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The Post-Coital Tone

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post-coitalOne of the things that’s hugely important to remember to do after you sleep with a girl for the first time is to set the post-coital tone. That is, to let your girl know, to some degree, what she can expect from you, and what you expect from her.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



EvanK's picture

I just discovered this excellent article 5 years after it was written. So much wisdom here!

Thanks, Chase.


Eugene's picture

Hello Chase and all the readers, I have some questions about the second case mentioned when the girl is really great and worth seeing again. So let's say she's a girlfriend material for me and I moved fast and got first date sex. From that point, isn't it a bad thing to let her sleep over at my place? I don't understand how it combines with ideas from other articles such as:

1) Letting her sleep over tells her that I'm not very busy, thus don't have a lot going on and that I am likely not going to see any other girls next day. I'm concerned that this way she can get too comfortable with me, get the feeling that she has me and lose the attraction. 

2) A casual relationship is the best way to start a more serious one, so that means a slow but gradual transition from the first towards the latter instead of front loading everything at the beginning. My point is, letting her sleep over combined with spending time with her the next day doesn't sound like the most casual start.

I want to follow the advice in this article and spend time and nights with her, but at the same time I don't want to ruin everything for the above mentioned reasons. So is it better to gently send her home after the first time and then only after a few dates have her sleep over at my place?

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