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You know the feeling: you find yourself in a conversation that's stuck on the superficial. You're talking about the weather; about how you both hate getting up early in the morning; about what the local sports team did last week; about how sushi is okay but katsu sauce... man, that's where it's at.
Basically, small talk. But, small talk that's beginning to seem like it's not even getting you to big talk.
You start feeling like this conversation is taking you nowhere.
You've just realized you're in a polite conversation. And this post is about helping you get out of that.
Last weekend in the post on talking to lots of girls, a reader, Lau'Ren'Tay, made the following request:
Could you please write a comprehensive about socializing with a woman. If your not wasting your time in conversation or are? I don't know if you have something covering that, or related to that.
Sure thing, Lau'Ren'Tay; I don't believe I do have on up here like that, so I'm happy to oblige. Here then is the post on recognizing whether what you're in or not is polite conversation – and on how to get out of it when you are.
Comments
Get to the choppa
Yo Chase thank you a lot man. This article had made things more clearer for me;on what mistakes i'm making ,and not noticing. I really like part about if you didn't make it past small talk. You should should have "the healthiest attitude for learning and the one that will help you advance the fastest." Also really like the part about how to get out of polite conversations especially number 3 which I used and it worked ha =D and number 4.
By the way I know your having a blast in Asia meeting the intriguing arts of women there haha . But when you stopping back in the US?
Also I met a women from Taiwan, I was deep diving good ,but it was destroyed quickly by her guy friend. I'm not going to go in detail, but I thought it was funny since you were in Taiwan.
Anyway Deuces
Re: Get to the choppa
Lau'Ren'Tay, you're quite welcome, bro. Awesome to hear the bored look kicked some girls into gear for you, haha ;)
Yeah, what's up with the Taiwanese girls' friends? A pal of mine said he encountered a similar phenomenon in Taipei; apparently, Taiwanese girls are conditioned to go everywhere in groups and always bring friends. More obstacles to navigate...
No set plans to return to the States just yet. I'm bandying about various ideas about a US workshop tour or a conference later this year, but that's all still very brainstorm-y and dependent on where I am with product development / site traffic / press, & various other things. Don't want to get ahead of myself, and I don't think site traffic is close yet to where it'd need to be to put together reliable numbers for a US tour, though it's been increasing at about 50% / month all year, which is good. If that trend continues, the picture might be clearer by late summer, but all very up in the air. I guess basically, there's a lot of "it depends" when it comes to travel itineraries.
Wish I could be more specific, brother. Just a whole lot of uncertainty on my end location-wise right now...
Chase
Exact situation I'm finding myself in.
Fantastic site dude! 1st date, started with coffee, she then asked if I'd like to find somewhere to have lunch with her, something must have been going right. Everything good but I've found it really hard to get her out of polite conversation. 2nd date tonight and she said rather than going out, why not let her cook for me and watch a film. So shes obviously thinking something good about me. So I'm off to hers this evening. I hope she starts chatting more and asking me stuff. I'm am always very polite and gentlemanly. Might have to be more forward and not so reserved, mmm the dilemmas!
Update to post on 29/03/13
Great girl, amazing cook, nice pets, lovely house, similar interests to me. Great, but I just couldn't get her to talk, that in turn made it more difficult for me to make anything more than polite conversation. I'm sure she wasn't very good at eye contact. She never asked me any questions in return. We snuggled up on the sofa, watching a good film, but nothing. All very confusing, no chemistry! I feel for once, it wasn't my lack of confidence but her inability to chat. I can see why she is single, which is a crying shame. Nicest girl I every met! DOH! Better try and find someone else...
Once again, cheers this is a good site!
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