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In your lifetime you will have many experiences. Some will be frustrating. Some will be triumphant. Some will be painful. Some will be easily forgotten.
But there are some experiences that everyone remembers. For many people in the West, for example, one of those experiences is their first car. Whenever you asked someone in the West about their first car they get this very wondrous and nostalgic look in their eyes. And you can tell that a wonderful story is about to unfold.
But for all people, one experience that people will never forget no matter what is the time they lost their virginity. Regardless if it was awkward, lackluster, or incredible, this experience will always leave an indelible mark on the storyline of every person’s life. And it will always be something they can readily account without a moment’s hesitation.
But what if you haven’t had this experience yet? What if you’ve been
wondering what it would be like to cross this threshold, this rite of
passage, and feel for yourself what all people have engaged in for ages
past? What if you don’t know how to
have sex?
The thought probably makes you feel excited. It probably makes you feel nervous. And it probably fills you with the pressure of feeling like you have to do it at the right time, in the right place, and with the right person.
So how do you know when the time is right for you? And when you do decide, how do you go about actually doing it? That’s the topic I’ll be covering today. I’m going to talk about what factors should influence your decision to have sex the first time and how to go about having sex when you’re new and a bit unsure.
The uncertainty can definitely be a little nerve-racking, but just know that you’re not alone in feeling that way.
Comments
virgin
I'm 21 and still a virgin. My best friend of 5 years told me the other day that him and his girlfriend's fantasy was to have DP. He told me it would be in a few days and asked if I want to join, and I said yes. Now I don't know if I should or should not do it. I have all this shit going on in my mind about whether I'll cum too fast or won't be able to get it up. At the same time, though, I feel backing out will only do me more wrong, as I have backed out of intimacy with many girls in the past, and doing it again will only perpetuate the problem.
Ask yourself
First I would ask myself: is the fact that I lost my virginity to a buddy of mine's gf while dp'ing her with him something I am okay with, and will be in the future when I look back to it?
If you answered no, then you probably should not do it, and investigate what your feelings when you back out of intimacy are, and what could be causing them. Working on yourself is a must-do, and always strongly encouraged on GirlsChase - literally what the site is all about in the end.
If you answered yes, read on.
Do your friend and his girlfriend know that you are a virgin?
If either of them knows, depending on how strong their bond is, it is likely that both do by now.
And if so, this probably means that they're even more excited (her, especially) over it, because let's face it: it is very appealing for anyone to deflower someone - in my experience at least.
If that is the case, I am sure this awareness will take some pressure off for you, otherwise you could even tell them yourself!
Should we still push for
Should we still push for first date sex even when you're a virgin? I know this site advocates having sex as soon as possible, and that virginity isn't really a big deal with regards to who you lose it to.
please help me
Thanks for the article.
I'm not actually sexy at the moment. That's a lie. I'm probably closer to a turn off to be honest, as a jobless 25 year old living at home with Mum. It's something im working on.
I was wondering what you thought my strategy should be to loose this pesky virginity? What should my strategy be?
I was thinking of concentrating on day game, casting a wide net and then screening for less experienced women.
The experienced women will be less interested. They'll have no time for inexperienced men loosing interest quickly or never being interested in the first place. Or if not, they'll be experienced to the point of overwhelm and psychosis, so better to avoid these women and concentrate on the less experienced ones unless one of them gives you an open goal.
Am i right in this assessment? Inexperienced women being better for the beginner because they're more likely to be attracted and less likely to induce the man to start chasing. or maybe it's the other way round?
Also, before the event should i tell them about it or not? It seems that telling them beforehand relieves some of the embarrassment of being bad on your first time but also may turn her off if im right in thinking that most all women are turned off by inexperienced men.
Thanks
Thanks
As a 15 year old guy who is told all the time he is hot, thanks mostly to stuff I learned here, and flirts heavily with lots of girls, yet still has not managed to even kiss a girl.... This article is very helpful. I don't have any questions or anything, I just wanted to let you and every other writer on GC know that what you're doing here is great.... I deal a lot with depression, and a lot of the information and advice made available here has set me on my way to being confident, happy, and fulfilled. So keep up the good work!
Good Luck
Hey Tyler,
You'll be in good shape in the future with the material you've learned from this website. I didn't learn about Girlschase until I was 18, before then I had an idea of attracting women. My game changed for the better when I discovered Girlschase. Anyway take care for now.
Happy New Year,
Just Dave
How to have sex if you have never done it before
Very nice article. I didn't know what to do if my girlfriend requests we have sex but at least now i have an idea. Thanx for sharing your experience. I didn't know it was that tight in there!
Informed
Hey Ted,
It's actually really good that you're taking precautions and looking into the possibilities of having sex. A lot of guys are nervous about their first time. I know for sure I was. But just like you I started researching things. I started looking at techniques just in case I possibly did have sex. Needless to say when I finally did have sex I was prepared. Basically what I'm saying is not to fret or worry to much mate. Just prepare and when the times comes you'll be ready.
Take care,
Just Dave
Male Virgin and Friends with benefits?
Hey there.
I'm new to this site and find it interesting. I also liked this article very much.
I am a male virgin of 25 years (partly due to decisions in my teenage years and partly out of consequences and circumstances) just beginning to sort out his life. Of course I am really interested in having sex but I am not that much interested in a monogamous relationship with a woman. This is a complete paradox to me which hindered me the last few years to pursue anything in that direction: I want to lose my virginity to a person I can trust, but I don't want to settle down yet (and non-monogamous relationships are quit the rarity in the west, I think). On the other hand I want to sow some wild oaks, but I believe I couldn't have my first sex with a stranger on the first date.
So how can I go about it? Is losing virginity to a friend with benefits an option to ponder? Are there other options? And as VashBash asked: First Date Sex, yes or no for virgins?
I hope someone can help me with this.
Kind regards
First Time
Hey Male,
I lost my virginity to a girl who I had been seeing off and on for a couple years when I was 17 years old. We had made out a couple times and such, so see knew of my attraction for her. One day we went on a date couple days before her birthday. We out for smoothies and I took her back to my house. I was honest with her and told her I had never had sex before. She said it was okay and that she could be on top. It was easy doing with her because I trusted her and she didn't shame me.
If you want to sleep with a girl as a friends with benefits, I would support you in that. Having sex with a stranger with little experience could be awkward for you. However, it wouldn't be impossible if you had an idea of what you're doing. So a practice partner would be appropriate.
Let me know if that helps,
Just Dave
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