(1) Beginner

A reader says he hesitated to study seduction because he feared what it said about him that he’d need to do so. But what it is says is that a man wants EXCELLENCE.

One of my biggest mental blocks with seduction and why I had trouble learning at first is I felt like a lesser man, an incompetent person, for having to learn it. Anything I didn’t grasp naturally I felt insufficient/lesser/incompetent at the fact that I had to actually learn it. What I’ve realized is that as human beings we are creatures that can only know how to do something by actively working at learning how to do it. We don’t just grasp things from the first.

I try not to beat our own drum too much because it comes off a bit boorish.

But as this Girls Chase student notes in his comment, there’s a mentality among men – a great MANY men – that learning to seduce means admitting to some kind of deficiency.

Because of this mentality (a very shortsighted mentality, counterproductive to any man’s goals), the vast majority of men remain ignorant of seduction and trapped in avoidable relationship quagmires and months- or years-long woman dry spells.

So let us set the false modesty aside, and state what every man wise in seduction knows:

Only superior men endeavor to learn and see through to success the art of seduction.

The male space today tells men to build muscle, stack money, & deprioritize women, or rely on ‘rizz’, while PROMISING women as the eventual reward. This is BLUE PILL.

“You’ve been living in a dream world, Neo.”

“It is the world that has been pulled over your eyes to blind you from the truth: that you are a slave, Neo.”

A few decades ago, men started waking up from the Matrix that was the nice guy friend zone. They rejected the blue pill that would’ve kept them in platonic orbiter land, and took the red pill to start becoming ALPHA MALES.

But what if I told you the red pill most of them thought they were taking was really just another blue pill – one that simply moved them from one enslaving Matrix over into another?

Don’t worry. This article is not one claiming men should not be dominant men (they should) or that being a nice guy or hanging around in the friend zone are good things (they aren’t).

Instead, in it, I’m going to show you how along the way to enlightenment men en masse got Shanghaied, hoodwinked, and bamboozled right from one blue pill ideology straight into another – albeit one that dressed itself up all the while as ‘red pill’.

If he charges you money, isn’t it a scam? While scammers do exist, all the best advisors, instructors, & coaches in seduction or any field are PAID!

I’ve been coaching, writing, and selling programs in the ‘get girls’ / ‘have relationships’ space for the better part of two decades now. Every now and again we get guys who appear with the FULL CYNIC glasses on who accuse me of being motivated solely by acquisitive greed:

Nah, it just cuts into your business. The less men that participate is money you don't get.

— CLAYLAVL (@CLAYLAVLS) January 14, 2025

It's actually an easy charge for an outsider to make:

1. We often don’t think of ‘advice’ as a job or service.

2. You can get FREE advice, EVERYWHERE! From friends, random people online, etc. So why would you want to get advice from someone who does it for work?

3. There’s a seeming conflict of interest with a paid instructor: if he’s paid to do it, can he really be disinterested? Someone who gives instruction totally unpaid seems more trustworthy!

This article is about why this mindset is aggressively stupid and traps the idiots who subscribe to it in valleys of ineffectuality and lackluster returns.

Remember: with advice, as with anything else, you get what you pay for.

You might be short, poor, bald, ugly, dumb, or out-of-step; we’ve all got drawbacks. Yet how do you deal with these when women bring them up?

It’s pretty common for men to feel insecure about whatever drawbacks they may have:

• Too short
• Too ugly
• Too bald
• Too broke
• Too young
• Too old
• Too much of a nobody
• Too unaccomplished
• Too awkward
• Too dumb
• Too out-of-step with the culture

Guys will put off approaching girls, skip approaching altogether, and otherwise remain stuck in safe spaces out of fear of rejection over their drawbacks.

When they do make an approach on a girl, they often look for ways to self-deprecate, which only highlights their weakness and makes them look insecure; or else they act defensive if it gets brought up, which again makes them seem insecure.

How, then, do you defuse your disadvantages when you approach new girls – or even when you go on a date, or are inside a relationship?

In this Tactics Tuesdays installment, I’ll provide you with three (3) separate (but each one of them useful) ways.

If you want to attract girls, you need to focus on girls – not yourself. Get out of your head, into the moment, and focused upon the opposite sex!

I had a guy message me with some concerns that he may not be good enough for girls.

It was hard for him to motivate himself to approach women, he said, because he just did not see why anyone would value him or want to talk to him.

What most people would probably focus on is trying to buoy the confidence of a man in his position. “Think about your good qualities!” “Focus on the bright side!” “There’s surely a girl who will like you for you!”

What I advised him on was, instead, one of the Secrets to Getting Girls:

To switch his mentality from an inward focus to an outward one.

Peacocks use ostentatious displays to attract a female. Can this same strategy work for human beings? It can, it does, and in this guide you’ll learn just how it does so.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Today, I’ll touch upon a classic technique in pickup and seduction that is often overlooked—peacocking.

It’s an original technique that Mystery and his crew popularized in the 2000s. The idea is to catch women’s attention by dressing flashy to facilitate openings. This usually involves wearing accessories, flamboyant clothing, or an original dressing style, so you come off as a peacock.

Back in the day, it was one of the most used techniques for night game, and quickly became the clothing style for many active pickup guys. Whenever a guy would dress flamboyantly in a club, people always suspected he must be part of the “community.”

Eventually, as seduction popularity died off, peacocking took a serious hit. It is often a meme-worthy element of pickup and seduction, usually to ridicule pickup and seduction as a whole. “Look at those nerdy clown-looking weirdos!” Often, this criticism was deserving; many of those so-called “pickup artists” (PUA) or “green PUA” (a PUA in training) did look really weird. And their miscalibrated use of gambits, negs (negative remarks), and routines, like magic tricks, gave the entire community an odd image.

However, all these can work if delivered correctly, congruently, and in the right moment and setting.

These guys took the idea of canned material a bit too far. Because they were beginners and entered pickup arenas with a hefty toolbox, memorizing material, they appeared very robotic. Adding to a poor baseline because they lacked fundamentals, pickup and seduction became less popular and was often joke worthy, with the concept of peacocking its primary victim.

Later, the introduction of natural game countered the older pickup style’s overly goofy and robotic aspects. This new approach focuses on mastering fundamentals and represents a positive shift in the game. Natural game aims to teach beginners advanced strategies, gambits and niche routines, particularly men who struggle socially. These men did not have their fundamentals in check. They usually had poor body posture, grooming, and delivery—poor everything. Add a flashy attention-seeking outfit on top of it, and instead of providing them with a degree of edginess or coolness, they looked out of place and easy targets for jokes.

Most pickup material known to the public to this day—and ridiculed by the mainstream—belongs to the Mystery Method. He was the first to promote the idea of peacocking. The popularization of the Mystery Method and its signature concepts like negging, peacocking, and “DHV’in” (demonstrating higher value) is partly due to its popularity within the community and mainstream exposure. The book The Game focuses on the Mystery Method and Mystery himself, in addition to the subsequent TV show The Pickup Artist. Coaching companies erupted in the twilight of this mass popularization, and most sold watered-down copies of the original Mystery Method. Things became worse, as poorly trained, inexperienced men with an advanced system were doomed to failure, leading to a decline in pickup and seduction popularity.

Let’s revisit the concept of peacocking. How can this work today? Why does it work? Next week, we will discuss how to use peacocking.