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PDA can be lots of fun in relationships. When you use it with girls you haven’t bedded yet, though, it backfires. Why’s it so different pre- vs. post-sex?

Most folks have some kind of opinion on public displays of affection (PDA).

Some like indulging in them, some don’t. Although some can go either way.

If you’re inexperienced at picking up women, but you’ve had prior relationships with PDA, you may associate such displays with “doing really well with a girl.” You’ll be out somewhere with your girlfriend, start feeling each other all up, tonguing each other down heavily, and by the time you finally get each other alone somewhere the clothes just come flying off and the passion and intensity of the sex is phenomenal.

However, when you start cold approaching, or meeting women at parties, or anywhere else you encounter strange women, and you begin using PDA on them, you start running into a different phenomenon:

The passion explodes… a girl seems really, really into you… everything is unfolding exactly how it has with prior girlfriends of yours you’ve done PDA with… yet just as you’re assuming it’s a shoe-in, this girl’s about to be yours, she ups and leaves and you don’t get the girl.

What happened? How on Earth did you lose her?

She was so into it… why would she leave?

The answer is female state control – and it’s a phenomenon you won’t (usually) see in women you’ve already consummated a sexual relationship with… but absolutely will with girls prior to consummation.

When you’re out late at night, it’s bound to effect your sleep. A veteran night gamer shares tips on staying out late regularly without ruining your daylight hours.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Today I want to discuss lifestyle choices.

Many guys want to try night game. But the usual concern I hear is that they have standard 9–5 jobs, and it’s hard to go out.

I must start by saying that this excuse is invalid. If people have daytime jobs, which they do, and if that’s why they can’t go out, then how come the nightlife is not dead?

Considering that most people have these jobs, and many go out at night (especially girls), why can’t you?

Most people go out at night, especially those higher in the social echelon, like higher-value guys and hot girls. They have more fun in clubs than lower echelon people, including weirdos and geeks. But few of them go out twice a week EVERY weekend.

Yet this is what full-time night gamers do.

I understand that this is perhaps not “9-5 job friendly.” Unless you apply certain measures, it can ruin your sleep and health in the long run. This post is for anyone who wants to become a full-time night gamer. I’ll discuss how to do it while still preserving your health. Even if you don’t have a job that allows you to sleep during the day, this post is still for you.

You don’t need to become a full-time night gamer (going out twice or three times a week). You can go out once a week or once every two weeks—neither option clashes with the standard professional lifestyle. Nevertheless, if this is you, this post is for you.

If you do not occasionally go out at night, you are not taking pickup and seduction seriously and likely will not become a high-level seducer. Night game is amazing because it allows you to get lots of field experience quickly. You’ll find plenty of targets packed in one place. It’s a form of game that forces you to think and act quickly and apply the most techniques. It is pickup on steroids. There are no good seducers who do not do night game occasionally or haven’t done it before. This goes for day gamers too. After all, you don’t want to miss out on the hottest girls!

Let’s talk about going out at night while still maintaining your health. It all starts with developing healthy lifestyle choices.

For many years, guys have asked me to go a lot more in-depth into fundamentals.

They want more specifics on how to maximize their attractive characteristics… stuff like eye contact, posture, walk, movement, fashion, social power, voice.

Well, I’ve finally gotten around to putting something like that together: a COMPLETE fundamentals deep dive that’ll consist of 37 videos once they’re all on the site – some free, some premium – that go into intimate detail on becoming the most attractive man you can be.

Most guys who want to get fit today head to the gym. But what if you didn’t need the gym for it? What if you could get stronger, in a more balanced way, from anywhere? That’s calisthenics.

Do you use bodyweight exercises as a part of your exercise regimen?

You really should. They offer some wonderful benefits, such as:

• Exercising the WHOLE body. Not just isolated muscles

• Developing total body strength, rather than strong muscles and weak muscles

• Allowing you to exercise from ANYWHERE, including hotel rooms & girls’ places

• The ability to recover from joint and muscle injuries (such as those from lifting weights)

It took me years to come around to calisthenics. For the longest time I confused “cardio” with “calisthenics.” Even when I understood what calisthenics were I found them dull, slow, and underpowered.

Yet today I have a very different view on this type of exercise.

And because a fit body is an attractive fundamentals, and because a man needs the health and fitness to do what he wants to do in life (including approach girls), I figured I’d write an introduction to calisthenics here – for those readers who, like me, perhaps never really considered them as an alternative, as well as for those readers who’d like to exercise more but have a hard time getting to the gym.

First, because I think a lot of guys are probably in the place I was, where lifting weights seems a lot better than using bodyweight exercises, let me tell you the story of how I got into them.

Then we’ll talk a little bit more about how to do them.

When you’re new to approaching women, it can be tough to know which girls to meet. Use these 14 basic approaching rules to know when to go in and what to do.

The other day I wrote an article with a few rules on how to start doing day game.

It was clear from the reactions that there are newer guys who struggle with some of the most basic rules around approaching. I haven’t really gone into a lot of these before because:

• I just figured these rules out naturally as I approached and I find guys who are doing the fieldwork tend to figure them out naturally too, and

• These rules can be bent or broken as you get more experienced, so why write a list of rules that are only worth sticking to for new guys? I don’t want to give guys more rules that become constraints later on

But it occurs to me now that guys who are pretty new maybe want some constraints to better focus their approaching to get more from it coming out of the gates.

In the past I’ve talked a fair bit about having an overall process for approaching, such as in my article on how to approach a girl… but I haven’t really talked about some of the most basic rules of beginner-level approach targeting.

So I’ve conjured up the most basic approaching rules I could… and I’ve assembled together a list of 14 basic approaching maxims I recommend pickup newbies to follow.

New to day game? It may seem scary to begin. All those girls rushing around during day… And no natural, unawkward way to meet them! Fortunately, it’s easier to begin than it seems…

We’re just about to rerelease our killer day game course “Meet Girls Everywhere” (or MGE), with expert day game coach Hector Castillo. MGE’s an awesome training course you’re sure to love if you’re at all interested in meeting girls by day.

Today I figured I’d talk a little about first starting day game, because it’s one of the common hurdles guys new to day game face: “How do I begin doing day game?”

Going to parties or nightlife is one thing. You’ll have anxiety around approaching there, but pound back a few brewskis or get your wingman to cheer you on or pull you into one of his sets and before you know it you’re talking to girls.

Day game is different. There’s no social atmosphere there. Women aren’t standing around waiting for an approach. Many of them are busy, many are distracted, and few are expecting to talk to someone. It can feel ‘wrong’ striking up a conversation with a stranger… isn’t doing so intrusive? Aren’t you supposed to not talk to strangers? You’re supposed to go to special walled environments like bars to do that, not outside in the open air!

It's a little silly when you think about it, because for millions of years of hominid evolution, we sure didn’t have rules of “you cannot talk to women outside of walled edifices serving fermented hops.” For one, we didn’t have walls… For another, we also did not have barrels of fermented anything, let alone ice cubes and little umbrellas to stick in them.

Getting started with day game is thus a bit like becoming an evolutionary throwback… One leaves aside the polite rules and unspoken strictures of modern society, and becomes a little bit of a caveman roaming the streets 10,000 years into the future.

When you go out, look lonely, and pile up obvious rejections, people notice, especially in social places. What can you do to avoid this ‘negative social proof’ while out?

You’re likely familiar with the concept of ‘social proof’.

Social proof is the principle whereby people like, trust, and feel more comfortable with people and choices that are already approved (proofed) by others (social).

Social proof is a useful advantage to have. While the concept can seem a little abstract, its real world results can be vast. Good social proof can lead to:

• Much warmer receptions from those you approach

• A much easier time reaching the hook point

• More ‘slack’ cut for you in your interactions

• Approach invitations from women who find you intriguing

As good as social proof can be, it’s a double-edged sword, yet its other edge is little discussed: the woman-repulsing bane of negative social proof.