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Only Superior Men Learn to Seduce

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seduction is the mark of an elite manA reader says he hesitated to study seduction because he feared what it said about him that he’d need to do so. But what it is says is that a man wants EXCELLENCE.

One of my biggest mental blocks with seduction and why I had trouble learning at first is I felt like a lesser man, an incompetent person, for having to learn it. Anything I didn’t grasp naturally I felt insufficient/lesser/incompetent at the fact that I had to actually learn it. What I’ve realized is that as human beings we are creatures that can only know how to do something by actively working at learning how to do it. We don’t just grasp things from the first.

I try not to beat our own drum too much because it comes off a bit boorish.

But as this Girls Chase student notes in his comment, there’s a mentality among men – a great MANY men – that learning to seduce means admitting to some kind of deficiency.

Because of this mentality (a very shortsighted mentality, counterproductive to any man’s goals), the vast majority of men remain ignorant of seduction and trapped in avoidable relationship quagmires and months- or years-long woman dry spells.

So let us set the false modesty aside, and state what every man wise in seduction knows:

Only superior men endeavor to learn and see through to success the art of seduction.

The Rise of Blue Pill 2.0: Money, Muscles, & Rizz

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the blue pill 2.0The male space today tells men to build muscle, stack money, & deprioritize women, or rely on ‘rizz’, while PROMISING women as the eventual reward. This is BLUE PILL.

“You’ve been living in a dream world, Neo.”

“It is the world that has been pulled over your eyes to blind you from the truth: that you are a slave, Neo.”

A few decades ago, men started waking up from the Matrix that was the nice guy friend zone. They rejected the blue pill that would’ve kept them in platonic orbiter land, and took the red pill to start becoming ALPHA MALES.

But what if I told you the red pill most of them thought they were taking was really just another blue pill – one that simply moved them from one enslaving Matrix over into another?

Don’t worry. This article is not one claiming men should not be dominant men (they should) or that being a nice guy or hanging around in the friend zone are good things (they aren’t).

Instead, in it, I’m going to show you how along the way to enlightenment men en masse got Shanghaied, hoodwinked, and bamboozled right from one blue pill ideology straight into another – albeit one that dressed itself up all the while as ‘red pill’.

Why You Very, Very, Very Much Want a PROFESSIONAL Coach/Advisor (in Dating and Elsewhere!)

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why pay when advice is free?If he charges you money, isn’t it a scam? While scammers do exist, all the best advisors, instructors, & coaches in seduction or any field are PAID!

I’ve been coaching, writing, and selling programs in the ‘get girls’ / ‘have relationships’ space for the better part of two decades now. Every now and again we get guys who appear with the FULL CYNIC glasses on who accuse me of being motivated solely by acquisitive greed:

It's actually an easy charge for an outsider to make:

  1. We often don’t think of ‘advice’ as a job or service.

  1. You can get FREE advice, EVERYWHERE! From friends, random people online, etc. So why would you want to get advice from someone who does it for work?

  1. There’s a seeming conflict of interest with a paid instructor: if he’s paid to do it, can he really be disinterested? Someone who gives instruction totally unpaid seems more trustworthy!

This article is about why this mindset is aggressively stupid and traps the idiots who subscribe to it in valleys of ineffectuality and lackluster returns.

Remember: with advice, as with anything else, you get what you pay for.

Tactics Tuesdays: 3 Ways to Disarm Your Drawbacks

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disarm your drawbacksYou might be short, poor, bald, ugly, dumb, or out-of-step; we’ve all got drawbacks. Yet how do you deal with these when women bring them up?

It’s pretty common for men to feel insecure about whatever drawbacks they may have:

  • Too short
  • Too ugly
  • Too bald
  • Too broke
  • Too young
  • Too old
  • Too much of a nobody
  • Too unaccomplished
  • Too awkward
  • Too dumb
  • Too out-of-step with the culture

Guys will put off approaching girls, skip approaching altogether, and otherwise remain stuck in safe spaces out of fear of rejection over their drawbacks.

When they do make an approach on a girl, they often look for ways to self-deprecate, which only highlights their weakness and makes them look insecure; or else they act defensive if it gets brought up, which again makes them seem insecure.

How, then, do you defuse your disadvantages when you approach new girls – or even when you go on a date, or are inside a relationship?

In this Tactics Tuesdays installment, I’ll provide you with three (3) separate (but each one of them useful) ways.

Secrets to Getting Girls: Focus Outward

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focus outwardIf you want to attract girls, you need to focus on girls – not yourself. Get out of your head, into the moment, and focused upon the opposite sex!

I had a guy message me with some concerns that he may not be good enough for girls.

It was hard for him to motivate himself to approach women, he said, because he just did not see why anyone would value him or want to talk to him.

What most people would probably focus on is trying to buoy the confidence of a man in his position. “Think about your good qualities!” “Focus on the bright side!” “There’s surely a girl who will like you for you!”

What I advised him on was, instead, one of the Secrets to Getting Girls:

To switch his mentality from an inward focus to an outward one.

What Is Peacocking and Does It Work?

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peacocking then and nowPeacocks use ostentatious displays to attract a female. Can this same strategy work for human beings? It can, it does, and in this guide you’ll learn just how it does so.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Today, I’ll touch upon a classic technique in pickup and seduction that is often overlooked—peacocking.

It’s an original technique that Mystery and his crew popularized in the 2000s. The idea is to catch women’s attention by dressing flashy to facilitate openings. This usually involves wearing accessories, flamboyant clothing, or an original dressing style, so you come off as a peacock.

Back in the day, it was one of the most used techniques for night game, and quickly became the clothing style for many active pickup guys. Whenever a guy would dress flamboyantly in a club, people always suspected he must be part of the “community.”

Eventually, as seduction popularity died off, peacocking took a serious hit. It is often a meme-worthy element of pickup and seduction, usually to ridicule pickup and seduction as a whole. “Look at those nerdy clown-looking weirdos!” Often, this criticism was deserving; many of those so-called “pickup artists” (PUA) or “green PUA” (a PUA in training) did look really weird. And their miscalibrated use of gambits, negs (negative remarks), and routines, like magic tricks, gave the entire community an odd image.

However, all these can work if delivered correctly, congruently, and in the right moment and setting.

These guys took the idea of canned material a bit too far. Because they were beginners and entered pickup arenas with a hefty toolbox, memorizing material, they appeared very robotic. Adding to a poor baseline because they lacked fundamentals, pickup and seduction became less popular and was often joke worthy, with the concept of peacocking its primary victim.

Later, the introduction of natural game countered the older pickup style’s overly goofy and robotic aspects. This new approach focuses on mastering fundamentals and represents a positive shift in the game. Natural game aims to teach beginners advanced strategies, gambits and niche routines, particularly men who struggle socially. These men did not have their fundamentals in check. They usually had poor body posture, grooming, and delivery—poor everything. Add a flashy attention-seeking outfit on top of it, and instead of providing them with a degree of edginess or coolness, they looked out of place and easy targets for jokes.

Most pickup material known to the public to this day—and ridiculed by the mainstream—belongs to the Mystery Method. He was the first to promote the idea of peacocking. The popularization of the Mystery Method and its signature concepts like negging, peacocking, and “DHV’in” (demonstrating higher value) is partly due to its popularity within the community and mainstream exposure. The book The Game focuses on the Mystery Method and Mystery himself, in addition to the subsequent TV show The Pickup Artist. Coaching companies erupted in the twilight of this mass popularization, and most sold watered-down copies of the original Mystery Method. Things became worse, as poorly trained, inexperienced men with an advanced system were doomed to failure, leading to a decline in pickup and seduction popularity.

Let’s revisit the concept of peacocking. How can this work today? Why does it work? Next week, we will discuss how to use peacocking.

Seduction Failures: Girl Problem or Skill Issue?

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girl problem or skill issue?If you’re stumbling in a seduction, is it because of the girl, or because of your skill? To figure out which, we need to establish the pattern – if there is one at all.

Commenting on my article “Always Be Closing (in Seduction, with Girls)”, Walter writes

Usually,when it comes to sex, I am really aggressive and yet I have often failed to close as you speak even though I was fooling around with women that I had just met when we were in a bed room for instance even though she suggested it too.

The first thing I’ll say here is while my advice is to move faster with women and yes, always be closing, it is also to be highly responsive and as well-calibrated as you can be in your moves with women. You can close a certain portion of girls simply by being really aggressive, but you will also blow a lot of girls out entirely.

The reason for that is it is very important for a woman in a seduction to feel that she is special to you and that you are listening to her, responding to her, and looking out for her. If at any point she stops feeling this way, trust is lost, and her legs slam shut (often never to be opened).

I don’t have a full picture of Walter’s typical escalation to sex so I don’t want to speculate too much on what he is doing here. But I use this comment to lead into this article’s subject: when a seduction fails, how do you tell whether the problem is a ‘girl problem’ or a ‘skill issue’?

Always Be Closing (in Seduction, with Girls)

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always be closingA ladies man who wants consistent romantic success adheres to one maxim: ALWAYS BE CLOSING. Because the man who can’t close is a man who can’t win.

As a tire salesman in my late teens, it took me a while to fully cement the lesson that I needed to always be closing. Even though in sales it is crystal clear that your whole object is to move the prospect into becoming a customer, I still felt gun-shy asking for the close much of the time. If the prospect wasn’t showing enough readiness, I might avoid trying to close at all. I did not want to be pushy.

Yet by the time I had a year of sales experience under my belt, I’d left behind my hesitancy to close. In the summer of 2003, as a then-intermediate salesman, I fully embraced the ‘Always Be Closing’ philosophy – and I turned myself into a resistless sales closing machine.

Singlehandedly, during my return to sales from a semester away at school, I lifted an underperforming store that hadn’t hit its sales quota in eight months into a winner. I sold so hard to everyone who walked in that door that I pushed us well past our July quota. If someone came in to get a flat tire fixed, and that person’s tires looked like they could use changing, he or she’d be leaving with a set of four brand new tires, or I didn’t know how to sell. The boss hadn’t thought that year’s exaggerated sales quotas were achievable for any month, but I handily beat them in July.

When I left the store to return to school the next month, mid-August, I made clear to the boss that I was leaving the store hundreds of sales ahead of where we should have been at that point in the month to reach that month’s quota. It was the rest of the sales team’s over-quota status to keep (or forfeit). Somehow, in my absence, the remaining sales staff sold so abysmally that despite the generous sales cushion I left, they nevertheless missed quota without me. That’s the difference a single closer on the team can make – versus an army of lily-livered non-closers.

You’d think I might have taken that same lesson to always be closing with me when I dove into seduction a few years later. For some reason, I didn’t. Instead, I had to learn the exact same lesson all over again the hard way with girls.

This article is for anyone who, like that young and naïve me, has yet to realize the importance of maintaining an unshakeable eye on the prize; an unbending, resistless drive to push ever forward toward the close – whether with sales prospects or romantic ones (though our focus in this article, given the nature of this website, will be on the romantic ones).

Recommended Reading 2024

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Chase Amante's recommended reading list, 2024Chase’s sexennial reading list for 2024 is out. Book recommendations on seduction, history, society, business, economics, fiction, survival, & more.

It’s been six years since my last Recommended Reading list, which itself was six years after my first. So I suppose that means it’s time for me to write another!

There are some folks out there who read voluminously, digesting 30+ books per year. Unfortunately that is not me. It may have been in my youth (I was constantly reading in grade school and high school) but with as much time as I spend managing the business and doing my own writing I don’t have as much time to spare on reading nowadays.

The result however is that I must be very picky about what I read. Books that come highly recommended by others but that fail to hook me in in fast enough or provide enough obvious value for my time – such as the fiction novel Chronicles of the Black Company, the polemic Deliberate Dumbing Down of America, Jack Welch’s corporate bible Winning, or the business management book The Essential Deming – I quickly discard. The list below is a list of survivors; these are the books I found valuable enough to keep reading, and include now on this list.

If you like my recommendations, and you want to read more books I recommend, I suggest you check out my prior lists: here’s my first list, from 2012; here is my second list, including many recommendations drawn from Lubbock’s list, in 2018. I still like these books; some of them I still reread.

I’ve broken the list below down into seven (7) categories: survival, seduction, history and society, economics, business, fiction, and miscellaneous. If you have a certain category you’re looking for, or certain categories you’re simply uninterested in, you skip to or skip those categories and go to the ones you like.

Lastly, the links include Amazon affiliate links. If you want to buy the books but have some moral stricture against buying from an Amazon affiliate link, just type the name of the book + the author into your preferred book buying website and you should find the same work without issue. Also worth noting that many of the older books on this list that are out of copyright are available for free via Library Genesis.

Onwards!

How to Be More Attractive to Women: 4 Attraction Pillars

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attracting women moreAttracting women more in a flirtation or inside a relationship requires greater attractiveness. Adhere to these 4 pillars and buff up your attractive power.

I am going to divide this piece into the 4 big pillars that make women attracted to men, give you examples of excelling in each of them, and then give you actionable advice to get there.