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Alek Rolstad walks you through the mindsets of a seducer as he prepares for a night out on the town – plus what goes through his mind early on in his night.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Today’s post has a different focus. While it may seem like a report, it is not. I will present a hypothetical scenario to illustrate my thought process in the field. Instead of analyzing the interactions, I want to discuss the various mental states I experience that guide my decision-making during an outing. My goal is to create an introspective reflection that reveals what occurs when facing different situations and challenges.

I have historically tried to incorporate this aspect in my field reports. However, most reports focus on events, such as the conversations, techniques I use, reasons behind their effectiveness, the girl’s responses, and my reactions to those responses. As a result, there is little room to explore what goes on inside my head.

I initially wanted this to focus on a specific outing. However, upon reflection, I realized that the outing I chose was similar to many others I’ve experienced, and my thought process is the same. Using a hypothetical scenario based on actual events gives me more flexibility. This approach allows me to create more hoops and settings, and I can better describe how I react to them. I am not confining myself to the narrative of what actually happened.

Before I begin, note that I am making these scenarios more negative than usual. This lets you see my mindset and strategic decision-making skills in handling challenging situations. They may seem more difficult than your typical outing. So, do not let this demotivate you. Most outings will be more favorable. The key is that despite unfavorable situations, you can still use your skills to turn the tide.

Average Frustrated Chump: an ordinary guy, thwarted with women, falling for silly woman tricks. Here’s how to tell if you’re AFC – and what to do if so.

As I’ve been on social media (here’s our X account), I have come face to face with just how many frustrated, average men there are out there struggling with a lack of dating success.

That’s nothing new, of course. It’s always been this way. But Girls Chase has long served as kind of a bastion due to our large audience of savvy dudes vs. comparatively few very frustrated guys. After wading back onto social media though I’ve been smacked with guys who wouldn’t usually visit Girls Chase – or, if they found us, wouldn’t long stay to participate or read.

In recent years we’ve referred to various strains of frustrated men as ‘red pill’ (not all red pill men are frustrated, but many are), ‘black pill’, ‘incel’, ‘looksmaxx’; many different names.

Yet there’s another name that just as aptly captures all these various average, frustrated men under a single appellation: the Average Frustrated Chump (AFC).

Below I’ll help you realize if you are one – and if so, what to do!

A reader says he hesitated to study seduction because he feared what it said about him that he’d need to do so. But what it is says is that a man wants EXCELLENCE.

One of my biggest mental blocks with seduction and why I had trouble learning at first is I felt like a lesser man, an incompetent person, for having to learn it. Anything I didn’t grasp naturally I felt insufficient/lesser/incompetent at the fact that I had to actually learn it. What I’ve realized is that as human beings we are creatures that can only know how to do something by actively working at learning how to do it. We don’t just grasp things from the first.

I try not to beat our own drum too much because it comes off a bit boorish.

But as this Girls Chase student notes in his comment, there’s a mentality among men – a great MANY men – that learning to seduce means admitting to some kind of deficiency.

Because of this mentality (a very shortsighted mentality, counterproductive to any man’s goals), the vast majority of men remain ignorant of seduction and trapped in avoidable relationship quagmires and months- or years-long woman dry spells.

So let us set the false modesty aside, and state what every man wise in seduction knows:

Only superior men endeavor to learn and see through to success the art of seduction.

The male space today tells men to build muscle, stack money, & deprioritize women, or rely on ‘rizz’, while PROMISING women as the eventual reward. This is BLUE PILL.

“You’ve been living in a dream world, Neo.”

“It is the world that has been pulled over your eyes to blind you from the truth: that you are a slave, Neo.”

A few decades ago, men started waking up from the Matrix that was the nice guy friend zone. They rejected the blue pill that would’ve kept them in platonic orbiter land, and took the red pill to start becoming ALPHA MALES.

But what if I told you the red pill most of them thought they were taking was really just another blue pill – one that simply moved them from one enslaving Matrix over into another?

Don’t worry. This article is not one claiming men should not be dominant men (they should) or that being a nice guy or hanging around in the friend zone are good things (they aren’t).

Instead, in it, I’m going to show you how along the way to enlightenment men en masse got Shanghaied, hoodwinked, and bamboozled right from one blue pill ideology straight into another – albeit one that dressed itself up all the while as ‘red pill’.

If he charges you money, isn’t it a scam? While scammers do exist, all the best advisors, instructors, & coaches in seduction or any field are PAID!

I’ve been coaching, writing, and selling programs in the ‘get girls’ / ‘have relationships’ space for the better part of two decades now. Every now and again we get guys who appear with the FULL CYNIC glasses on who accuse me of being motivated solely by acquisitive greed:

Nah, it just cuts into your business. The less men that participate is money you don't get.

— CLAYLAVL (@CLAYLAVLS) January 14, 2025

It's actually an easy charge for an outsider to make:

1. We often don’t think of ‘advice’ as a job or service.

2. You can get FREE advice, EVERYWHERE! From friends, random people online, etc. So why would you want to get advice from someone who does it for work?

3. There’s a seeming conflict of interest with a paid instructor: if he’s paid to do it, can he really be disinterested? Someone who gives instruction totally unpaid seems more trustworthy!

This article is about why this mindset is aggressively stupid and traps the idiots who subscribe to it in valleys of ineffectuality and lackluster returns.

Remember: with advice, as with anything else, you get what you pay for.