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Early 20s Women vs. Late 20s Women: What's the Difference?

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Early 20s women are different from women in their late 20s. How they differ makes a big impact on how you date them (and which age you prefer).

When I first started reading and eventually writing for Girls Chase, one of the things that always surprised me was when writers gave their perspective on dating women who were in their late 20s and 30s, and how different it was from dating women who were in their early 20s.

I was in my early 20s at the time – just a student of the game – and I always thought that older guys were exaggerating the differences just a few years can make. But now that I am older and have dated a few women in their late 20s and 30s, I’ve found that perhaps the men who have written about this phenomenon in the past have actually underestimated how stark these differences can get.

So that’s what I’m here to explore today.

But first, let me add a disclaimer: everything that I’m going to discuss with respect to mindset versus age is just a set of general guidelines designed to be a useful framework.

I know there will be exceptions, and I just want to say that I hear you. I have definitely been with girls who fall outside of the norm. I’ve dated younger girls who have had the dispositions of 45 year olds. And I’ve dated women in their mid thirties who have been nowhere close to having their acts together. But out of the thousands of dates that I’ve been on, these trends are definitely what I’ve seen in the majority of cases.

Colt WilliamsAbout the Author: Colt Williams

Raised in the American Midwest, Colt Williams made a name for himself in dating with a style based on soulful poetic seductions and playful dance floor antics. His style is all about inspiring girls and drawing them into one’s world. You can book phone coaching with him here, or get a copy of his guide to getting laid on Tinder, the product of months of study and experimentation by him on the medium.



SZ's picture

Where to find baby mamas that aren't hoes?

Where would you say that we can find women that can have our kids, but aren't hoes as we grow older?

It seems it would be harder to just have a baby mama that's at least 10-15 years younger than you.

I want to know where I can find them, and how to make sure they're not hoes or will become one.

Where should I look, and what should I look for?

I don't care about her job or education, as long a she is sane, cute, in shape, and has her stuff together at least, in good. She can work anywhere, and have any education.

I just don't want some girl I got off cold approach to be an undercover hoe, you feel me?


JJ's picture

Great article Colt! Asa 26 yr old. gal, my priorities & maturity level have changed drastically. Presently, at 26, I'm mostly living the late 20's lifestyle you've described. Of course, I behaved like an early 20's when I was in my late teens & up to around 22ish. Although,I'm not in the slightest interested in marriage or starting a family until at least a decade from now, I do go for the mature confident witty provider type (edgy & tatted though)more so than the immature insecure obnoxious pretty boys my age. I get less & less superficial/vain & more sentimental, better at expressing myself. Communication is very important to me now contrarily to when I was younger. Back then, I'd brush off feelings. I used to wish men whose essence as a human being I repulsed & didn't hold any esteem or respect for to break their lower necks. Now, I don't judge so harshly in fact I provide fellas with sound advice for improvement.

SW's picture

Hi Colt,

Great article. I've recently been broken up with by a 20 year old. I'm 26 and we have been dating for a couple of months.

Her reasoning was that she felt we were in different stages of life and i wanted a mature relationship and she couldn't give me that. We never had any arguments, i never pressured her at all, and she seemed so in love. It was totally out of the blue.

I wanted to know if there was anything I could have done differently to prevent this? I've been beating myself up over it and wanted to know if you've experienced the same? I don't want to be bitter and just want to learn from the experience so it never happens again.

I'm guessing that I was perhaps projecting that I wanted to settle down and she just wanted fun. Any help would be greatly appreciated.



Tre Holliday's picture

I disagree, I have to say that younger women want younger guys, the age gaps dont last and even then I find younger guys have more chances of sexaul encounters with samd age women, there are studies to back this up.

Maco's picture

Had literally the EXACT same thing happen to me recently. Also been beating myself up a little bit about it. I would love to hear Colt's thoughts on this one.

BMontana's picture

Basicly you have to stay away from both groups, except when you want sex. Both groups are boring though.

If you get the young girl she will break you sooner or later and find somebody else, like a little girl who gets attracted to different dolls. If you chose a girl in her latee 20s you wil have to deal with all her past baggage and her talking about marriage and kids even though she might not even be in love with you for real.

I guess you should either go for the mid 20s and hope for some great years or get involved with women between 35 and 40 just for casual fun and sex

Joshukend's picture

Hey Colt, awesome article and I just (yesterday) lost a relationship with a 20 yo (I'm 22), who had a great sense of direction (still annoying amounts of drama), and it reached the point we were about to move in together, then she stopped to really analyze our paths and saw that they really conflicted and I was dumb and was pretty critical on college (she's a Latina whose parents have menial jobs), which led to a shatter from lack of respect for her direction and conflict of her not having the self esteem to feel like she made me happy (she did, very much).

Moving forward, I do want to get some variety under my belt, but really want to get into a strong, marriage-bound relationship within the year (after said sampling), and I'm curious what your advice is for a 22 year old guy, since I'd rather not marry a girl with 5+ years on me? (no problem having casual flings with them though, Milfs rock)

Daria's picture

There are always exceptions. I am a female and live in Europe, born in Ukraine. At 16 I was already very serious, an introvert, and read Dostoyevski and talked to people much older than me and wanted to have a serious husband and a family, not some one night stands; in my early 20 I did not go to parties, but studied hard and had my music projects and worked. I was rather upset by the men who never seemed to grow up. And the comments, my God! horrible. Every woman is unique! You have to get to know the person first.

adrien's picture

""Every women is unique""  LOL   This is the typical mistake every women do.   YES you are all differents, ONLY at a complex/rational level.  BUT at a more basical level (instinct/biology), most women are the same, with few exceptions.    And because love attraction is highly determined by instinct and NOT by rational thoughts,  this is why most of you want a Christian Grey as boyfriend. Period. 

By the way,  aren't all men different as well ?   SO, why 99% of men dream about young hot women like Megan Fox ?  Because of the same explication I wrote up.  Period.

==>  And sorry for my grammar errors, my mother language is French

Jewish Princess's picture

Women can't sow their wild oats. They can only lower their ability to make attachments and statistically lower their chances of successful longterm relationships in the future by being promiscuous.

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