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Dating is rough for autistic men. Yet, approaching it methodically, focusing on building the right habits, their romantic challenges can be whittled down.

As the founder of the highest traffic men’s dating advice website in history, I’ve fielded comments, questions, and laments from men on the autism spectrum for decades.

I’ve seen many success stories among students of the game who are also on the spectrum. I also have a pretty firm grasp at this point of what the limitations are for such men.

If you’re new to Girls Chase and don’t know who I am, I am a ‘neurotypical’ dating & relationship expert whose stock in trade is breaking down complex social and romantic concepts into their essences. My approach is relentless practicality and understandability in what I teach; to take concepts I and other Don Juans understand at an intuitive level, and break them down them in simple terms accessible to beginners. Due to the nature of my insights and analyses, this site has proven popular with men on the autism spectrum over time.

That said, I realize there are a lot of trained specialists out there who work dedicatedly with men on the autistic spectrum.

I am not an ‘autism specialist’. If part of your requirement for accepting advice is that the advice giver come through an institutional credentialing program, close this page now and contact your nearest autism specialist for a consultation instead.

If, however, you’d like a pathway forward for you in dating, despite the struggles that come from being on the autism spectrum, read on.

If you want to get better at picking up girls, dating girls, and sleeping with girls, there is NO BETTER TOOL at your disposal than writing field reports.

This post by Hector Castillo originally appeared on our forum here.

It's been officially 6 years since I've joined this forum. I recently re-reposted my first ever LR (and post on the forum).

What I remembered from reading this report and a few others on the boards right now, is that there is almost NOTHING that makes you better with women quicker than field reports.

It's almost as good as coaching... almost 😀

Many men in the 2020s are terrified to approach women. They’re paralyzed with fear a girl might shame or insult them. These fears are a male mass hysteria.

Mass hysteria has gripped the minds of millions of Western men as of the mid-2020s. These men are not just hesitant to approach women – they’re terrified of it.

And while approach anxiety has always had at its root overblown fears and paranoia, the latest variant is so wildly inflamed it can’t be called anything other than a mass hysteria.

This modern anti-approaching hysteria goes something like this:

“You’d have to be a fool to approach a woman in the modern age! Women have become so hostile to men approaching them that it’s not worth the risk of being shamed online or charged with harassment. Anyone trying to get men to approach women in this environment is an enemy of men.”

Like other moral panics, those caught up in the hysteria live in self-reinforcing bubbles. Inside these bubbles they repeat their claims and egg on one another’s panic. They seize upon the slimmest proof to reinforce their hysterias, and dismiss all evidence to the contrary.

Feeling threatened and cornered, a purity spiral has taken hold of these men. Anyone who argues against their belief in the vast, lurking, insidious dangers of approaching a woman is cast out as “not with us but against us”, an agent of evil who seeks only to do harm to these pathetic hysterics.

Interacting with them online, I’ve found myself a frequent target of their hostility. It’s obvious they live in a different reality. I and all the other playboys I know, as well as all the beginner playboys in our community and our forum, can walk outside right now and approach as many women as we want without encountering a shred of the hostility or shaming the hysterical men claim lurks just behind every deceptively cute girl.

Average, ordinary, non-super-good-looking-or-rich-or-high-status men all across the United States, Europe, and the rest of the world are approaching multiples of women every day and do not run into any of this behavior the hysterics claim ubiquitous.

What’s caused this hysteria to grip the minds of so many millions of self-isolating modern men?

Why, despite the free online availability of materials on how to approach girls, have men become ever more inward-looking, more fearful of an approach than ever?

And might there be something to these men’s beliefs?

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Turn off the screens, shut out the Matrix, and recall the blood of pioneers, conquerors, nobles, and kings that flows through you.

Women will say they approve of all kinds of things. But if you twist yourself to what women ‘approve’ of, you will never get the girl!

Women approve of a great many things:

• They approve of nice, kind, self-sacrificial ‘doormat’ men

• They applaud empowered, career-focused, celibate women

• They celebrate loose, promiscuous women who leave their families behind

• They praise obese, ostentatious, fabulously unhealthy women

• They champion impoverished, uneducated third world migrants

• They laud men who continue to parent a child they discover is not their own

• They commend men who accept open relationships at the woman’s behest

The credulous man takes this approval of women’s at face value. He assumes women approve of the things they do because they, themselves, want those kinds of men and experiences in their own lives.

But when the credulous man accepts all these things women show their approval of at face value, and works to bring himself in line with the things women claim to approve of, he discovers something else:

Despite bending to women’s whims, women just do not want him!

There’s another kind of man out there, however; different from the credulous man.

This man never takes the things women say at face value.

This man considers women’s approval irrelevant; he laughs at women’s disapproval; and in the end, he gets the girl, again and again and again.

Women constantly signal the desire to meet (or not meet) men. But what do you do if you don’t see girls’ signals? Follow this guide & that’ll soon change…

We’ve been talking about guys missing women’s signals for ages on Girls Chase.

Time to finally get a guide up on learning how to read these.

Whether you believe it or not, women all around you are signaling their interest (as well as their lack thereof) constantly.

Most men are somewhat aware of these signals. The majority of men however miss a lot of the nuances. Some men struggle to notice women’s signals at all.

This article will teach you a process for learning to recognize subtle feminine signals – that way you can then respond to them… both to stop missing out on girls who are highly interested in you, and to better avoid the girls who just want to be left alone.

We’re all sick of dating apps. But how are you supposed to get a date WITHOUT one? By re-entering the world and following these nine (9) simple steps.

If you’re a man who wants more dates, there’s a good chance you’re tired of dating apps.

You have good reason to be:

• Apps heavily down-rank average guys’ profiles

• They force you to compete solely on pictures

• And let’s not forget: they’re 75% men! (sausage fest)

Just one problem though: without dating apps, how are you supposed to get dates as a guy?

How to get dates is something every guy knew pre-dating apps, but has become increasingly ‘forgotten knowledge’.

Well, let’s bring it back into the light.

This guide takes you through nine (9) date-getting steps that will fill your calendar with winsome dames.

Let’s begin.

When you approach a woman, should you opt for a risk-free approach that lets you avoid rejection? Or is it better to go for the bold, high-risk, high reward approach instead?

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Last week, I shared my thoughts on opening and hooking in the early game phase. I compared scripted openings to natural ones and examined whether it’s better to dive in immediately, following the classic three-second rule, or take some time to plan your approach. I discussed when to choose each method and explained why it’s crucial to consider factors likeapproach anxiety, low state, and no social momentum.

Today, I will continue this discussion by sharing details about safer and riskier openers and how to benefit from riskier openers, including direct and sexualized openers, without incurring all the associated risks. We will also consider approach anxiety and calibration with these techniques. Let's get started.