(1) Beginner

Why do girls test guys? Tests can derail your courtship with a girl if you don’t respond well. Women test for 4 things; if you know what they are, you know how to pass.

Hi guys, and welcome back.

Today we will discuss handling tests. I won’t dive deep into the basics because we’ve covered that many times before.

Women will test you because they want to know if you are the real deal. It’s that simple.

If you want a refresher or more details, see:

When Women Test Men

Loving the Tests

Why Do Women Test? To Find Dominant Males

In this post, I’ll add more theoretical knowledge and provide a solid framework to help you understand tests. In upcoming posts, I’ll focus more on the practical details of handling tests.

Lovers have it better when it comes to getting together with them fast. But what about in long-term relationships? In fact, lovers have some major advantages here as well.

Let us continue our exploration of the lover’s advantages over the provider in the mating game.

We’ll switch our focus today… from yesterday’s focus on picking women up to today’s: maintaining healthy long-term relationships with them.

I had a conversation the other day with a friend.

We talked about how he believed things had changed with women over the past 10 years. He believed women had become so overstimulated as to make long-term relationships unviable.

I said that wasn’t what I’d seen at all. If anything, women are having less sex now, with fewer partners… and men in general have degraded in their social skills and romantic prowess.

It was a bigger challenge trying to hold onto a woman 10 years ago than it is today.

My friend rose the point of, “What about when she’s fertile?”

There is, after all, well known research showing that fertile women seek out men other than those they’re mated to to mate with. That still is a risk… right?

But in fact, this is a major lovers vs. providers difference… and it’s one that might be surprising to any guy who hasn’t had long-term relationships as “the lover.”

Lovers are skilled in the game of love. But do they ALWAYS win? If not… then is being the lover still really the best path to succeeding with girls?

In a recent article of mine, I mentioned scenarios where the lover may not get the girl.

Instead, she might spurn the lover, finding him unattainable despite whatever attractive qualities he may have, and instead pair up with a much safer man, better known to her and better trusted, albeit less exciting.

This triggered some confusion in a reader, who asked whether the lover didn’t always get the girl, and whether it was actually better to be the lover.

In case you’re new, a few quick definitions are in order:

• ‘Lover’, in our parlance, refers to the sexually desirable mate choice with uncertain future prospects. The sexy, flirtatious bad boy who seems quite attractive but also seems like he’s not exactly boyfriend material being a prime example of such a man. When she’s not interested in such men, a woman won’t usually try to friend zone them (since she won’t be able to); instead, she’ll just reject them

• ‘Provider’, in our parlance, is a man who courts her by going the ‘safe route’: he advertises his dependability, reliability, and consistency; his motto might well be “You can count on me.” He isn’t sexy, the way the dangerous, inconstant bad boy is… but for a girl in need of a safe, stable place to take shelter, he may be just the refuge she seeks. The rest of the time, however, the friend zone will tend to be his home

Anyway, the short answer to our commenter is that no, the lover does not always win the game of love. Sometimes the nice guy provider who’s hung so reliably by her side, and courted her with such ongoing dedication, finally does get the girl… leaving any lovers who may have pursued her out in the cold.

Yet, the lover angle is still the savvier angle to pursue for any man who possesses the energy to pursue it, for numerous key reasons – reasons any man who’s serious about romantic success does well to understand.

PDA can be lots of fun in relationships. When you use it with girls you haven’t bedded yet, though, it backfires. Why’s it so different pre- vs. post-sex?

Most folks have some kind of opinion on public displays of affection (PDA).

Some like indulging in them, some don’t. Although some can go either way.

If you’re inexperienced at picking up women, but you’ve had prior relationships with PDA, you may associate such displays with “doing really well with a girl.” You’ll be out somewhere with your girlfriend, start feeling each other all up, tonguing each other down heavily, and by the time you finally get each other alone somewhere the clothes just come flying off and the passion and intensity of the sex is phenomenal.

However, when you start cold approaching, or meeting women at parties, or anywhere else you encounter strange women, and you begin using PDA on them, you start running into a different phenomenon:

The passion explodes… a girl seems really, really into you… everything is unfolding exactly how it has with prior girlfriends of yours you’ve done PDA with… yet just as you’re assuming it’s a shoe-in, this girl’s about to be yours, she ups and leaves and you don’t get the girl.

What happened? How on Earth did you lose her?

She was so into it… why would she leave?

The answer is female state control – and it’s a phenomenon you won’t (usually) see in women you’ve already consummated a sexual relationship with… but absolutely will with girls prior to consummation.

When you’re out late at night, it’s bound to effect your sleep. A veteran night gamer shares tips on staying out late regularly without ruining your daylight hours.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Today I want to discuss lifestyle choices.

Many guys want to try night game. But the usual concern I hear is that they have standard 9–5 jobs, and it’s hard to go out.

I must start by saying that this excuse is invalid. If people have daytime jobs, which they do, and if that’s why they can’t go out, then how come the nightlife is not dead?

Considering that most people have these jobs, and many go out at night (especially girls), why can’t you?

Most people go out at night, especially those higher in the social echelon, like higher-value guys and hot girls. They have more fun in clubs than lower echelon people, including weirdos and geeks. But few of them go out twice a week EVERY weekend.

Yet this is what full-time night gamers do.

I understand that this is perhaps not “9-5 job friendly.” Unless you apply certain measures, it can ruin your sleep and health in the long run. This post is for anyone who wants to become a full-time night gamer. I’ll discuss how to do it while still preserving your health. Even if you don’t have a job that allows you to sleep during the day, this post is still for you.

You don’t need to become a full-time night gamer (going out twice or three times a week). You can go out once a week or once every two weeks—neither option clashes with the standard professional lifestyle. Nevertheless, if this is you, this post is for you.

If you do not occasionally go out at night, you are not taking pickup and seduction seriously and likely will not become a high-level seducer. Night game is amazing because it allows you to get lots of field experience quickly. You’ll find plenty of targets packed in one place. It’s a form of game that forces you to think and act quickly and apply the most techniques. It is pickup on steroids. There are no good seducers who do not do night game occasionally or haven’t done it before. This goes for day gamers too. After all, you don’t want to miss out on the hottest girls!

Let’s talk about going out at night while still maintaining your health. It all starts with developing healthy lifestyle choices.

For many years, guys have asked me to go a lot more in-depth into fundamentals.

They want more specifics on how to maximize their attractive characteristics… stuff like eye contact, posture, walk, movement, fashion, social power, voice.

Well, I’ve finally gotten around to putting something like that together: a COMPLETE fundamentals deep dive that’ll consist of 37 videos once they’re all on the site – some free, some premium – that go into intimate detail on becoming the most attractive man you can be.

Most guys who want to get fit today head to the gym. But what if you didn’t need the gym for it? What if you could get stronger, in a more balanced way, from anywhere? That’s calisthenics.

Do you use bodyweight exercises as a part of your exercise regimen?

You really should. They offer some wonderful benefits, such as:

• Exercising the WHOLE body. Not just isolated muscles

• Developing total body strength, rather than strong muscles and weak muscles

• Allowing you to exercise from ANYWHERE, including hotel rooms & girls’ places

• The ability to recover from joint and muscle injuries (such as those from lifting weights)

It took me years to come around to calisthenics. For the longest time I confused “cardio” with “calisthenics.” Even when I understood what calisthenics were I found them dull, slow, and underpowered.

Yet today I have a very different view on this type of exercise.

And because a fit body is an attractive fundamentals, and because a man needs the health and fitness to do what he wants to do in life (including approach girls), I figured I’d write an introduction to calisthenics here – for those readers who, like me, perhaps never really considered them as an alternative, as well as for those readers who’d like to exercise more but have a hard time getting to the gym.

First, because I think a lot of guys are probably in the place I was, where lifting weights seems a lot better than using bodyweight exercises, let me tell you the story of how I got into them.

Then we’ll talk a little bit more about how to do them.