(2) Intermediate

“If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music, or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of Heaven and Earth will pause to say, ‘Here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well.’”
    —Martin Luther King Jr.

Learning how to be good with women is not a small achievement. I’d say it’s one of the greatest achievements a man can accomplish.

Most men will never know what it’s like to sleep with a beautiful woman (without paying for it). Perhaps a few will get “lucky” when a girl they know falls in their lap through a social circle or work. But most guys? They settle for the best they think they can get.

These men are fine with mediocre.

Personally, I am not fine with mediocre. At least not when it comes to the women I date long term.

I don’t want to date ignorant, boring, plain, or obese women. I want to be with charming, confident, attractive, fit, intelligent, interesting women. So I’ve spent a large part of my life transforming myself into someone these sorts of women will find attractive.

Of course, nobody’s perfect. We all have our valleys and plateaus. You don’t need to be excellent in every area of your life, but you should strive for it in as many areas as possible.

In a fast-paced world where women have a lot of options, the men who excel with women are those who don't just wait around before they make things happen.

One week back, an inexperienced forum member who's been making strides and overcoming a lot of self-doubt and other issues met a girl who was so beautiful he thought she was completely out of his league. He pushed through it anyway though and got her to the point of public oral sex in a park on their first date. He did wonderfully, considering his experience level and his expectations.

However, in the park, he had some erection issues. He couldn't get hard, and, despite his girl clearly, strongly desiring sex with him, rather than slip his limp penis into her and try to get it up, or see if he could give her a half-decent time with the rubbing of his pelvis on her clit with his soft penis in her, he elected to end things.

When he texted her again the next day, she did not respond.

I congratulated on getting as far as he got, given his level of experience. And I urged him to persist in his follow-up with her... sometimes that will work, and you can pull a victory from the jaws of defeat. Don't just give up on getting this hot girl you almost got because she's unresponsive at first.

But, given he had her, and let her go, what are the realistic odds he manages to get her out again and beds her properly?

Maybe 50/50?

What would be the odds though had he took his limp penis and inserted it into her vagina anyway and gone a few rounds even if he could not get it up at all?

I don't know for sure, but a lot better than 50/50.

With women, no matter what we are talking about, tomorrow isn't ever promised.

If you want a girl, and she's in front of you, whatever you want to make happen, you must do your best to make it happen now.

Whether the COVID-19 situation is severe or not, the ‘perception’ of severity plays a very big role on a woman’s sex drive and her willingness to resume dating.

Hey guys. Welcome back to another post on seduction during the pandemic. Here I share analysis, strategies, and suggestions on how to play the mating game during this COVID-19 crisis, which has become the ultimate cockblock.

Dealing with this situation is difficult, I admit. It took me time and much brainpower to “re-figure” things out. It took many disappointing nights out and quite a bit of frustration, too. But this is a part of game, and especially a part of the learning and discovery process. One advantage I may have is that I have been in the learning and discovery phase before. I know how to crack the code and figure things out. New guys in this scene may not (yet) have this capacity. However, they can read the analysis of more experienced guys. So I hope this will help.

I’ve written a few posts about dealing with the coronavirus, which I recommend you read:

• Pickup Artist Tips for Surviving the COVID-19 Lockdown
• The COVID-19 Effect: Do We Need to Rethink Pickup and Seduction?
• COVID-19 Has Not Made Dating Apps Better
• Dating Strategies for Different Levels of Lockdown

Last week’s article about different levels of lockdown was particularly important. I broke down the three levels of lockdown and shared suggestions on how to approach the mating game.

There are three general phases of lockdown:

• Hard lockdown: You can forget about the dating game, yet do not despair as this “closed” lockdown does not last forever.

• Moderate lockdown: Day game, parks, bars, restaurants, hosting at home, and social circle management opportunities begin to open up. You can have F-buddies come over.

• Light lockdown: Same as above, but you may have more options: bars with less social distancing and some clubs may be open with strict social distancing, sadly.

If you want more details, read my previous article.

What I did not cover last week was the way this affects female emotions. It could be helpful to discuss what is possible logistically. A woman’s mood and state also need to be considered.

I’ve noticed that women’s behavior differs depending on many factors. I have traveled to other countries with different lockdown policies, and have talked with girls abroad. Some visited me once the European Union opened its borders.

I’ve come to some conclusions about how COVID-19 and lockdown policies affect women’s moods. I will share these factors next.

Now that you’ve met up with your girl after the tour, it’s time to set ‘fast sex’ frames and escalate the vibe. As a guide, you’ve got some handy options for doing that.

Hey guys, welcome back!

Last week we looked at everything you should avoid doing when picking up girls on your tours as a tour guide so you don’t get fired. We went over how to text a girl from your tour to meet her later for a date. Finally, we mentioned the average duration and the typical number of venues for your first date before sex, provided you live close to the venues.

Your Ideal Mindset

Regardless of what unfolds, it is safe to assume that if a tourist from your tour agrees to come and meet you alone for a date to catch the sunset or after the sun has set, she wants to sleep with you. As you gain more experience, you will begin assuming her desire even when you meet her in the early afternoon.

If you have to guess a girl’s intentions — because girls will seldom make them clear in a forthright manner, though they may give you hints — it’s best to bet in your favor:

1. Girls will feel compelled to sleep with you if you go through the motions of a traditional date while leading things forward. They won’t feel the need to make decisions if it seems like you’re in control and not doubting yourself.

2. If she is still hesitant about sleeping with you, and you assume she’s out of your league, or make an excuse not to bring her home and escalate to sex, it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. The girl won’t try to “convince” you that she wants to sleep with you if you don’t assume that that’s what she wants and operate with that goal in mind. You’ll end up frustrated because you will never find out what could have happened if you’d made the move.

COVID-19 restrictions vary in different parts of the world. In this article, I go over some possible dating solutions depending on your level of lockdown.

Hey guys. And welcome back.

Today I want to return to my posts on COVID-19 and how to deal with this challenging situation. Let’s not fool ourselves; this pandemic is one of the biggest cockblocks I have ever encountered. It has impaired me more than I would have believed. Things are NOT easy. It is hard for everyone.

It may negatively affect your social and sexual confidence. I get that. Usually, I would tell guys to man up, but I can only say that I sympathize. It has affected me and other seducers as well. Things are not great.

I may be repeating myself, but it’s important to note that we are all experiencing the lows of COVID-19, pros and beginners alike. So do not feel bad for experiencing negative emotions. Pros and beginners may experience things differently. Pros may feel the shock of not having superpowers anymore, which is very frustrating, and beginners may feel far less robust emotionally regarding sex and women.

Most of us, regardless of skill levels, will experience lows for different reasons. The way people cope with crises, given their natural predispositions, may play a significant role in how they react and how severely they are affected.

Today I want to get practical. My two last articles on seduction during the pandemic have been mostly in a negative tone. I’ve taken a negative slant about online dating and dating apps. I do not generally consider them good options for meeting women, and find them even less useful during the pandemic.

(I still have not heard from anyone racking up plenty of pulls from Tinder during the pandemic; wasn’t it supposed to be the perfect solution?)

So, what should one do instead? I feel bad for leaving readers without a replacement.

I will share some brief suggestions. It will be an overview. In future posts, I may share specific guides on dealing with these suggestions. I am not writing in-depth posts yet, because I still have not found the holy grail. I hope that the crisis will end before I get to that, so I don’t have to write these guides. But if the crisis continues, you will AT LEAST have some in-depth suggestions.

If you study seduction, you’ll run into conflicting advice. Truth is, it ALL works, but not with ALL women, and not for ALL guys. The solution? Focus on these 3 keys.

These are the most classic questions of all time in the seduction game:

“What do women want?”

“What kind of guy attracts women?”

Or you hear these statements:

“Women like the strong silent type.” (cough wallflower cough)

“All you have to do is figure out her relationship with her father and act it out.” (cough not field tested cough)

You can’t do that in field in the first minutes of your conversation with her to hook, much less delve into all that to work in a strategy with effective techniques specific to her in 10–20 minutes with ANY level of stealth.

There are 50 of these; one could compile an entertaining list.

It isn’t entertaining when you don’t have an effective, workable strategy you can use on ANY woman, and you are getting conflicting information.

That combined with 20 bickering schools of pickup and seduction, and it’s far from entertaining and more like torture for new guys to intermediates.

Well, if you're confused from all that, you found the right article. I’ll lay out specific “what you should be doing” guidelines to use in field while training your skills.

I have many followers and students on the forums who write these articles and shout my name from the rooftops because of what you are about to read.

I hate it when someone teases, then doesn’t get to the point immediately. In this case, it is IMPORTANT that you understand the Y of this problem. I mean the Y as in XY.

When some guys start cold-approaching girls, they go through a stage of “girls just blow me off.” Let’s explore why that’s happening and the brain hacks needed to fix it.

On the Girls Chase forums, a user posted about his struggles with day game, a common issue for newbies. I’ll break it down into chunks so that you can learn the art of day game along with him.

So, if women are blowing you off before you even have a chance to get anywhere, thank Merchant's-Kin for bringing up the topic!

Here's the first part of Merchant's-Kin's post:

“Been struggling quite a bit with street game, because I can’t even stop a girl consistently while keeping without my heart racing, etc. (that’s where I’m at). There isn’t even an opportunity to test openers because I can’t stop girls consistently. They just blow me off.”

This is the beginning stage of learning cold approach: overcoming approach anxiety. It’s also the point where most men quit, right at the starting line.