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Why I Don’t Tell Women to “Step It Up”

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A reader on the article about girls with boyfriends writes in with a sentiment I’ve noticed popping up increasingly often on GirlsChase.com:

But what really saddens me is the feminist undertone that lurks all around this thinking that on the other side look like male dominance. And the question is: Why is it men that have to become perfect? Why is there no such a need for women? Leadership, selfish genes, everything I already know. But I want a higher standpoint. Why are men the only ones that have to step up, and not women?

women step it up

This is one that in fact I’ve answered repeatedly in the comments sections of various articles... but I realize not everyone reads those, they’re kind of hard to search / keep track of, and new people roll in and wonder the same things, especially if there isn’t a single place strictly for answering a particular question. So it’s time for it to get a dedicated article.

Why don’t women have to improve? Why don’t women have to step it up? How come they get a free pass... while men have all this pressure to “be perfect”?

It doesn’t seem very fair.

The fact is though, there is TONS of pressure on women to step it up and be perfect – including, indirectly, on this site.

However, this is a men’s site for men, and asking GC to write chastisingly-worded “You better shape up your act, ladies – or else!” articles for women misses the point – that we are here to instruct men who want to up their results, rather than to be just another shrill voice haranguing those who don’t want to “follow the rules” and tell them that they’d better get their acts in gear.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



lucifer's picture


I really don't understand this clearly:

"That’s because there are far fewer top caliber males than there are top caliber females (since the “ceiling” for women isn’t as high and women mostly cluster closer to the safe middle"

If women cluster around the middle, shouldn't be a given that there are MORE men who are "higher up" than women?

Indeed, how many high level execs or CEO who are women? Very very few...

Whitey's picture

Dear Amante,
This is one the best articles I've read on the internet, my friend.

Jimbo's picture

I have seen tribal villages in the remotest part of the Amazon, where women wed one man and bear the child of another.

Was this like a tradition among Amazonian villagers, or it just happened secretly? And if it was a tradition, how did they get men to willingly play the husband?

MARC's picture

never married women without children earn 108 cents compared to single, childless men-
Men account for around three-fifths of total earnings in the United States, and women are twice as likely to work part-time. Yet women account for 51% of the wealth in the United States, which is proportional to the general population. So men aren’t just buying women’s dinners.
Women earn more college degrees

Jimbo's picture

I scoured that BLS report to verify the 51% figure, but couldn't find it. It's 91 pages long, so I might have missed it. Care to refer me to the page?

j's picture

I think what people mean is why do all women get to test men and question him in an LTR but the reverse cant be done? Why cant it be exposed that we're simply not allowed to point out how a woman fails at meeting the societal pressures of being a woman when our masculinity is indirectly attacked by our ltr woman? Why instead do we have to go out and absorb the resources of other men (destroying families in the process since such is the nature of competition...also an unspoken truth btw) and keep multiple women a secret in order for her to see us as a "good" man? The same way she saw us at the beginning just by showing up? Why must we eventually answer to them in order to reawaken the girl you loved in her over and over and at the cost of another woman's love for her man whom we indirectly edge out? I think this is more rationalmale territory

Haraklus's picture

I want to tattoo the word “PAIN” onto your body, because pain is your greatest teacher.
OG GC reference right here

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