When you qualify a girl, you let her know what you like about her. Employ these five (5) different qualifiers to move your seductions forward more easily.
Hi there, and welcome back. Today I will discuss qualification. We’ve covered this topic in multiple posts, and all approach it from different angles. They are all fantastic reads, and mastering qualification will benefit you irrelevant of your skill level (I will recap why shortly). It may not fall under “fundamentals,” but consider it more of a fundamental technique.
So, I intend to provide a “straight to the point” and “cut the crap” post on qualification. Like my earlier fractionation post, I want this to be a “simply explained” post.
If you want to delve deeper into qualification, take a look at our other posts. I’ve shared links at the end of this article.
Expert text message banter takes a bit of skill – & a good handle on the text bantering rules! Follow these 10 vital rules to make your text banter BETTER.
One of the guys on our forum is getting back into dating after a long hiatus in a relationship.
He posted a text message interaction of his he had with a girl who hinted at some availability to meet him… but after the last of his messages she left him on read.
There were a few key mistakes he made in his text message banter that stood out quite clearly (chalk it up to being rusty). I figured we ought to do an article on text message banter rules.
If you follow these rules, you’ll be able to avoid the most common pitfalls men face text message bantering with girls. You’ll get more of the girls you want out on dates, instead of your text messages left on read.
Many girls are great at hooking guys in with ‘girl game’. If it always feels like you’re ‘almost there’ with her, but you NEVER get there… that’s girl game.
Some girls have really good game.
They’re able to keep guys hooked, with those guys orbiting around them, providing tons of value to their lives, while they dangle the perpetual hope of romance (or other entanglements) just out of reach.
In fact, until you reach the upper echelons of seduction skill, you will always be playing catchup to the savviest women… and in fact even at the upper echelons, depending on what places you frequent, you will still run into women who are nearly your equals.
Most guys don’t seem to be able to recognize ‘girl game’ for what it is: a set of seduction tricks designed to lead a man into a role the woman wants him in… which, most of the time, will not be sexual or romantic (though it can be; it depends on what she wants from him).
Today I’ll shed some light on what it looks like when you’re being gamed by girls – so you can spend your time on women where the connection is mutual, rather than one where you’re just being strung along.
How do you answer the question of why are you single, never married, or why you don’t have any children as an older man?
What would be a good way to answer that if you’re an average guy?
I can see some men getting away with this if they have some type of business or something, but what if the man really didn’t want to settle down by choice?
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a common stumbling block for beginner (and even intermediate) socializers is such “put you on the spot” questions people ask about certain things.
In particular, about things you should be or shouldhave done (based on conventions, that is), yet are not or have not – or these questions’ close cousins, why you ARE doing something you’re doing or HAVE something you have (that ordinary people don’t). These include questions like:
“Why are you single?”
“Why don’t you have a job?”
“Why don’t you have a BETTER job?”
“Why don’t you like [some trendy thing]?”
“Why don’t you work out?”
“Why don’t you own your own home?”
“Why don’t you have a car?”
“Why don’t you have any friends?”
“Why are you going out alone?”
“Why are you talking to strangers?”
“Why are you talking to me?”
“Why do you have that?”
“Why are you wearing that?”
“Why haven’t you ever married?”
“Why don’t you have kids?”
Etc.
You’ll get different questions depending on your age, the setting, and your situation.
However, every guy gets questions like these from time to time.
They’re great questions for people to ask, especially inquisitive women, because they reveal loads about you – most men stumble when they get these questions, so answer in revealing, unsmooth ways.
How must you answer questions like this so as to make your answer smooth?
A few weeks ago on GirlsChase.TV we wrapped up our chapter on vocal fundamentals.
We’re now three (3) lessons into the next chapter of Fantastic Fundamentals: your social fundamentals.
Social fundamentals are an under-discussed aspect of attractive fundamentals. Once guys get interested in upping their passive value, body fundamentals (our first chapter) and fashion fundamentals (our upcoming fourth chapter) tend to attract the most of their attention.
You can trigger women to ask you questions by asking the same questions to them first. There’s more nuance to this than you’d think – and plenty ways to get it wrong.
The other day a forum member shared a video where a YouTuber approached a woman in the London tube. The approach went okay to a point; the YouTuber was a bit overly gamey, but the girl hung in there and tried to help him out, until they reached a point where he gave a really bad answer to a question she asked.
The question she asked was, “Are you single?”
His reply was to waffle a bit, hemming and hawing, before concocting a vague reply about his relationship status being a “gray area” (perhaps properly spelt ‘grey’ considering the YouTuber’s point of origin), then declaring to the girl that, “For you, single.”
This answer was terrible in a lot of ways:
It showed fear and uncertainty about saying the “wrong” thing (in other words, fear and uncertainty about how she might react – fear that he would “blow it”)
It showed evasiveness that made it seem like he has something to hide (not attractive)
It gave her unearned special privileges, with him telling her that “For her” he would give her availability he did not give to other women – but what has she done to earn that? So far, nothing
But above all it was bad because he triggered the question himself, yet did not have a reply to it.
He triggered the question by putting her on the spot with that question himself a moment earlier… then was totally unprepared when she asked him the same exact question right back.
After some awkward polite conversation more, the YouTuber went for the number close, at which point the girl wryly brought up his earlier “gray area” comment, telling him that perhaps when he’d figured his gray area out, they might run into each other again.
(I really like this girl. She was super cool. She tried to help him all through the approach, and even at the end she told him exactly what put her off and gave him a chance to fix it. All he was able to do was say that he was chasing her and that she should just give him her number anyway without even trying to handle her objection)
Today’s article is about such ‘triggered questions’:
How you can trigger questions yourself, what you can do with them, and also that all-important rule every time you trigger a question: be prepared to answer it (and all its variations) yourself!
Many sexually inexperienced men tend toward dogmatic, unrealistic views of women. Why is this so, and how do you get a firmer grasp of feminine realities?
Over the years, our staunchest critics and most vociferous opponents to seduction advice have been not women (many of whom say they like this site) nor sexually and romantically experienced men (who always find something they like here, even if they do not agree with absolutely everything) but men who are sexually inexperienced. Often it doesn’t come out until later in the debate that the guy doesn’t actually have much experience with women – or any at all.
“You can’t get a woman if you [some alleged handicap – aren’t of the same culture, are N years older or younger than her, aren’t willing to do some certain act like pay for meals, etc.]”
To any man with a modicum of romantic experience, the positions sexually inexperienced men hew so firmly to seem extreme, one dimensional, dogmatic, and unrealistic. The inexperienced man views romance as a caricature, warped all out of proportion with its reality.
He is, in other words, clueless.
Not every sexually inexperienced man is dogmatic in his certainty of how everything he has yet to experience in full works. Plenty of men are open-minded. But plenty more are not.
Why should this be so, though? Why can’t a man just read a few things, watch a few things, and know all there is to know about a subject? Why aren’t all men inexperienced in a thing open-minded about the things they have not much experienced?
No guy likes to get rejected by girls. So, use these tactics to slice your odds of rejection by making things casual, asking before big moves, plus 4 more.
I’m going to talk in this article about a handful of tactics you can use to minimize rejection the odds of a girl rejecting you.
Is it important to minimize these odds? Do you want them shaved down as low as possible? Well it depends:
For beginners it can be fairly important. You want to get those positive experiences up so you feel confident to do more
As you gain in experience, you can start to go in bolder, being more resilient and not as easily shaken by rejections, IF you want (you may not always want to). You’ll also tend to be smoother in general, and will have more tools to avoid or minimize rejections aside from those in this article
Still, even if you’re more advanced, rejection never feels GREAT, so anything you can do to reduce the odds of it (so long as it doesn’t derail anything else you’re doing) helps.
Inviting a woman home with you is an art of itself. One part of this art is giving her plausible deniability. And one part of THAT is in seeding the pull.
Today I’ll discuss a technique that will increase your odds of having her say yes to going somewhere with you—whether it’s back to your place, her place, or another bar or location.
We call this extraction or “pulling.” It’s when you move a girl from one place to another. This differs from isolation and getting her away from her friends, usually within the venue, often in night game. Isolation can be challenging because you want to move her away from her friends. And extraction is difficult because you want to leave the venue and go somewhere else, often to your place, which she may not be comfortable with for many reasons.
Note: Isolating a girl and get getting away from her friends by bringing her back to your place counts as isolation and extraction (you can isolate through extracting). Both are crucial to master.
What’s cool is that the technique shared here is useful for both isolation and extraction. However, due to isolation’s slightly different nature, I will elaborate on how to use the technique in a future post.
The best part: this technique is deadly efficient and easy to pull off. It isn’t complex or risky; even beginners can and should use it.
Let’s begin with a recap (to go straight to the technique, skip the first section and start at “Seeding the Pull”).
This post is suited for everyone, irrelevant of skillset.
Has anxiety to make an approach frozen up your attempts to meet girls? There’s a simple solution to getting around it: change up your objectives.
A friend of mine recently got back into cold approach after a long hiatus.
He’s made some approaches. Some have went well. But on the whole, he’s reentry into game has been stymied by something he never had to deal with much before: approach anxiety.
We discussed what the source of his anxiety was, since there are a few different flavors. Most guys get anxious about approaching girls… but the root “why” of it takes some slightly different forms.
In his case, he’s a bit out-of-shape and feels unconfident women will want to meet his unconfident (and now older) self. But on top of this, he fears that if he approaches unconfidently, and is rejected, he’ll grow even less confident… making his next approach even more likely to fail… making his confidence fall farther still.
I call this the “downward spiral” fear: if you start approaching without confidence in yourself, you’re only putting yourself on a downward spiral that leads to a total collapse in confidence and the inability to so much as look at a girl ever again.
You can get trapped with this form of anxiety for a long time, though.
That’s because in order to GET confidence, you have to have some successful approaches.
To have some successful approaches, you have to approach.
Yet… to approach… well… you can’t do that until you have the confidence you’d get from successful approaches, right?
It’s a Catch-22: you can’t do the thing until you get the results you get from doing the thing. But you can’t get results until you do the thing.
When you qualify a girl, you let her know what you like about her. Employ these five (5) different qualifiers to move your seductions forward more easily.
