with a beautiful woman (without paying for it). Perhaps a few will get “lucky” when a girl they know falls in their lap through a social circle or work. But most guys? They settle for the best they think they can get.

These men are fine with mediocre.

Personally, I am not fine with mediocre. At least not when it comes to the women I date long term.

I don’t want to date ignorant, boring, plain, or obese women. I want to be with charming, confident, attractive, fit, intelligent, interesting women. So I’ve spent a large part of my life transforming myself into someone these sorts of women will find attractive.

Of course, nobody’s perfect. We all have our valleys and plateaus. You don’t need to be excellent in every area of your life, but you should strive for it in as many areas as possible.

In a fast-paced world where women have a lot of options, the men who excel with women are those who don't just wait around before they make things happen.

One week back, an inexperienced forum member who's been making strides and overcoming a lot of self-doubt and other issues met a girl who was so beautiful he thought she was completely out of his league. He pushed through it anyway though and got her to the point of public oral sex in a park on their first date. He did wonderfully, considering his experience level and his expectations.

However, in the park, he had some erection issues. He couldn't get hard, and, despite his girl clearly, strongly desiring sex with him, rather than slip his limp penis into her and try to get it up, or see if he could give her a half-decent time with the rubbing of his pelvis on her clit with his soft penis in her, he elected to end things.

When he texted her again the next day, she did not respond.

I congratulated on getting as far as he got, given his level of experience. And I urged him to persist in his follow-up with her... sometimes that will work, and you can pull a victory from the jaws of defeat. Don't just give up on getting this hot girl you almost got because she's unresponsive at first.

But, given he had her, and let her go, what are the realistic odds he manages to get her out again and beds her properly?

Maybe 50/50?

What would be the odds though had he took his limp penis and inserted it into her vagina anyway and gone a few rounds even if he could not get it up at all?

I don't know for sure, but a lot better than 50/50.

With women, no matter what we are talking about, tomorrow isn't ever promised.

If you want a girl, and she's in front of you, whatever you want to make happen, you must do your best to make it happen now.