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Are You Nervous with Women? Stop Overthinking

nervous with womenDoes meeting women sometimes seem like rocket science to you? Do you get nervous with women and trip over your own two feet?

Wow… there is so much stuff to read, so many things to work on internally, so many things to consider at every step of the way when talking to girls…

And one single mistake can be fatal, and lose you a girl that was totally into you.

No, far be it from me to tell you that this skill is incredibly easy, and that you need to “just be yourself” and run “natural game”… if that worked, none of us would be here right now.

At the same time, there is also something that is worse than not knowing what to do… and that is “paralysis by analysis:” when the fear of doing the wrong thing leads you to do nothing at all, which is obviously also going to get you no results at all.

Or you think you need just a little bit more information before you can finally start going out and meeting women.

Or maybe all the information doesn’t paralyze you, but you do lose track of all the things you should be doing on a date and end up stuck in your head, or even more nervous and stiff because you’re thinking too hard about what to say next.

I’ve been there… I’m a pretty analytical person, and so I got stuck in that pattern too for a while.

And because I don’t want you stuck there for long too, here’s how to avoid it.

Ricardus DominoAbout the Author: Ricardus Domino

Ricardus was one of the most prolific and respected coaches in the men’s dating advice industry. He’s dated some of the planet’s most beautiful women, ranging from a Miss World contestant, to a model for Coca-Cola, to one of “Brazil’s Next Top Models.” His specialty is daytime street stops. He is most remembered for his “Are you single?” opening line. Ricardus is currently retired from the dating advice industry.

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Josh's picture

The articles you guys write are always packed with not only theory and the meanings behinds stuff, but they are also fill with applicable information as well as scientific studies to back up particular points. I for one have definitely fallen victim to "analysis paralysis". It is caused by alot of things. For one, my driving curiosity to fiqure out how the human(particularly female) mind works as well social dynamics in general. Second, the need to control and have everything go perfectly and smoothly(by bascially THINKING of every situation before it happens) before you ever go out to meet women as to avoid akwardness, embaressment or rejection. Like a mental trial and error if you will. Those reasons combined with laziness, apathy, creative avoidance, being overwhelmed by things to practice/master(something the article above will help with), ever searching for that magic bullet even those I know one does not exist. It's almost paradoxical when you look at it a certain way. Its just so easy to convince yourself that there maybe somthing else that you haven't read about that....basically back to the elusive magic bullet argument mentioned earlier. One thing that I felt good reading was how good you can get by making small improvments incrementally and how over time you can make massive changes. But not just that but how most men don't even bother trying to improve their lives in this area and how even just THINKING about trying to improve already puts you ahead of most guys. It's a step in the right direction. The thing that has kind of replaced my quest for a magic bullet is more of search for newer more liberal ways of thinking(having grown up in a conservative home) and going about things, reading about things that constantly challenge my beliefs, and just a general open-mindedness toward all things. Just some thoughts great read, keep it up.

Anonymous's picture

After all this reading i have question i read a book on strengths and it says that when we were born our bring produced billions of synapses and neurons but as we aged we lost over half those connections but because we still try to focus on our weaknesses instead of making our strengths better this is why we fail. Any insight???

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