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How to Make Her Want You: Lessons from Marketing

how to make her want youIf you're like most guys, figuring out how to make her want you can feel like a full-time job. But if you look at people who have similarly-veined full time jobs in their own right, you can make making women want you go a whole lot more smoothly, and a whole lot more easily.

Take marketers, for one. Marketers have always fascinated me…

They really have the art of persuasion and influence down to a *science*… and that’s exactly what mastery of any skill should be:

A marriage of both art and science.

By way of an example, look at picking up girls…. There is the art, the intuitive part of game… the calibration, the spontaneity and simply being creative in the moment. Your right brain does all that.

But there is also the scientific aspect of pickup. From psychology and biology, we know a lot about what women want, and a lot of behaviors can be predicted – and even triggered – quite consistently.

It’s no different with marketing.

Ricardus DominoAbout the Author: Ricardus Domino

Ricardus was one of the most prolific and respected coaches in the men’s dating advice industry. He’s dated some of the planet’s most beautiful women, ranging from a Miss World contestant, to a model for Coca-Cola, to one of “Brazil’s Next Top Models.” His specialty is daytime street stops. He is most remembered for his “Are you single?” opening line. Ricardus is currently retired from the dating advice industry.

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Anonymous's picture


It would be great if you (or anyone else) could elaborate on that "mental and emotional connection". How do you trigger it and make it happen?

Chase Amante's picture


See this article:

How to Build an Emotional Connection


Anon's picture

Hi Chase,

Thanks for the link. I'd actually already read that article along with all the other ones you wrote. One thing is, as I commented somewhere else, I tend to feel nosy asking certain questions about their childhood, or why they're doing this instead of that. I've even had one girl tell me I ask many questions (she didn't go away though...). Would be interesting to have Ricardus' thoughts. Or a video of you in action. That would help a lot.

All the best,

Anonymous's picture

I find it peculiar how some people comment on the advice Ricardus gives. Alas, I was skeptical about him at first too, but he surely proven his advice is on the spot.

Thanks Ricardus for the different viewpoints that achieve results!

Morten's picture

First time on this site and I usually don't comment (should get some backlinks though) but just had to say that your writing style is rocking mate.
This is a VERY well written article and i love the way you builded it around marketers, but i assume you do have quite some experience with that issue - also :)

Anonymous's picture

This is genius!

Ricardus Domino's picture

Thanks! ;)

Garrett's picture

Hey Chase,

So I've been reading your material for a while now, and I've come to a few conclusions. Firstly, the logic behind your work is hard to argue with, and has lead me to a point where I'm questioning how I should be approaching women. I'll explain more...

Out of curiosity, I've spent a lot of time researching this topic, and there are a few things I fail to understand. Firstly, to get a girlfriend, why must you sleep with them? If you can prove me wrong then I'd be interested to know, but I feel indifferent about this. I feel that everything in life requires balance and in order to get a girl to like you, you should be yourself, be mindful of ways to improve yourself, and strike a balance between acting like a jerk and on the contrary, a 'wet noodle' who is no challenge whatsoever.

I disagree with some of your posts because it feels like you are telling people to manipulate and toy with women's emotions, act fake, and imply that people are incapable of getting women if they act natural/themselves. What's wrong with being yourself, yet trying to improve yourself without conforming to manipulating people into liking you? Why would you want someone to be with you if they wouldn't like you for who you are in the first place?

So what I'm saying to you is, why not strike a balance between being yourself, but at the same time, analyzing how you can improve, so you can be the best YOURSELF that you can be? I mean, if walking and talking a certain way is going to improve my attraction with women then I'll do what I can to improve that, but to completely change who I am, manipulate people, and basically put on an act to make someone like me, how do you feel okay doing this? Even if I got the girl to sleep with me I would feel disgusted for what I had done. I would feel a lot more satisfaction being myself, knowing that the girl likes me for who I am, and knowing that I didn't need to play games with her emotions to get her to like me.

You're probably thinking "well this guy isn't going to get very good quality women" and the truth is, I may not get the type of women that you pick up artists get, but I'm wondering... are your beliefs formulated from the generation of insecurity from deep inside yourself? That just because you spent a lot of time on a girl and she brushed you off, that you should never do that again? Granted, I agree with you on that, you shouldn't spend a lot of time on a girl before you are with her, but at the same time, I feel like your views are a bit extreme, going from spending a lot of time with her to the opposing end of the spectrum... I feel a lack of balance based on my interpretation of your work; however, people are open to varying interpretations based on past experiences. I could be wrong, and if you have read this and have an argument in regards to why your views are superior to mine, I'd greatly appreciate your input, as I've gone back and forth from my core beliefs to yours at times, considering your logical approach is quite convincing in comparison to a more ethically driven motive, such as my own.

Also, keep in mind that I'm interested in attraction, as opposed to seduction, and due to moral/religious beliefs, I have confided in the former.

Thanks, Garrett

Chase Amante's picture

Hey Garrett,

Just addressed the preponderance of your comment in this post:

Dating Without Sex: Why It Usually Doesn't Work

We've had a few comments from guys asking about this one, so I wanted to get something up on it. You may or may not agree, but you'll probably at least know where I'm coming from now.

I also referenced this one for the "seduction seems like manipulation" line of thought, which I don't address in the newer post since it's already covered head-to-toe in the earlier article:

Is Seduction Wrong?

Have a read through them, and drop a comment if you care to share your thoughts.


Anonymous's picture

I'm not an expert seducer by any means, in fact I'm just starting to do cold approaches. However I've can't even recall the last time a girl didn't want sex after kissing me. Unless she wasn't all that into the kiss in the first place.

Maybe you're doing something wrong when you kiss? Or maybe it's a cultural thing, no idea... But for me, the kiss is actually my primary goal. After that I feel like I can take her home anytime I want. Sometimes it doesn't happen the same day, but she will usually want to meet up for me again sooner or later.

Ice Kun's picture

I would like to know how to keep attraction in a long distance relationship,
an article on this subject of LDR would also be helpful...

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